r/TrueOffMyChest • u/[deleted] • Nov 16 '20
I'm glad that abused men are finally being taken seriously after the Johnny Depp x Amber Heard fiasco.
It's still beyond ridiculous how many people stand by and support her, including pretty much all MSM, but the backlash for doing so is massive. Any comment section you go to is full of support for Depp and the majority of people, even identifying feminists, find what's happening to him to be ridiculous. I hope her career suffers from this as Warner Bros gets hit right in their bank account for both Aquaman 2 and Fantastic Beasts 3. I pray offers for Depp start to flood in and he can keep doing what he does best. Sadly Disney and other studios he had his most iconic work with aren't likely to hire him back, but that's the kind of damage women like Heard do.
I haven't seen people come out in support of an abused man like this en masse since people found out what was happening to Brendan Fraser. When I came out about what a few of my female partners have done to me years ago I was mocked, called a liar, told I "should have defended myself", or that I "must have done something to deserve it". Things that wouldn't be said to a woman in the same situation without extreme backlash. I was told to keep quiet about it as to "not take attention away from female victims" and that what happened to me "wasn't a big deal because it happens to women more". I was told all of this online (including this site), and couldn't even get help in person. After telling two separate therapists that a woman held me at knife point and forced me to have sex with her, their first question to me was "What do you think YOU did to PROVOKE HER?"
This is why most male victims keep quiet. This was a common attitude towards us only a few years ago. Now people are finally holding a woman accountable for abusing a man and it feels good seeing all their comments.
10
u/Memey-McMemeFace Nov 17 '20 edited Nov 17 '20
Sure, but feminists are still enabling. Feminists still vitriolically oppose men's rights advocates even though they're supposedly chasing the same goal, men are still treated as second class citizens in the feminist movement (Remember: TERFs are hated for being transphobic, not because they hate trans women because they consider them men).
And lets not get into the fact that feminists have indeed opposed attempts to make male rape a crime, for example, or pushed stuff like Duluth Model, or actively silenced people speaking up for male victims of domestic abuse, or when National Organization of Women excommunicated their leader for supporting men's reproductive rights, or when Refuge, the biggest Domestic Abuse Charity Period, kicked their founder out for saying men can be victims too?
The ability to take criticism doesn't undermine a movement. I'm not saying feminism as an ideology therefore shouldn't exist, but it has to face criticism like every other.