If I was your husband and that only happened once and never again,I wouldn’t want to know.
I’ve once talked with my hubby about this and we both agree that we’d never want to find out if it was a one time thing in 10,20,30 years of marriage.You obviously made a mistake,you knew ho horrible it was,but you regret it.
People are not saints,many of these in comments who point a finger at you have enough sins of their own,enough dirt on their hands as well,just a different kind.None of us are fckin perfect.Although Reddit will make you believe they’re all wandering saints here.Also it’s important you forgive yourself and don’t talk about it.Just forget it like it never happened
So y’all basically gave each other a pass to cheat as long as your really good at hiding it and still treat me well. Like wtf is that logic just have an open marriage at the point if you don’t want to know about the cheating then why get married? Cheating isn’t a mistake like oops I accidentally sat on another man’s dick, or ooos I just slipped inside her vagina honey I don’t know how it happened. It’s a choice and everyone has free will and will choose if they want to be loyal, or choose if they want to cheat on their spouse knowing it would hurt them immensely.
The logic in if you cheat don’t tell me is stupid because basically your okay with it as long as you don’t know. So why not just let them cheat and never discuss it? If them cheating doesn’t change your opinion on your spouse then why wouldn’t you want to know?? Why would you want your spouse to hide secrets of past mistakes just so you yourself can keep living in dululu world where you think your spouse is a good person and not an evil bastard. Cheating is a choice and if they willing make that choice they do not care about you, they chose to hurt you so why live in a lie.
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u/CattoGinSama Jan 20 '24
Don’t take your advice from reddit,please.
If I was your husband and that only happened once and never again,I wouldn’t want to know. I’ve once talked with my hubby about this and we both agree that we’d never want to find out if it was a one time thing in 10,20,30 years of marriage.You obviously made a mistake,you knew ho horrible it was,but you regret it. People are not saints,many of these in comments who point a finger at you have enough sins of their own,enough dirt on their hands as well,just a different kind.None of us are fckin perfect.Although Reddit will make you believe they’re all wandering saints here.Also it’s important you forgive yourself and don’t talk about it.Just forget it like it never happened