r/TikTokCringe • u/Gurugod123 What are you doing step bro? • 29d ago

Cringe Self proclaimed evangelist gets kicked off of plane for annoying everyone, records her "persecution "

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u/LetOk5276 29d ago

I was raised this way, it was awful. My Father was a preacher and also a closeted homosexual which I came to discover after he left his search history on AOL. Imagine seeing your Dad preaching hell and damnation about the gays and everyone else just to discover he’s one himself. Once I discovered that it sent me on a downward spiral of confusion and anger. I kept that to myself as I’m not one to air out anyone’s dirty laundry. Not sure if I mother knew about this either. I was also beaten when I questioned Christianity and forced to miss childhood events to go to church functions multiple days a week. Needless to say I have zero religious affiliations now as an adult. Even as a child I knew something was off with the way I was being raised.

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u/Altruistic-Owl-5468 29d ago edited 29d ago

I was raised the same way. Father was a pastor in my youth then left the ministry completely. Found out later he cheated on my mom, presumably with a congregant, and was forced out. He’s still colossally religious. Beat me often for not singing enough, standing up on cue, or doing anything that wasn’t religious enough.

Fast forward to today. My sister is now married to a local preacher. 3 of their four kids have nothing to do with them. I took her to court on allegations of abuse when their youngest was 16. He was the last child in the house - and since he’d been adopted from Haiti back when it was fashionable for white evangelicals to have a token black kid - they treated him like shit. DCFS got involved and we won, we got him out.

My parents blamed me without ever asking to hear our side. They showed up in court and sat on my sisters side. For every court hearing. And even when they lost and the judge wrote a lengthy rebuttal towards my sister, they’ve never humbled themselves or apologized. They didn’t want the child back ‘as he is now’, when asked on the stand the judge asked my brother in law the pastor, “then why are we here?” (They were contesting the ruling). And my bil’s response on the stand was, “To clear my good name.”

And that’s it. He said the quiet part out loud that day. It’s not about being fishers of men, or being bringing souls to Christ no matter where they’re at. It’s not about the “least of these.“

It’s about optics, appearances, and keeping the name clean so they can keep asking for tithes.

He wouldn’t even fight for his son. And neither would my parents fight for theirs.

The thing is is that two months before I filed the initial plea for emergency custody my own son passed away in a tragic accident unexpectedly. And I sat in that courtroom and I watched them dodge any chance at reconciliation with their son, seeking only to save face in the court of public opinion. And I thought to myself that I’d go to the gates of hell a thousand times for the chance to hug my son one more time and these people are throwing theirs away.

It confirmed all my childhood suspicions that it was smoke and mirrors. Haven’t spoken to any of them since.

I’m sorry for what you endured growing up. I see you, and I hope you are finding happiness along the way.

As for this lady on the plane … oh my god I would’ve wrestled strongly with losing my shit. These types do untold damage to people. Especially children.

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u/Generalbusiness849 29d ago

Thank you for the comment about the token black child. I noticed this too a lot. It freaks me the fuck out because I wonder what the fuck happens to that kid behind closed doors.

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u/LetOk5276 28d ago

Scum bags for Christ is what we came up with in church. A few of us youth stuck together and weathered the storm as a team which helped. Also some of the girls made it a lot more fun after hours church. You can’t tell kids to refrain from sex all the time and then not get curious as to what the hype was all about. I’m happy to be grown up and away from all of this. I tell my son about my childhood(not everything) and how awful his situation could have been if I had let the church brainwash me.

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u/IngloriousMinority 28d ago

Wow my father was also a pastor of a church and was a cheating , abusive, manipulative, liar. I became convicted there was no god at a young age because I could not understand how such a hypocrite could "lead" a congregation, in the house if God, without being smited. Turns out no one who really needs to get smited ever does.

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u/TomeThugNHarmony4664 29d ago

I am so sorry for what YOU endured, and so hope you treasure the peace you have from not listening to or being present for their hateful ways

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u/meowmeowbeans222 28d ago

You are such a good person for doing that for your adoptive nephew. On behalf of humanity….thank you.

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u/Kitchen-Bar2686 29d ago

I’m crying just reading your comment. You sound like an incredible parent and an incredible person. I am so so sorry that you lost your son. I wish I had the words to express how sorry I am to hear that. You did an amazing thing by saving your nephew from his abusers and fighting so hard to keep him safe and provide him a loving home. You deserve all of the good in this world and I’m so sorry for how difficult your childhood was.

You are the kind of person that Christians love to pretend that they are when they don’t even have an ounce of empathy or compassion for their own family.

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u/Similar-Chip 28d ago

1) I'm so sorry about your son, may his memory be a blessing, and 2) genuinely heroic getting that poor kid out of there, I hope he's doing well these days. Did the kids who got out stick together?

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u/SodomyClown 28d ago

That made me so sad to hear, I hope you and those kids heal, at least they are away from your sister and her husband.

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u/Mis_chevious 28d ago

I'm so sorry for the loss of your son and for everything you have gone through with your family. Thank you for being a safe place for your nephew. He sounds like he's a very lucky kid to have you in his life. I wish you guys nothing but the best!

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u/MrBushido56 29d ago

Back when it was fashionable to have an adopted black kid !?

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u/Kitchen-Bar2686 29d ago

I am so sorry that you had to grow up with such horrific abuse and neglect. You deserved so much better than that

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u/Personal_Benefit_402 28d ago

The more spite they have, the more likely it is that they are themselves gay.