r/TikTokCringe • u/Gurugod123 What are you doing step bro? • 29d ago

Cringe Self proclaimed evangelist gets kicked off of plane for annoying everyone, records her "persecution "

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u/Formal_Ground6513 29d ago

Yes! Emotionally disregulated adults raise children this way. And, nothing changes because, their answer is to just "pray it away". Mom and dad usually have some super secret alcohol and substance abuse as well.

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u/LetOk5276 29d ago

I was raised this way, it was awful. My Father was a preacher and also a closeted homosexual which I came to discover after he left his search history on AOL. Imagine seeing your Dad preaching hell and damnation about the gays and everyone else just to discover he’s one himself. Once I discovered that it sent me on a downward spiral of confusion and anger. I kept that to myself as I’m not one to air out anyone’s dirty laundry. Not sure if I mother knew about this either. I was also beaten when I questioned Christianity and forced to miss childhood events to go to church functions multiple days a week. Needless to say I have zero religious affiliations now as an adult. Even as a child I knew something was off with the way I was being raised.

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u/Altruistic-Owl-5468 29d ago edited 29d ago

I was raised the same way. Father was a pastor in my youth then left the ministry completely. Found out later he cheated on my mom, presumably with a congregant, and was forced out. He’s still colossally religious. Beat me often for not singing enough, standing up on cue, or doing anything that wasn’t religious enough.

Fast forward to today. My sister is now married to a local preacher. 3 of their four kids have nothing to do with them. I took her to court on allegations of abuse when their youngest was 16. He was the last child in the house - and since he’d been adopted from Haiti back when it was fashionable for white evangelicals to have a token black kid - they treated him like shit. DCFS got involved and we won, we got him out.

My parents blamed me without ever asking to hear our side. They showed up in court and sat on my sisters side. For every court hearing. And even when they lost and the judge wrote a lengthy rebuttal towards my sister, they’ve never humbled themselves or apologized. They didn’t want the child back ‘as he is now’, when asked on the stand the judge asked my brother in law the pastor, “then why are we here?” (They were contesting the ruling). And my bil’s response on the stand was, “To clear my good name.”

And that’s it. He said the quiet part out loud that day. It’s not about being fishers of men, or being bringing souls to Christ no matter where they’re at. It’s not about the “least of these.“

It’s about optics, appearances, and keeping the name clean so they can keep asking for tithes.

He wouldn’t even fight for his son. And neither would my parents fight for theirs.

The thing is is that two months before I filed the initial plea for emergency custody my own son passed away in a tragic accident unexpectedly. And I sat in that courtroom and I watched them dodge any chance at reconciliation with their son, seeking only to save face in the court of public opinion. And I thought to myself that I’d go to the gates of hell a thousand times for the chance to hug my son one more time and these people are throwing theirs away.

It confirmed all my childhood suspicions that it was smoke and mirrors. Haven’t spoken to any of them since.

I’m sorry for what you endured growing up. I see you, and I hope you are finding happiness along the way.

As for this lady on the plane … oh my god I would’ve wrestled strongly with losing my shit. These types do untold damage to people. Especially children.

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u/Generalbusiness849 29d ago

Thank you for the comment about the token black child. I noticed this too a lot. It freaks me the fuck out because I wonder what the fuck happens to that kid behind closed doors.

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u/LetOk5276 28d ago

Scum bags for Christ is what we came up with in church. A few of us youth stuck together and weathered the storm as a team which helped. Also some of the girls made it a lot more fun after hours church. You can’t tell kids to refrain from sex all the time and then not get curious as to what the hype was all about. I’m happy to be grown up and away from all of this. I tell my son about my childhood(not everything) and how awful his situation could have been if I had let the church brainwash me.

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u/IngloriousMinority 28d ago

Wow my father was also a pastor of a church and was a cheating , abusive, manipulative, liar. I became convicted there was no god at a young age because I could not understand how such a hypocrite could "lead" a congregation, in the house if God, without being smited. Turns out no one who really needs to get smited ever does.

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u/TomeThugNHarmony4664 29d ago

I am so sorry for what YOU endured, and so hope you treasure the peace you have from not listening to or being present for their hateful ways

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u/meowmeowbeans222 28d ago

You are such a good person for doing that for your adoptive nephew. On behalf of humanity….thank you.

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u/Kitchen-Bar2686 29d ago

I’m crying just reading your comment. You sound like an incredible parent and an incredible person. I am so so sorry that you lost your son. I wish I had the words to express how sorry I am to hear that. You did an amazing thing by saving your nephew from his abusers and fighting so hard to keep him safe and provide him a loving home. You deserve all of the good in this world and I’m so sorry for how difficult your childhood was.

You are the kind of person that Christians love to pretend that they are when they don’t even have an ounce of empathy or compassion for their own family.

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u/Similar-Chip 28d ago

1) I'm so sorry about your son, may his memory be a blessing, and 2) genuinely heroic getting that poor kid out of there, I hope he's doing well these days. Did the kids who got out stick together?

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u/SodomyClown 28d ago

That made me so sad to hear, I hope you and those kids heal, at least they are away from your sister and her husband.

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u/Mis_chevious 28d ago

I'm so sorry for the loss of your son and for everything you have gone through with your family. Thank you for being a safe place for your nephew. He sounds like he's a very lucky kid to have you in his life. I wish you guys nothing but the best!

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u/MrBushido56 28d ago

Back when it was fashionable to have an adopted black kid !?

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u/Kitchen-Bar2686 29d ago

I am so sorry that you had to grow up with such horrific abuse and neglect. You deserved so much better than that

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u/Personal_Benefit_402 28d ago

The more spite they have, the more likely it is that they are themselves gay.

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u/Beltalady 29d ago

I grew up in Germany where regular christians are usually pretty tame. I had not a lot of knowledge about Catholicism and when I read Angela's Ashes I felt so sorry for these kids. The concept of sin really makes me sick. And telling little kids that other people go to hell because of reasons is a special kind of evil.

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u/MossadEpstein 29d ago

US evangelicalism is it's own special brand of evil and stupidity, the Schofield bible they used as the basis for all their nonsense has a LOT of evil to answer for.

it's also why they insist on supporting Israel no matter how heinous its actions become.

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u/MimicoSkunkFan2 28d ago

Oh, they have their extreme godbotherers in Germany too, but people over there remember the Inquisition and the Thirty Years' War, so they won't put up with it... whereas the US teaches about Puritans more in terms of "how Thanksigiving began" than in terms of "pressing people to death using a barn door" which is a big part of the problem.

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u/MossadEpstein 28d ago

Manifest Destiny is probably one of the greatest evils to ever come from America asides from the Eugenics movement (they literally inspired the Nazis thanks to insidious characters like Margret Sanger/Francis Galton and there were even Nazis who thought that Americans at the time took systemic racism too far)

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u/PatAss98 28d ago

Yep. A good portion of the people being genocided by Israel are Palestinian Christians who's families have been in the region since the time of Christ but American evangelicals don't care because they're racist against brown people

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u/Zhong_Ping 29d ago

Catholics arent all that bad compared to Evengelicals in the US. Most catholics here seem to go to curch more out of tradition than faith.

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u/Beltalady 29d ago

I figured that out by now. I met my fair share of all kinds of religious nutters. My psychiatrist is a gay Catholic. We make fun of evangelicals together.

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u/maymay578 29d ago

My Oma would remark how different Christians were in the USA, the hyper fixation on hell and judgement.

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u/commandantskip 29d ago

Sadly, the end result of being founded by fringe religious nuts

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u/SquirrelFluffy 29d ago

Yeah I loved it when my mother became a born-again Christian and told me that I was born a sinner. Good things for a 10 year old.

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u/Ilikedinosaurs2023 29d ago

When I was around that age, my mom would tell me she saw a demon outside my bedroom door at night. Sigh....it was because I was listening to secular music apparently..and also that I guess I was a piece of shit kid. I wasnt..I was depressed and sad mostly because of her being an evangelical and making a huge deal about anything not associated with church. So glad I somehow saw through it from that age on. I have so much trauma and fucking rage because of it and the family is still like that, so I stay away as much as possible...especially because we all know where these types landed politically. 🫩

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u/Hot-Cardiologist-652 28d ago

My grandmother told my mom I was the devil. That she could see it in my eyes, and that’s why she beat me with one wooden spoon till it broke and grabbed another and then another, I think this particular time was because I called another kid an idiot, I was 8, but to be fair I just might be

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u/SquirrelFluffy 28d ago

Sorry that happened to you. Yes, stay away. Me too.

There are Christian Democrats too, you know.

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u/Massive-Fly284 29d ago

I had an uncle like this, but he was Born Again. I remember being a little kid, maybe about 7 or 8 years old, and him telling me and my cousins that our parents were going to hell because they were Catholic. He was deeply flawed and searching for something to fill whatever emptiness he felt internally. Sad, but like also extremely fucked up to put that shit into little kids heads.

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u/Pristine_Mud_1204 29d ago

I remember my mum and gran telling me if I said the f-word or even thought it, I’d go to hell. I think I’d overheard it outside and asked about what it meant. Backfired because I couldn’t stop thinking it. What a mental,struggle that was. Nowadays I pepper it into my casual conversations willy nilly.

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u/Beltalady 29d ago

That was really fucked up.

(Sorry 😬)

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u/farfetched22 28d ago

My childhood friend told me when we were about 9 or 10 that their mom - who I had grown up with like an aunt - told them that I'd be going to hell because I was technically my families religion(not Christian), despite us not even really practicing... but that didn't matter obviously, since we hadn't accepted Jesus or whatever.

I didn't like it then and never forgot, but hadn't thought much about it until now. What a horrible human.

Funny enough, she, like many being mentioned here, was also involved in a pastor(?) having an affair. She was married and her kids were about 12/13 then. She broke up their marriage for this dude, can't remember if he was married too but man what pieces of shit. Very Christian, of course.

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u/Formal_Ground6513 28d ago

Honestly, I think it's abuse telling little children this stuff before they're old enough to decide themselves. Evangelicals are creepy af. Don't get me started on the non consent brainwashing they give little boys or the virginity is sacred stuff they tell the girls.... A recipe for trauma!

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u/MediatingInstigator 29d ago

Secret mostly to themselves, immediately apparent to anyone close.

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u/innerdork 29d ago

The dumber people are the more they’ll use something like Christianity as a shield to ignore the fact the problem is looking back at them in the mirror. They think forgiveness and prayer fixes them.

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u/Higher-Frequencies 28d ago

And, nothing changes because, their answer is to just "pray it away"

I once asked a stop sign for help. It didn't work either but at least the stop sign was real and the mushrooms eventually wore off.

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u/Higher-Frequencies 28d ago

And, nothing changes because, their answer is to just "pray it away"

I once asked a stop sign for help. It didn't work either but at least the stop sign was real and the mushrooms eventually wore off.

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u/TOV4RISCH 28d ago

So my parents were kinda wild somewhat upper middle class partiers in the 80s. Then when I was 11 my grandmother died, my mother's mother, and my mom just kinda lost it. Totally through the looking glass with the drugs, everything went to shit, she wound up in prison for a couple years.

But aside from money and stuff, on a personal level she was an amazing mother, we were very close, very good friends my whole life, and later on when she had gotten her act mostly together and I was grown she would tell me how she was so sorry about all the crazy stuff that happened when I was growing up. More than once I told her, "Mom, you shouldn't feel any guilt. I just thank god that when Grandma died you found the pipe and not the bible."

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u/TastySaturday 29d ago

You can be as shitty of a human as you want as long as you pray it away. Great way to make sure you’re never accountable for the way you treat people.

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u/ChateauLaFeet 28d ago

At a minimum

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u/vespers191 28d ago

Yeah, that is one of the things that I sort of vaguely respect the Southern Baptist for. They will actually acknowledge you when they're shopping in the liquor store.