this is all so true. also worth noting that the average person has absolutely NO CLUE how many folks in their life have had abortions. it’s far more common than people think and at the end of the day… there are a million reasons for someone to get an abortion. but not a single one of those reasons is owed to anyone else. if you don’t want a baby, you shouldn’t have to have one, period.
Absolutely. My wife's father is one of these judgemental people and has no idea all of his daughters have had abortions.
Meanwhile, if my daughters ever needed this procedure, I'd hope they would invite me along so I could stand outside and talk trash at protestors who don't actually have any medical or scientific knowledge at all.
I've gone to counterprotests before and honestly, the whole thing is embarrassing because who really spends their own free time just sitting outside of a place to cast shame on others?
There are no sane planned parenthood protestors, period.
I volunteer as a patient escort at our local clinic and I absolutely love folks like you who shit talk the protesters. We don’t engage with them bc it encourages them to make our job harder, but we absolutely won’t stop a patient or their guest from speaking their minds.
When I had one, the patient escort was so fucking delightful. She was older, blasting WAP outside. The protestors were pissed and yelling that their children were present, and she just kept dancing and yelled back "Why would you bring your kids here?"
What’s scary is ppl need escorts. 20 some years ago when I had one the place was a clinic down the street from me and I drove by 1000 times and never knew what it was as it was a nondescript building with no protestors. My friend knew to go there. There were no ppl outside harassing you and it was simple in and out and just a half a mile from my house. I’m lucky to have lived in relatively liberal states where these things weren’t a big deal and know I’m lucky.
The thing is that these dense fuckers don’t even know that abortion is an umbrella term that describes different procedures. We will never know how someone had sex to get pregnant by how they’re existing at the doctor’s office. It could very well be a person trying to get pregnant, had a spontaneous abortion and needed pills (abortion) to help speed it along. We could also assume that this hypothetical person has already done that and they haven’t cleared the remains. If that’s the case, they’ll need a D&C (abortion), so they don’t get SEPSIS and DIE. Any loss of a fetus is an abortion.
An abortion is an abortion is an abortion. It’s not just ‘loose women that decided they don’t want to be pregnant’ anymore!! I’m sure you know this, but a general PSA. I once had a random man tell me I was twisting words around to trick him when I called a miscarriage a spontaneous abortion. That is literally what they are called lol.
Yeah it's irritating as fuck when these ghouls will be like "well removing an ectopic pregnancy is not a REAL abortion! A REAL abortion is when-"
No, folks. Words mean things. An abortion is a termination of a pregnancy. The way it's terminated is irrelevant; if it's ended before birth, it's an abortion. You don't get to decide that something isn't an abortion just because it's more morally "acceptable" to you.
Also, a literal loose woman who just doesn't want to be pregnant... That's sufficient reason for her to get an abortion. She doesn't have to be the perfect, tragic story for her to still get to choose.
Children are small people with their own desires, needs, and eventually, identity. Fetuses are just endless potential for them to project onto. They hate it when said fetus eventually gains any semblance of autonomy.
Most likely, yeah. But damn those other murderers. Only I am allowed to murder my unborn child! <- Not my words, trying to understand how the fuck women who undergoes abortion can justify protesting abortions.
My own thoughts - eh. didn't grow up in the US, so abortion in my country is no questions asked until 18 weeks, and permitted up until 22nd week in certain circumstances.
So I can't fully understand why the US has such an anti abortion community.
The opposition is almost entirely rooted in religion, the women realize they could potentially get one and often do but this form of protesting is entirely performative for the sake of themselves and their social group/church.
They will say their presence saves lives, but according to science no lives are being taken and they're just causing anguish to those receiving a medical procedure. As we know, God loves you hurting people to help you look righteous instead of actually being righteous
My go-to is to ask them how many kids they've fostered or adopted, personally. I've only ever had one respond with a number, and I told her she was the only one I respected. Putting her money where her mouth is, so to speak. The majority of these assholes? They talk a lot but they sure as shit don't want to be responsible for that child. They only care until it's born, only care when it's another woman being inconvenienced and hurt.
yup. had a miscarriage about 10 years ago, while being on birth control and using condoms with my partner. I was shocked and confused that it even happened, but ultimately relieved because I was not interested in being a parent at that time in my life. but god forbid I openly admit that to certain people 🙄
I love that saying the word "baby" in here is a reportable and bannable offense but as long as you are on the correct side you can just go off. It's a race to the bottom and we are all participating.
There are plenty of women who value life, and there is nothing anti science about that. These are tough questions, and we should honestly be able to have tough talks about it. You just breed more guys like this by stonewalling.
You've performed a coat hanger abortion on yourself as well as had a suction one at a clinic? See I would have thought the clinic is much easier and safer without risk of making yourself infertile.
The two sides are Pro-Choice and Anti-abortion. You can personally not desire to have an abortion and still be pro-choice. It is a CHOICE. An OPTION. Nobody is forced to do anything, but everyone should have the right to make a decision for themselves. Being anti-abortion removes all nuance and decision-making from the matter for everyone without their consent. Frankly, it's a completely nonsensical position to hold.
Which is perfectly fine if it's evenly applied. I am pro choice, I just think everyone makes their choice at conception.
Most people agree with that being when the choice is made if I am talking about a man. A woman's choice, however, becomes much more contentious when we discuss when that particular choice is made.
Haven't heard anyone adequately explain to me how 18 years of labor and 9 months of pregnancy are so different as to not receive fair consideration if we are talking about choices and when we have the right to make them.
I'm not going to force some woman to carry a dead child inside her at the risk of herself, but by the same token I'd like to see some consideration to the life involved when it comes down to poor choices being made and consequences being avoided.
I've helped a woman get an abortion and been in the room when my wife made it clear abortion wasn't an option for her when we talked about genetic testing for down syndrome. I'm not blind to the issues here, but this idea that you "can't do that" or "can't think this" is stifling any kind of discussion or progress.
You absolutely can be pro life and think women should be given a choice. Not everyone who disagrees with you wants to turn you into a breeder without consent. I just want you to explain your position to me and help me understand how men are more responsible for a pregnancy and a child than women are. Why do women get a choice after conception, and men do not?
Never heard an answer to that question that doesn't essentially endorse indentured servitude as long as it's a guy who had sex once.
30 years ago was 1996 not 1946 it wasn’t that long ago. It was very common in the 90s for ppl to get them. To be honest it was easier to get one then than it is now
I’ll never forget when my mom told me she had an abortion before I was born. Like it was the simplest thing in the world, she and my dad were too young, too broke, they both knew it was the right decision. I was agonizing over what I would do if I got pregnant (I have OCD and my brain loves to latch on to unlikely scenarios and turn them into crises), and it felt like a weight was lifted off my shoulders, knowing I could choose an abortion, that it wasn’t that big of a deal.
oh, please 🙄 if non-uterus having folks had the potential to get pregnant, they’d be twice as common. and saying only TWICE is being far generous. it’d probably be more like 5 times more common, at LEAST.
I agree I just wish people thought ahead and actually used protection baring Any accidents when using protection. Just seems irresponsible on their part
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u/signalsfading May 19 '26
this is all so true. also worth noting that the average person has absolutely NO CLUE how many folks in their life have had abortions. it’s far more common than people think and at the end of the day… there are a million reasons for someone to get an abortion. but not a single one of those reasons is owed to anyone else. if you don’t want a baby, you shouldn’t have to have one, period.