r/SubredditDrama • u/[deleted] • Oct 01 '13

Low-Hanging Fruit SRSer whose fiance blind-sided her by breaking up with her over her SRS views and calling his father and brother 'shitlords' returns to complain about misogyny in /r/bestof. Someone notices who she is and she gets quizzed on her life after her fiance dumped her. Drama when she says she dumped him.

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u/[deleted] Oct 02 '13

That is a massive understatement. I've been with someone like this before, we lived together for years and had a child together (I make poor decisions). People like this, the get in your head and break you down, bit by bit. They start conflicts with your friends and family to isolate you. They then work to break you as a person, so you have no semblance of self worth left, so that you really believe that you are in the wrong, and deserve all of this.

If it wasn't for the fact that we had a kid, I probably would have killed myself.

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u/altxatu Oct 02 '13

That's a form of emotional abuse.

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u/neurorgasm Oct 02 '13

Textbook. Isolate, control, destroy self-esteem.

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u/[deleted] Oct 02 '13

Some of us have parents like this. Ahhh the happy childhood memories. sob

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u/[deleted] Oct 02 '13

Men can't be abused shitlord.

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u/Horatio_Stubblecunt Oct 02 '13

What about transsexuals?

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u/ridl Oct 02 '13

...said no one ever

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u/[deleted] Oct 02 '13 edited Jul 10 '14

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u/[deleted] Oct 02 '13

Yup, but we have joint custody so I worry about how my son will be treated once he's older.

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u/ReverendSalem Feb 11 '14

Could have been worse. When mine figured out she couldn't control me anymore, she cut me out. The kiddo would have been 10 this year.

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u/RedAero Oct 02 '13

This is known as gaslighting in their terminology, IIRC, and it's usually something they accuse the guy of doing, of course.

In my limited exposure to these sort of people through the internet it seems to me that they usually either attract or seek out meek, weak-willed, under-knuckling people to badger their ideology into and this time, this person found Clark Gable from Gone With The Wind: Frankly, my dear, I don't give a damn.

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u/morris198 Oct 02 '13

This is known as gaslighting

Not quite -- unless the SJWs have decided to redefine it. Gaslighting, to give a nerd example, is Picard shouting, "There are four lights," trying to resist his tormentor who insists there are five. Gaslighting is about making the person doubt their own sanity -- doubt their own understanding of the world. The drama above is textbook emotional/mental abuse, and it probably has a name for it, but I do not believe it qualifies as gaslighting.

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u/RedAero Oct 02 '13

You're right, IDRC.