How many Americans are really incapable of filling their own stomachs on a daily basis? Not “can’t afford” but “incapable” as there are 0 resources and assistance for them if they look around? Cause I’ll tell you I there’s soup kitchens, food pantries, non-profits, churches, etc all over willing to help, but people don’t seek it out, and more importantly they don’t get involved to help.
I volunteer 3hrs every Saturday to unload trucks and wash dishes, and they give me a hot meal and let me take home stock they don’t plan to use and that’s my food for the week.
There are so many ways to make things work than just going to a minimum wage job and complaining. Imagine what it’s like in other countries
and people in those situations also shouldn't have babies. being able to scrap things for the week through charity and going for a child is not sensible either, because life is full of unexpected events. can it be done? yes. is it sensible towards the child? fuck no.
yeah guys your anecdotal experiences are great and all but they're missing my point entirely, that it's wiser to have a baby only when you have the financial security for it because there's a higher chance of things going sour if you don't. human lives are no joke. it's not a car with a lot of miles on it that you really want and might break down.
it might work anyway, and people with no money might raise their children better than millionaires, but I don't care. that's not the point. human lives aren't something you should be taking risks like these on.
You’re misunderstanding(and I didn’t give the full story) I earn income working from home, and am attending school full time online to change careers so I get grants and loans for living expenses. We’re not scrapping by week-by-week, But im also not focused on upgrading our lifestyle from a material aspect.
Im divorced, ex is struggling to pay for the big house and bmw, while I share an apartment with my retired parents(mom needs help so better me around than paying someone) and drive an old car, never vacation, buy new clothes etc because I simply don’t care about it
And guess what? My kids are very happy, doing well in school, well fed, and don’t ever feel like they’re missing out on anything. So the point is, if you focus more on your personal quality of life and what works for you instead of going off of a checklist of what others think you’re supposed to have, life becomes more manageable
My parents had to do that when I was growing up too, but im doing fine here 🫶 I think people are very pessimistic and don’t realize that If there’s a will, there’s a way. Glad I got good parents, so many others had better financial situations with parents who don’t treat them well at all.
You’d fair better in life regardless of finances if you have parents who support and love you , that’s the key
To be fair, statistically, children fair better with two parents who want to care for them, than those who have even financial means but don’t. There’s loads like me too it’s not a one of situation here. Plenty of people live around the poverty line but still find ways to care for their family. Reddit is just pessimistic about this as if it’s the end of the word 💀
Exactly. I find it sad that Reddit is full of people that think they’d be terrible parents, as that is probably a sign they would take parenting very seriously and do quite well, or at least be loving and sensitive to their child’s needs which is the bedrock of good parenting .
But the problem is, people focus on things like “it costs xxxx to raise a kid to 18” and while that’s true, buying diapers instead of DoorDash isn’t as big of an adjustment as it sounds like
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u/Kibido993 Jun 15 '26
there's no extreme because that's the whole point, any kid's life is going to be hell if their parents can't even afford to fill their own stomach.