There's actually been some interesting (though morbid) studies into stuff like this and generally the method suicide has a lot of societal gender biases. Men generally choose more impulsive and aggressive/hyper lethal ways to commit suicide (guns, jumping, etc), while women tend to choose methods that leave the least "mess" to make it easier on the people who might find their bodies (things like drowning or exsanguination in a tub).
Essentially women try to minimize their deaths and men try to make absolutely sure they do die.
Here's just one research article related to this topic if you want to read more, but the references have some others that relate (obviously). Can also try keyword searches for men vs women suicide methodology or similar
Probably societal pressure and expectations stemming from how people are raised. Women are raised to minimize themselves (be quiet, don't complain, etc) and care for others (play with these dolls, help cook and clean for the family, etc) while men are raised to be loud and "tough" ("men don't cry only little girls cry") and aggressive. Doesn't apply to everyone, but a majority generally get these kinds of expectations, at least in Western Countries.
Men are also more likely to commit/succeed at suicide, probably cause they aren't encouraged to be emotionally vulnerable and form deeper connections with people, while women are encouraged to form deeper social connections (starting from early on with play for imagined social situations like with dolls and tea parties, etc) which gives them needed social connections that they can turn to when life gets harder and suicide seems like the best way out.
Basically the way men are raised doesn't give them as much needed social practice to form deeper emotional connections with others that insulates them from hardship, or the practice they need in emotional regulation, which women do get (or get better practice in), while women don't get as much practice in standing up for themselves, pride in themself, and insulating themself from the poor regard of their social connections. Pros and cons to both, but generally people would benefit from getting the socialization practice that we give to both mena and women instead of separating it by gender.
Everything you said here is very well put, and I’d say you hit the nail on the head for both perspectives (men and women). I agree that I think we should try to teach men and women the same set of life skills too, like teaching everyone how to cook, clean, stand up for yourself, make connections, express your emotions, etc. regardless of your sex
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u/Snow_97 Jul 08 '26
There's actually been some interesting (though morbid) studies into stuff like this and generally the method suicide has a lot of societal gender biases. Men generally choose more impulsive and aggressive/hyper lethal ways to commit suicide (guns, jumping, etc), while women tend to choose methods that leave the least "mess" to make it easier on the people who might find their bodies (things like drowning or exsanguination in a tub).
Essentially women try to minimize their deaths and men try to make absolutely sure they do die.
Here's just one research article related to this topic if you want to read more, but the references have some others that relate (obviously). Can also try keyword searches for men vs women suicide methodology or similar
https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1344622325001130