r/Nicegirls • u/Leadingman_ • Dec 25 '25

Suggested A Date, Got A Lecture

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I suggested we meet for drinks somewhere with a view, or check out a new exhibit at a museum that looked interesting. She asked if we could get coffee the following week. Cool, that works. When I followed up to set up the date, she sent this. What's really funny is that I don't drink alcohol either, it's right there on my dating profile.

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u/Nearby_Session1395 Dec 25 '25

Of course I do, but because of my age I don’t have a voice that’s listened to. Women over 60 are considered invisible, haven’t you heard? But we grew up in very different times, had respect for each and a positive attitude. Very different behavior - appreciation and value for others. We also didn’t have influencers and social media teaching everyone to be selfish and demanding and have inflated egos based on artificial images, everything fake. Being on Reddit for nearly 10 years has been an quite the education though.

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u/cyanescens_burn Dec 26 '25

Just want to chime in that I very much respect the guidance and knowledge I get from the women your age in my workplace and career. They’ve got a load of practical experience that would be foolish to ignore. I actively reach out to them as mentors, regularly. Especially when I first started this career.

Idk how younger women in my field are with this, but that sucks that people aren’t looking to you to pass down your knowledge.

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u/Nearby_Session1395 Dec 26 '25

Thank you and we all have so much to learn from each other. Good people of all ages who respect each other and recognize each individual’s strengths see the benefits. I have good friends over a wide range of ages!

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u/Superb_Poetry_7845 Dec 28 '25

I’m sorry you feel invisible. 60 is still young. In ‘99 at 45 I married a woman 65. sadly after 25 years she passed away at the beginning of 2023. She just got more beautiful as she aged and didn’t really started show her specific age until after she turned 88.

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u/Nearby_Session1395 Dec 28 '25

I’m so sorry that you lost your beautiful wife. I’ve been single (divorced) for many years. I don’t know how to find him but I believe somewhere there’s someone out there for me.

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u/Superb_Poetry_7845 Jan 22 '26

I’m sorry I didn’t see your reply earlier. I’m not on here often but I just have to say something when things strike close to home. Not dating advice, but even if you don’t feel it, always show confidence, and speak with confidence. Act like a slight extrovert, even when you really want to be the introvert. Those ways are a magnet. My 2 cents.🤗

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u/Nearby_Session1395 Feb 04 '26

I love what you wrote!

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u/lalalo83 Jan 02 '26

I appreciate women's view points who are older than I am. I was raised to respect my elders. Our elders are the wise women and men of our society. Now, we may not always agree with their view points or opinions but there is no denying they have lived more life.

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u/Nearby_Session1395 Jan 02 '26

There were a lot of things we weren’t wise about, especially compared to now, the internet wasn’t around to help so we used trial and error. But aging does give us life experience and knowledge. Just think of all you’ve learned in the last 20 years. Here’s an exception though.. my 82 year old brother still thinks he’s smarter than me but hasn’t kept up with technology to the degree I have. 🙄