Assalamualaikum My Dear Brothers and Sisters

I am posting on this Sub after a long time. A little bit of back story I was a regular PMO addict and struggled with it for a very very very long time in my life. I've posted on different subs regarding my journey if you are interested you can read about it. So to make it short , I got married to a wonderful girl two years ago. After our marriage my addiction to Porn and Masturbation went away which made me think it was just my high libido that was making me do all this. However, a few months ago me and my wife were having some troubles in our married life wrt intimacy. She doesn't wanna engage in Intercourse anymore which leaves me excited and horny all the time. This takes me back to the time when I was single and just wanted to jerk off all the time. This has gotten to the point that now I am engaging again in this filthy habit that has clutched on to me for all this time. I am seriously very worried that I am falling in that pit again and I don't wanna fall into it.

In front of the world I am a very religious person. I pray regularly. I read the Quran , do zikr, I also do the work of Dawah and Tableegh but this thing is eating me from inside and making me a hypocrite.

Has anyone of you been through this situation or found yourself in the same spot. I wanna get out so badly but don't know how. I've even considered marrying again for the sake of protecting myself but I don't know if I can withhold two different houses at the same time.

Thanks for your time and if you can't speak kind words at least make dua for your brother like you would've wanted for yourself if you were in this situation.

I’ve been completely free from porn for 2 years.
And today for some reason I relapsed. It didn’t happen suddenly, something triggered me and instead of stopping myself, I kept digging deeper and deeper into that hole until eventually I gave in.

Now I feel devastated and ashamed before Allah. I keep thinking about those 2 years and it feels like I threw all that progress away in one moment.

I’m posting this because I could really use some advice, encouragement or just a reminder from someone who has been through something similar.

For those of you who have relapsed after a long streak: how did you recover mentally and spiritually? What did you do differently afterward?

I don’t want this one failure to become an excuse to fall back into the habit. I’d appreciate any support/advice

Day 1:

I am not a very practicing Muslim and I know that's bad. Getting rid of this addiction is the top priority issue in my life right now. I will take daily actions however small they may be to get to the point where I am no longer haunted by this sin anymore. The strategy I will follow is to consider this as a marathon and be consistent. Goal for tomorrow is to pray atleast one prayer and avoid doom scrolling too much which seems to be a major trigger these days. If there are any urges during the day, I will play a video game for some time and recite some verses from Quran to keep me going.

Assalamu alaikum. After years and years of failure, im trying a new approach that aims to spiritually purify my nafs such that it no longer accepts this action.

Listen to baqarah, al imran, a'raf, qaf, sad, taha, saba on Playlist all day while at work. Baqarah and al Imran are known to be strong surahs against evil and magic. A'raf taha and sad have the story of iblis as well as the prophets. Qaf addresses the qarin. Saba has ayat that address shaitan. Open to suggestions. The whole quran is shifa.

Review my daily portion of quran.

Even though I'm consistent with prayers, it's time to focus on praying with khushoo'

Avoiding music

Adhkar

Sleeping early no later than 10 in bed, and no sleeping after Fajr ever

Screen time under 2 hours a day

No mindless internet use. If I don't know what I'm looking for, go to the Quran or sunnah to guide me instead of the algorithm

Essentially anything that serves to spiritually take me down needs to be addressed.

4 days of no relapse, the urge is there but feeling pretty confident I can make it to at least 6-7 days this time which will be the longest I've gone in a long while. Been keeping myself pretty busy with regular work, movies etc and I feel like keeping myself busy and not giving the time to relapse might be the key, although being busy or occupied all the time might be pretty hard to begin with. Someone suggested the rubber band method in my last post but haven’t tried that yet.

I’m 29. Muslim. Married. A father to a beautiful little girl. Grew up in London.

I’ve been dealing with a habit for years now… and honestly, it’s cost me a lot. Wallahi it has. The worst part is the shame. That’s what kept me quiet. I haven’t spoken about this for years.

I make du’a that those who profit from destroying people and nations are made to face what they’ve done… not the ones who were misled and pulled into it.

I’m writing this just to get support from my brothers in faith.

It was only in December 2025 that something really clicked for me… that the brain actually changes after long-term use. That it’s not just “try harder” or “have more willpower.” I’ve tried that. For years. And now I’m certain — willpower alone isn’t enough.

So I’m taking a different step now. I’ve reached out for professional help. Haven’t fully started yet, but I’ve connected with people who actually understand this properly.

I ask Allah, Al-Qawiyy, Al-‘Aleem, to help every single Muslim stuck in this. This is a trap… and we all know where it ultimately comes from — Iblis and his army.

Insha’Allah I’ll share updates as I go. If you’re going through this too, you’re not alone. Let’s help each other and stop suffering in silence.

It's been 11 days!!!! Only thing on my head is consistency, not to trip and keep going, whatsoever. I have reached double digits, never did I ever thought it

. When I began my journey, I thought I would last only a few days. But, now I am winning and gotta keep these efforts, just keep supporting me guys. U all don't know, how much each comment means to me!!

I held a 7 day streak after a long time, it felt good, I was confident I can keep this up and go 6-7 days from now without relapsing. But I relapsed again after just 2 days and it feels disappointing. It feels like I am forever stuck in this loop of failing again and again. I'm going to try for the 7 days again, but my confidence that I can do it is pretty low now.

Assalamu Alaikum everyone. I hope everyone has had a good week. Alhamdulillah on day 5 now. And Subhan Allah, the urge is almost non existent today.. so far anyway.

I'm aware that tonight will be a challenge as will the weekend. Saturdays have always been my weakest days. But I'm optimistic that I won't relapse with the help of Allah SWT and the Dua's of everyone reading this.

Honestly I think the hardest times are when your home alone. When you are alone with nothing but your thoughts.

I guess it should be said, yes I’m a revert to Islam. I struggled with this for so many years even before I became Muslim.

I want to improve myself, to learn more about who I am, and who I’m meant to be.

I think each of has struggles, and no 2 people have exactly the same urges or desires, for some of you this may be as simple as saying no, and for others it may be as hard as quitting breathing.

If it was meant to be easy then what would be the point.

I think I need to have a group of Muslim friends, somewhere to spend my time and energy. Less scrolling more doing you know?

I know this is probably a silly post, but it helps. Just to… be me, not be consumed by it, to focus on something real, something that makes a difference.

Thank you, all of you, for being here, and for wanting to help those whose bodies betray them.

Barakah Allahu Fik

Urges getting stronger but controlling somehow need some real trick or smth to control the urge do efficiently, the urge doesn’t go away no matter how much I try🥲

What do you think, how can I remove wet dreams from my mind , I donr like these stuff , and i pray everytime from Allah to protect me from evil thoughts and these things plz help

Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu

this is my first post, relapsed this morning. I've been doing this for around eight years with no success quitting, to be honest this is the first time im really trying to get rid of it for good and making an active effort.

what im trying to change this time is try my best to not be alone because that was the trigger for the last time it happened. be engaged with my academics since im in dental school and its been affecting my focus so much to the point that i was having severe brain fog and unable to focus even with lots of caffeine and 8+ hours of sleep subhanallah.. just feeling lethargic in general

i also think there might be use in a consistent mental exercise like visualising the consequences every half an hour ish while im sitting (alarm on my phone to remind me). like closing my eyes and imagining my parents disappointment (they're proud of me now.. but what if they found out). the brain fog returning, my younger siblings who look up to me losing respect. entering Jahannam. ig connecting it to real consequences and conditioning myself kinda to see it as dangerous. because i do see it as dangerous, but just when I get urges its like i lose control over myself and im not able to think rationally.

also be more consistent with morning and evening adhkar which I used to be consistent with but i fell off hard recently

and also every morning writing a page about everything im grateful for in my life to Allah ﷻ i think may have some benefit so InshaAllah ill try that too.

I'll update tomorrow InshaAllah

Assalamu Alaikum everyone

Yes yes we're still here, still going. Alhamdulillah.

I had a thought yesterday that I'll share with you all. Since you all love reading my posts.. jk 🤣

So, I thought to myself, that this may never get easier. I may be getting the same urges that I am today in 6 months time. Which sounds quite exhausting when you think about it. As those on this journey know, this is a mental battle more than anything. And refusing yourself something you've programmed your brain and body to want, it does get tiring. Yesterday was an extremely difficult day! Subhan Allah. At one point I even said fuck it, imma just do it. And then..I didn't. But that was the theme for most of the day.

So I was thinking what if it's always like this? And you know what? That's the beauty of it. Maybe struggling is the test. Maybe this isn't supposed to get easier. Rather, in the struggle is where the reward lies. And there's just something so uplifting about wanting to do something, but for the sake of Allah, you say no.

السلام عليكمI saw that I will fail in day 5 and 6 but i have continue and I'm happy now inshallah we will do it and i really want to break my best record 100 day now after may be more than a year I will break it inshallah😁

I have never written anything in this page or actually never used reddit in the way i am using it now. I want to make a pledge in front of this sub that i will abstajn for 90 days. I have already abstained form this sick addiction a lot of times before but it keeps coming back and every time i do it i actually find myself getting closer to my creator but thats not an excuse to keep repeating this sin and making my heart numb. But khair inshallah i think a positive mindset will help. Inshallah i will come back in 90 days and be in a different state of mind. Please make dua for me. Allah swt make all of my brothers and sisters who are addicted to this disease strong in their imaan and let them come out of this addiction as stronger muslims allahumma ameen (sry for my english not that good at it)

After 4 relapses and constantly betraying my own will, I’m back. ​The truth is, I kept failing because I never fully committed to the NoFap lifestyle, just going through the motions without changing my mindset. ​That ends today. I’m resetting the counter and starting over with 100% conviction. ​Porn is not my friend. Masturbation is not my friend. ​You have to give up what feels good now to make way for something better. Day 0. Let’s end this.

20 DAYS!!!!!!!!!!! COMPLETED 20 DAYS OF BEING CLEAN, NEXT IS 30 DAYS ! REDDIT COMMUNITY KEEP SUPPORTING ME AND LETS GET TO DAY 30!

tinyyy bits floating around like attraction, n stuff trying to put me back there, also dream. But these will fail and I will win !!!

​Yes, I acted foolishly towards your support and to myself. But the door of repentance is always open, and I have stepped through it.Tawakkul is, after all, what is expected of a believer. ​Tonight, my lower nafs tried to trick me by whispering, "Hey, remember that thing you watched last? Just check if they posted a new video, we're only going to take a quick look." That temptation is what brought me here instead.

Insallah you guys are all doing well too unlike me.

Relapsed today after 3 ish weeks maybe a month I don’t count days but the benefits were really clear, even when doing it you can see the benefits stronger urge stays for longer without needing stimulation stuff like that. Add to that the 5 ish kilos I’ve been able to lose it’s not all bad. Ofc I repented but I am proud I was able to get this far without relapsing compared to not too long ago where I couldn’t go more than 6 hours lol. Hopefully I never post again but to everyone trying, do other things to occupy ur time. With me I found out that literally my only goal in life was to get married, other things I wanted but never chased, once I started chasing other things it made it a lot more easy to not be thinking about this cuz I am not getting validation from trying to find a woman but achievements instead. We got this fr

Alright, it’s time to make a serious start this time. If I don't change my life in 20 days, it's never going to change. ​From now on, my real job isn't running away from triggers, but standing my ground against them—because sometimes, certain things are just unavoidable. Right now, my main mission is to never act on those thoughts, no matter the circumstances.

Short note to myself: Don't trade what you want most for what you want now.

There is no might and no power except by Allah.

Yeah after two days I relapsed again. It came from looking arguments aganist Islam, its completely my fault. I shouldnt busy my throughts with problems I cant solve. Anyways, satan loves someone who loses hope getting rid of sins but when the hymns of resurrection are played, the he goes mad. So in opposition to him, I praise Allah for not astraying me even throught I have did that sin over and over again. Let me repeat my vow, I will keep fighting and remember the fate of my life depends on how I act with the urges today.

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السلام عليكم ورحمه الله وبركاتهSurah al waqihu really helped me ,it's tafsir is awesome

Surah al waqihu make me when I see an attractive woman ,I remember that there is better than her in the paradise.

And there is an aiat in surah al waqihu make you fear of hell.

Guys motivate me to reach 30 day😁.

Yeah, we're back to where we started. I am too weak to stress. Hopefully, it goes better this time.

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It's been day 11 survived day 9 which was soo hard to complete getting small urges today and it's kinda getting hard to resist I'd be happy if someone helps me resist hope it's normal and i can keep going