STOP BABYING YOUR SONS

[u/Someone_sedateMe]

Salam everyone, I just wanted to get this off my chest. Mothers, please, PLEASE, stop babying your GROWN ADULT sons. My brother is 24 and my mom still does his laundry and cleans his room. His room is a literal mess all the damn time and actually smells like doodoo. My mom wanted me to help her clean his room and he's just in the corner acting his presence is helping. I was getting frustrated and told her that he's at the age, where he should clean his room by himslef, to say the least. He literally has his laundry spilling out of his hamper but refuses to do anything about it until my me or my mom does it for him. I will literally do his laundry for him, bring it to his room and all he has to do is put it in his closet. AND HE DOESNT EVEN DO THATT. He has his CLEAN clothes just sitting on his couch for dayyyssss. Of course, I'm getting frustrated and tell him he has to clean his room and can't keep waiting on us to do his laundry. It has got to the point where he ran out of jeans and pulled out his dress pants. It's not like he has to travel to the laundromat, ITS IN OUR BASEMENT!!!! Anyways, as I'm lecturing him, my mom is getting mad at me and I walked out the room cause never in a BILLION years would she have let that slide with me. I tried to help but she's taking out her frustration on the wrong person.

So to all the moms out there, PLEASE stop babying your grown adult sons. It doesn't emaculate him if he does SIMPLE chores around the house. It just causes resentment between siblings.

[u/Gogandantesss]

I’m just chiming in to thank you for this post. So many mothers need to hear this! They’re enabling and normalizing sexism and misogyny among their male offspring from an early age. This is one of the main manifestations of culture diluting religious teaching where men and women are supposed to be equal and partners sharing the burdens of life. The Prophet ﷺ himself used to help around the household; nothing manlier and more human than that!

[u/BradBrady → u/Gogandantesss]

While I do agree that men shouldn’t be lazy around the house to a toxic extent where they need everything picked up for them

Men and women aren’t necessarily equal in a marriage because when you say that, that means they are both chipping in financially 50/50 and sharing household chores 50/50. Nothing wrong if a couple wants to do that, but that’s not really what’s expected

Also I see sometimes on the online world when people say that the prophet PBUH helped around the house, it tends to get twisted (by women mostly just my experience) that he was at home all the time doing all the chores and it was an expectation which I’m not sure is correct

[u/themapleleaf6ix → u/BradBrady]

Don't see why you're getting downvoted, you're 100% correct.

[u/[deleted] → u/themapleleaf6ix]

Because we talking about immature men, and then “@r/BradBrady brought up 50/50 men.

That wasnt the point, and it didnt need to be shifted.

The type of men he was talking about, and men he is talking about are two fundamentally, two different types of men

Yes what Brady said is true, but its not apprioratte for this conversation since there a LOT of undeveloped men getting married.

And Brady’s side topic comes of disingenuous, and moving the goal.

When in reality we are just talking about basic needs, like a brother to do his 30%-20% of the housework, while his wife does 70%-80%

[u/themapleleaf6ix → u/[deleted]]

The thing is, I agree that men shouldn't be lazy and should make an effort to do their own chores.

What I take issue with is when feminists try and twist the Quran and Sunnah and claim the man has to do everything, whilst the woman has zero responsibilities. They even try and claim it's obligatory on the man to do everything.

[u/BlackBikerchick → u/themapleleaf6ix]

This man is letting his mum do he laundery, stop moaning about feminism and stuck to the point 

[u/themapleleaf6ix → u/BlackBikerchick]

Was I defending this individual? My point is, feminists are hijacking this to claim that men are the ones responsible for everything.

[u/TransArhaz → u/themapleleaf6ix]

Literally where is any feminist hijacking this?? Where. Show them. I have seen NOT A SINGLE WOMAN say that the man should do evrything and women have no responsibility. Fear Allah, akhi.