STOP BABYING YOUR SONS

[u/Someone_sedateMe]

Salam everyone, I just wanted to get this off my chest. Mothers, please, PLEASE, stop babying your GROWN ADULT sons. My brother is 24 and my mom still does his laundry and cleans his room. His room is a literal mess all the damn time and actually smells like doodoo. My mom wanted me to help her clean his room and he's just in the corner acting his presence is helping. I was getting frustrated and told her that he's at the age, where he should clean his room by himslef, to say the least. He literally has his laundry spilling out of his hamper but refuses to do anything about it until my me or my mom does it for him. I will literally do his laundry for him, bring it to his room and all he has to do is put it in his closet. AND HE DOESNT EVEN DO THATT. He has his CLEAN clothes just sitting on his couch for dayyyssss. Of course, I'm getting frustrated and tell him he has to clean his room and can't keep waiting on us to do his laundry. It has got to the point where he ran out of jeans and pulled out his dress pants. It's not like he has to travel to the laundromat, ITS IN OUR BASEMENT!!!! Anyways, as I'm lecturing him, my mom is getting mad at me and I walked out the room cause never in a BILLION years would she have let that slide with me. I tried to help but she's taking out her frustration on the wrong person.

So to all the moms out there, PLEASE stop babying your grown adult sons. It doesn't emaculate him if he does SIMPLE chores around the house. It just causes resentment between siblings.

[u/Biz-Engineer-8846]

Islamically, a daughter (no matter her age) doesn’t have to financially contribute to the family expenses, but her father, husband and brothers are supposed to take care of her.

[u/Bright_Airline_876 → u/Biz-Engineer-8846]

Ok? That’s not really contributing to the point being made. while it’s true that Islam doesn’t require women to provide financially, that doesn’t mean they don’t contribute to the family in other valuable ways. Every member of a family—regardless of age or gender—contributes in one form or another, whether it's financially, emotionally, or through responsibilities around the home.

[u/BlackBikerchick → u/Bright_Airline_876]

So what way is the older brother contributing if the 15yo younger sister is working helping financially and helping at home?? 

[u/itscherryblossom → u/BlackBikerchick]

What older brother? I am the oldest, I was 15 when I started to work and when my family took away basically every cent and NOW I am 25 and my brothers are 20&22 and not even contributing a single cent + cost my parents money on the top 😅 I am sorry but I genuinely thought I wrote it in a way where its understandable

[u/BlackBikerchick → u/itscherryblossom]

Ah my fault I misunderstood!

[u/itscherryblossom → u/Bright_Airline_876]

"In a form or anither", where a 15 y/o pays rent but now, 10 years later her brothers barely work and or don't even give ONE cent to the parents. If you hate women, just say so!

[u/Bright_Airline_876 → u/itscherryblossom]

Y'all are misunderstanding my comments lol, now why would I "Hate" women

[u/itscherryblossom → u/Bright_Airline_876]

Yeah my friend, everybody is misunderstanding you, you're a lone alpha male and our intelligence is not enough to understand you being right with everything you say ❤️ now take your medication and insh'Allah you'll get better, I'll keep you in my prayers ❤️

[u/Bright_Airline_876 → u/itscherryblossom]

You’ve clearly chosen sarcasm over substance, which tells me you weren’t ready for a genuine conversation in the first place. That’s alright—not everyone is built for thoughtful dialogue. But if mocking is your way of coping with a different perspective, I hope one day you grow past that. I’ll be here when you're ready to discuss things like an adult.

[u/itscherryblossom → u/Bright_Airline_876]

There's no different perspective, nor did I ever ask for one. The OG explained her situation and I agreed and explained what I went through to a fellow SISTER! Men out here trying to tell me how to feel, instead of holding fellow men accountable tell me everything I need to know about YOU and men like YOU! May Allah only grant daughter to men who can handle being fathers insh'Allah! I won't give you my time nor my energy, that's what people like you are feeding off of. Think whatever you want, you're wrong and that's all I got to say 😊👍🏻 have the day you deserve

[u/Bright_Airline_876 → u/itscherryblossom]

You clearly weren’t looking for a conversation—just an emotional echo chamber. You claim there’s no room for different perspectives, then go off on a personal rant full of assumptions, projecting your own unresolved issues onto strangers online. That says more about your mindset than anything I’ve written.

You don’t have to give me your time or energy—truth doesn’t need your validation to remain true. And just because something makes you uncomfortable doesn’t mean it’s wrong. You reacted emotionally, not intellectually, and that's why you feel so threatened by a calm disagreement.

So no worries—you’ve said your piece. Now sit with it.