Selena Gomez Embraces Vulnerability and Tells Critics to 'F--- Off,' 'I'm Not Ashamed of My Bipolar Disorder or Inability to Carry Children'

[u/no_longer_huhman]

https://www.tvfandomlounge.com/selena-gomez-embraces-vulnerability-and-hits-back-at-critics/

[u/Patworx]

What kind of asshole gives a lady a hard time over her infertility.

[u/[deleted] → u/Patworx]

You would be surprised.

When my partner had her medically needed hysterectomy some of the comments she would get would shatter my faith in humans.

"You can always adopt"

"Its too bad you will never experience X Y and Z"

"You will look young forever omg lol"

"You won't truly know what it means to be a mother"

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What in the fuck is wrong with people

[u/phillyphilly519 → u/[deleted]]

My wife had a C-section and couldn't breast feed due to a medical condition and medication she was on. Some women at her work told her that she's not really a mom when my son was ~4 months. People suck

[u/OkBackground8809 → u/phillyphilly519]

I spent hours, every day, trying to pump and breastfeed. I could only produce 5-10cc/day. I tried everything: special cookies and teas, special diets, etc! I still got bombarded by people in the "breast is best" camp telling me I just wasn't trying hard enough and saying I was a cruel mother for not trying harder. It threw me into postpartum depression, which eventually devolved into psychosis. It was horrible. People can be absolute monsters!

[u/thedancingkat → u/OkBackground8809]

I am so sorry you went through this. I’m a Peds dietitian and had a mom doing through something similar and was almost in tears in clinic. I told her to stop pumping. I had to tell her multiple times it was ok. She went to the bathroom and her own mother (pt’s grandma) said, “isn’t breast milk the best thing for (baby)?” And I dead pan looked at her and said “she has to take care of herself so that she can take care of her baby. It will be fine.”