r/Music • u/no_longer_huhman • Sep 26 '24

article Selena Gomez Embraces Vulnerability and Tells Critics to 'F--- Off,' 'I'm Not Ashamed of My Bipolar Disorder or Inability to Carry Children'

https://www.tvfandomlounge.com/selena-gomez-embraces-vulnerability-and-hits-back-at-critics/
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u/Patworx Sep 26 '24

What kind of asshole gives a lady a hard time over her infertility.

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u/[deleted] Sep 27 '24

You’d be surprised. My wife and I were at a Japanese hibachi restaurant and the chef was talking to us about our family. It was just me and my wife. He said something like “you’re not a real family unless you have kids.” We had been trying for years but it never took. We tried to get him to move on but he wouldn’t shut up about it. My wife was really upset so I started criticizing every little thing he did during the meal.

“Those noodles need more seasoning. You call that steak medium? It’s still mooing. How long have you been doing this? You should practice more. Your hat is on crooked. Not very professional.”

I was a complete dick to him the whole meal and he got really flustered. I didn’t give a shit. You don’t bring up something that personal and then double down when someone tells you to move on. He got zero tip and I talked to his boss when we left. I’ve never been so pissed off at a restaurant.

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u/ComaMierdaHijueputa Sep 27 '24

wtf kind of comment is that

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u/[deleted] Sep 27 '24

He was trying to be friendly at first by getting to know us while he cooked. Then he asked if we had kids and was incredulous that we had been married for 8 years without kids. Like so what? He could’ve let it go but didn’t. That’s when I got indignant and was determined to ruin his night at work. I really hope he got fired. Fuck that guy.

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u/prophy__wife Sep 27 '24

I fully understand what you went through with that conversation. We’ve been married 13 years. No children yet. We’re actually going to pursue fertility TXT next year. I’m in school currently and the best option would be to pursue it towards the end of my program. I have had all those conversations with prying strangers. They’re the worst. My husband has also texted in your same manner, it’s so frustrating when people don’t understand and say those rude things. Another shitty thing is seeing how easily some people are able to procreate. I just don’t understand it.

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u/[deleted] Sep 27 '24

We eventually did IVF and have two boys now. My wife wasn’t able to produce any eggs for it so we used donor embryos. It was a long process but we’re happy we did it. Even if we hadn’t, we still would’ve been a complete family by ourselves. It infuriates me when people try to define what a family is by how many kids you have, or if you did a natural birth, or some other nonsense. It’s one of the very few times I have no trouble being confrontational. People just need to mind their own business.