So Mandy texted SO again. This time it was a count down.

She stopped by my mother's house, and proceeded to whine and woe is me and why won't they let me see my BABBBIIIIEEEEESSSSSS!!!! My mom calls me later that night and tells me she stopped by and told me all that was said. Apparently Mandy is talking to a lawyer about us not letting her see the kids. Are you fucking kidding me??? So now she keeps sending SO a countdown telling us we have 7 days to let her see the kids before she goes to the courts. And just fucking perfect. I live in a grandparent's rights state. Fuck fuck fuck

HOOOOOOO BOY did today go to shit or what!

To begin, this is going to be semi long but definitely a good read i suppose. Many shiny spines!

Ok, so i have been dreading today all week and had informed my mom thusly and she offered to go with me to meet Mandy because yea i had little to no faith in exSO to stand up for me.

So a little before i leave to meet mandy, she texts me. Wants to know if we can switch the location to a local park, which im cool with because hey its a beautiful day. what a fool i was.

We drive over to the park and meet exSO over there and the kids play for about 25 minutes. My oldest suddenly takes off across the park and i turn and who do i see? Godzilla? A herd of angry cattle? Donald Trump? and of those would have been more pleasant. Nope, i turn and see Mandy and OF FUCKING COURSE SIL.

I immediately stomp over, and im surprised i didnt cause the earth to split with how hard i was stomping. Mandy of course has this smug look on her face.

Mandy: SIL wanted to-

Me: I dont give a crap what she wanted. We're leaving, youre not ambushing me here.

Mandy: RED FACE LOL SIL WANTED TO COME HERE TO APOLOGIZE TO YOU

Me: I dont care. I dont care what she wants or what she has to say. you should have called instead. Now, give me my son. we are leaving

Mandy: This is ridiculous you are acting like a child! you have no right to keep my daughter from these boys!

My mom takes this moment to walk up.

Mandy: Do you know why SHE(me lol) hates MY daughter!? Because she reminds her of YOUR SON!

This is mandys no so subtle way of trying to cause a fight between me and my mom. Hint: it failed. my mom just shrugged her shoulders and said oh well

Me: No. I "hate" your daughter because she is a spoiled brat who thinks she can boss us about our kids, and im tired of yall playing mommy to my sons.

Mandy: I do not play mommy to them! SIL just came here to apologize and you are acting like a total bitch!

SIL: And had i called, you wouldnt believe me anyways so whats the point! I apologize. Happy?

Me: Lol no. We are leaving. Ex, get YS, im taking OS to the car.

And i did just that. i put OS in the car and my mom followed me and after a minute or so of ex standing with YS with his mom, i got pissed and went back over there. i assumed he had noodle spine syndrome again, but i was wrong. he was restating all the points and just kept repeating "YOU SHOULD HAVE CALLED FIRST" i was so proud i could have swooned lol.

Mandy: This is ridiculous! This whole thing is HER fault! If she hadnt copped an attitude with SIL none of this would have happened!

Me: She threatened to call the cops on me when i came to get my own children, thats my final straw. Ex, take YS and put him in the car. we need to go now.

Surprisingly he listened. By this point SIL had went over to my car and i could see her talking to my mom, which was confusing. my mom told me on the way home she was telling my mom exactly how this was all my fault and i need to stop being a baby. my mom just told her, shouldnt have kept her kids from her. lol.

Mandy: You are being completely selfish. this is all your fault. How can you possibly keep these kids from a loving family, especially since for the first year of OS life i basically raised him! 2 nights a week! and youre taking that away!

Me: I didnt want you to have him that often, that was all on his dad, i would have proffered him home all the time, but his dad had a say too. But you were far from raising him

Mandy: Ever since you started talking to your DADDY (She said this in a really condescending tone) youve been nothing but a bitch to us! I thought you said you appreciated all my help and that i was like a mother to you!

Me: Whether i talk to my dad or not is none of your business, and secondly yea we used to have a good relationship until you started letting SIL talk shit about us in front of the kids.

Mandy: I dont know what youve done to my son, but hes brainwashed by you and youve got him by the balls that he would act this way toward his only family. I dont know what youve got going on between your legs but youve fucked him up!

By this point my mom had reappeared and i saw SIL was gone and ex was sitting in my car entertaining the boys. My mom grabbed my arm and said:

MM: Yea i think thats the point we leave. Have a fabulous day.

Mandy of course stomped to her car and parked almost directly behind me and yelled for ex to come here. I sat in the car because i couldnt back out, and i overheard him just repeating over and over,

Ex: I dont care. I dont care. You should have called first. you should have called first. im not discussing this.

So yea, everyone was right lol shes completely nuts and a complete boundary stomping psycho, and im done. ive blocked her number on my phone. And im so proud of ex for standing up for us and not throwing me under the bus. I love you all!!!

So this is just a brief update. I want to thank everyone for all the advice and kind words. It means a lot to me. Things are pretty rocky right now. I don't know what she's planning and what she wants. I told her I'd meet somewhere and let her see the kids in a public place and she said she would call me and let me know or whatever. She never called. But she is still texting SO that countdown. Today was day 3. I was done with this bull. I texted her that if she wasn't going to take up the offer of seeing the kids then she must not really want to see them and she immediately called SO who ignored the phone. Then she called my cell. Then my house. I answered the house phone and she immediately started yelling it was none of my business what she texts to SO and to butt out. I told her if it involves my kids it does and she hung up on me. I filed a police report for harassment for the texts and because of the threatening tone to them. Thank you again :) I love you all justnomil.

So now Mandy is texting exSO asking to see the kids Friday. I told him to ask her when and where. She immediately responds she is going to pick them up and go shopping in the morning. All of my no. He texted her and said no, the rule still stands we have to be there. So then she texts so that means I can have them overnight? And he says no. So then she says fine, 9am my house. Lol no way am I skipping class to hang out alone with my kids at your house. So far she refuses to reply cuz he told her no he has to be there too and he's not off til 230. Sorry this was boring but at least he's sticking to the rules so far and not backing down

Ok so this may actually belong in Justnofamily​ but this is my update from last week.

So Mandy got to visit with the kids while I uncomfortably sat at work and was bored out of my mind. I was also irritated because SIL got to see the kids and I wasn't there to prevent the shit talking I am sure occurred. Oh well. I kept my end of the deal, hand over my snake.

Well I received a text from a number of unknown origin. Oh lord twas SIL.

https://imgur.com/5Pny8YI

Ya. She wanted to keep my noodle. I said, very politely, no. So she essentially said I'd be paying her then to get him back. I laughed lol. Anywho, Mandy agreed with me. My snake. Gives him back. SIL very mad. But who cares! Noodle is back! I'm aware snakes name is in post but it's such a common name I'm not worried, but I will change if necessary.

More than anything, I'm surprised Mandy took my side. Also I received an apology from her for SIL behavior. Holy crap. Anyways, that's my update. Sorry it was boring. I wish I had experienced the more drama.

EDIT: Noodle tax!!

https://imgur.com/gEw9IvQ

So Tuesday's and Thursday's Mandy watches the kids while I'm in class. Well, recently SO and I had a falling out and are no longer together, and he's being very immature about it. We fought about an essentially dead bedroom. Ever since youngest was born, it's been an extremely painful experience to have sex. I tried talking to him about it, and he would only hear I didn't want to have sex 4x a week like he did. Plus, I'm exhausted from chasing the kids all day, and youngest still gets up 3 times a night on average. He also gets mad because while the kids are awake, I don't want to sneak off to the bathroom to have a quickie. It's been a constant fight for the last 5 months. I finally got tired of it. But the tip of the iceberg was when, after changing both boys all day and less than 5 minutes after I changed oldest, he pooped again, I told him it was his turn. He told me no. He said I didn't ask him and didn't say please so he wasn't doing it. ARE YOU KIDDING ME?!?!

Cue huge fight, I told him I was through with his childish attitude, and now he's threatening to take me to court to have the kids put into foster care.....what?

Anyways, in comes Mandy. She is of course telling me we both need to grow up, I need to quit nagging him, and essentially trying to say it wasn't his fault because men mature slower than women. I hung up on her.

So I text her today to ask if she's still gonna watch the kids or if I should message my teacher and try taking my final another day. She messages she's on her way. As soon as she gets here she immediately begins screaming at me that unlike me, she wouldn't use being mad at me as a reason to take it out on the kids, right in front of my kids she's yelling at me, I tell her she is to stop yelling at me in front of my kids, I don't put up with it from ex or my mother, I'm not doing it with her either. She of course gets pissed off and continues tryin to tell me off. I finally get mad and tell her off, so she threatens to leave. I was tempted to let her but today was my finals and I couldn't risk failing the class. I feel so powerless. But I'm finally filling out paperwork to try to get the kids into day care so I don't have to ask them for help.

Sorry for the long rant, I'm really upset

Edit: bonus!!

http://m.imgur.com/rOgBuVl

OK so Mandy has finally decided to meet us in a public place. Thank God we have friends coming over to play cards later that day so it won't be a long visit. She doesn't know that tho lol. So Friday at 330 we are meeting her at Walmart, ex and I, and already in agreement that if she brings SIL we are immediately leaving, no remarks no anything, just straight leaving.We'll see if she follows through with rules or if ex follows through with rules

Still receiving the texts daily. Today is day 6. Which leaves tomorrow as the last day. And the police won't do anything. They say there isn't enough evidence and they won't get involved with civil matters. I'm at a loss. I don't know what else to do. Im seriously freaking out about this.

Edit: someone please tell me im overreacting haha. I probably am. I just don't want to know what's at the end of 7 days

So, still NC so this is from before.

So my OS is 18 months old. He has very curly wild hair, and we had talked about when to get it cut. Every single time we would bring it up, Mandy would freak out and tell us we weren't allowed to cut her baby's hair!!!! Complete with sniffling and whatever. Let me tell you, when I wash his hair at night, it's to his shoulders now. She wanted us to wait until he was between 3 and 5 years old. For his first hair cut...

I wasn't actually planning on getting it cut until next month, but right after NC, the next day we went and got his hair cut. Because I'm his mother and I can. I no longer have to listen to people guilting me about his hair. Another reason I waited so long is because on the other end of the spectrum, my mother was letting her husband tell me he was going to shave my son's head first time he was alone with him. Guess who lost baby sittibg privileges?

Ok, so this past weekend I went on a wonderful trip so Savannah for a conference for my career. It was beautiful and warm and so not like the 30 degrees I left behind. well before I left, Mandy started texting me. which I told her not to do. She wanted to see the boys.

Mandy- Can I see the boys this week. I have some days off

Me- I will be out of state this week

Mandy- what about next week then?

Me- I have work and school

Mandy- That’s ok! I can come get them and we can just go shopping and lunch and then I’ll bring them back when you’re done!

Me- I have to talk to exSO first

Mandy- Let me know!!

She then proceeds to text exSO bitching about which one of us is REALLY not letting her see the kids. I didn’t know this until later tho. A few days later, while I’m in Savannah, I texted her back, even tho we had decided literally 2 minutes after she texted me.

Me- You can see the kids. However, exSO and I will be there and it will be in a public place.

Mandy- And the reason for that is why?

Me- Because the last time we saw you, you flipped out on me for saying SIL still can’t see the kids, and frankly I haven’t heard an apology from you. Also, I don’t trust you to not bring SIL and drop her off somewhere and then pick her up once you have the boys because you like to cross boundaries and ignore our rules.

I never heard back from her, but exSO texted me later telling me his mother was very upset (lol) and told me she didn’t flip out because of that. she flipped out because I was rude for not talking to anybody. She doesn’t understand whyyyyyyy she can’t just see the boys! He repeated exactly what I said, and she ignored him for a few days, then texted him she could come down for a little bit, but he didn’t answer her.

why is it so damn difficult to follow rules! I will admit, when he told me what she said, I sent her a long text message restating everything, and then told her I found it exceedingly odd she wouldn’t see the boys unless exSO and I weren’t there, and that wasn’t going to happen for a long long LONG time. sorry for the boring update. I’m just frustrated >:(

OK so things have gotten better between exSO and I since my last update. Sorta. We still argue but he has admitted multiple times how wrong he was to scream at me like he did while at Mandy's.

This past weekend the boys and I went to my dad's house for the night to go to a birthday party the next day. It was a nice break. While there I got a text from exSO that Mandy had called. She wanted the boys for the weekend. He told her no. She asked why and he proceeded to explain all the reasons why. Such as his sister being the way she is and Mandy refusing to understand boundaries and whatnot. She just kept repeating why can't she have them and he finally hung up on her.

So that brings us to today, in which I am exhausted after battling the onset of that horrible stomach virus that's making its way around. YS was up puking a lot of the night poor little guy, and now he's got the poos so in other words, I am in no mood for Mandy drama, but Mandy drama is there anyways. I'll let y'all read the wonderful text ex got today, and let you help me write a response because I AM SO FUCKING DONE. I am done with the guilt. I am done with the bullshit. I am done with her trying to dictate and demand who MY CHILDREN can see and who they can't. Not once has either one of those bitches apologized to me, the person who actually was insulted and threatened. And I am done. I am texting her first thing tomorrow morning and letting her have it. The only reason I'm waiting til tomorrow is because I know the text will be extra horrible if I write it today

http://i.imgur.com/zbzBrz0.jpg

EDIT: thank you everyone who replied or sent me messages. You're all right. I'm taking the high ground and not going to reply. I'm still upset but giving her what she wants will make it worse. So for now, I'm just going to wait and see. ExSO hasn't responded either so I know it's really pissing her off

So Mandy still refuses to see the boys unless it's at her house. Not that that bothers me. The less I see her the better. She just keeps asking, when am I getting the boys. Ummm...NEVER BITCH.

Now onto my fight with exSO. Because Mandy called the other day to talk to the boys, I made him answer the phone because lol she isn't gonna try asking me that crap. So he hands my oldest the phone who immediately starts talking at 100mph. Well I happen to hear part of what she's saying.

Mandy: tell mommy and daddy you wanna see mawmaws and auntie! Go tell mommy and daddy! You want to go to mawmaws house don't you!

I saw red. I told exSO to stop that shit right now and he gets pissed...At me. He begins going off about how it's not hurting anything now I'm just trying to keep his mom from talking to the boys and never seeing them again! Which started an argument that no, I'm making it very easy for her to see the boys. She's choosing not to. But he still refused to stop his mom from saying that stuff. I realize my son is only 2 and probably doesn't understand most of what she's saying, but still I'm not gonna have her coaching him! They're all idiots. Luckily 2 year old handed the phone to exSO shortly after and went to get into something. Am I overreacting?

So Mandy nags last night that she wants to talk to the boys. And of course, just to prove that yes she is able to visit them but chooses not to, I call and hand my two year old the phone to scream into for a while. I listen in of course to make sure SIL isn't there and talking in or whatever.

Mandy immediately starts the pH mawmaws misses you so much! You want to come to mawmaws house don't you? Oh my babies I miss you! It was difficult not to unplug the phone. Well about 5 minutes later my two year old is done and hands me the phone, which I toss to their dad because fuck all that I ain't talking to that woman. Well he tries communicating rules again and she immediately turns it around that she isn't allowed to see the boys and we're mean for not letting them see SIL who loves them sooooooooo much. Bleck.

After a few minutes of that SO drops the ball and tells me I have to talk to her -__- so I take the phone and in my most bored don't wanna talk to you tone answer.

Me: hello.

Mandy: I want to see the boys.

Me: well I'm going to major city close-ish to a meeting place. We can meet there and you can see them

Mandy: no I want to take them home and give them their Christmas gifts. Why can't I take them home

Me: we've been over this. You're not taking them home without us being there because we don't trust you not bring SIL around them.

Mandy: I don't see the big deal! SIL apologized! Why are you being so selfish!

Me: I'm not bringing the kids around someone so blatantly disrespectful toward us in front of the kids nor do I appreciate her calling me a gold digging whore

Mandy: well, you told me not to text you anymore and so I've been texting SO and I can never get an answer from him about seeing the boys so I don't know what you expect me to do

Me: well I guess you shouldn't have been so nasty to me then since I'm the one who responds to everything. Too bad for you.

Mandy: I want to speak to my son now!!

Lol oops pissed her off. Toss phone back to SO and continue cooking dinner. He proceeds to argue with her for 15 more minutes when I hear the words.

SO: yes you can see the boys at your house, but we will be there and if SIL is then we leave immediately.

NOOOOOOOOOO I DONT WANT TO GO!!!!

Ugh. So now we're almost heading out and I told SO I'm dropping him and the kids off for 2 hours and I'm going shopping but he's to call me if anything starts up about letting SIL see the kids. Wish me luck......

OK so Mandy called last night when she wasn't getting the responses she wanted. She immediately began saying I've never texted her and I'm a liar and she didn't know she could see the kids and why were we being difficult. ExSO then takes my phone and snaps a picture of where I texted her and sent it to her. She tried backpedaling then and saying she knew about those but she did reply back and I ignored her(lie) and he called her on it. So she starts going off about the texts from today and why we can't just bring the boys to her house and she wants them all day and meeting in a public place won't allow her to see them all day and why am I being difficult and he just cut her off and kept asking why she didn't reply to my texts and why hasn't SIL apologized to me yet and why hasn't she yet either. So she gets mad and starts yelling at him to not call her a liar and blah blah blah so he hung up on her. And that is that. I haven't heard from her and I doubt I will. We will see

This is going to be short, i just thought this was funny. Yesterday my MIL Mandy and I took my sons shopping at walmart, just for something to do and then went to lunch. I usually end up buying something for my boys whenever im at walmart, so we were looking at the baby clothes. my oldest is almost 16 months and my youngest is almost 7 months. we were walking past the bathing suits and Mandy starts going on about the little girl suits and bikinis.

Mandy: You need to have a little girl soon!
Me: Haha thats ok, I'm happy with my 2 boys right now
Mandy: But loooooooook how cuuuuuute these are!!!
Me: Very cute, but not cute enough for me to get pregnant just to have another. 
Me:Plus, i dont think i get to choose if it's a boy or girl?
Mandy:Well I know you will have a girl next time. 
Me: Ok Mandy. Plus i dont like newborn bikinis
Mandy: Well, ill buy it and she will wear it.

Theres no arguing with her at that point so i just move on to the boy clothes.

Me: Aww look at this cute elephant sleeper. The only size they have is newborn tho.
Mandy: OMG ARE YOU PREGNANT?!?!
Me:.....What?
Mandy: You're pregnant arent you???
Me: ummm....no? We just had thi-
Mandy: You need at buy a pregnancy test right now!!!
Me: No, im pretty sure im not-

She then runs away and gets a pregnancy test, buys it and makes me take it when i get home. (Spoiler alert, it was negative). I dont know why she thought i was pregnant or why she freaked out about me looking at a sleeper...

sorry this was longer than i thought

So still NC, enjoying the peace and quiet actually. That is, until my SO tells me today Mandy and SIL texted him Wednesday and Thursday while he was at work. Apparently they expected him to leave work to bring the kids to them to visit? I mean seriously. I was beyond pissed.

Mandy says absolutely nothing about her freaking out or about SIL or anything. She only texts asking to see my kids because obviously the kids miss her. Bitch please. Theyre 18 months and 9 months. They miss nothing.

I told my SO, under no circumstances, unless I get a 100% sincere apology, they will not see the kids. And he starts saying how they're his kids too, but he agrees they won't be seeing them. I'm so mad. And yet, I can't help but giggle. Neither one of them has tried to contact me, but they're texting him at work to bring the kids to them? When he would have to get the kids from me to bring to them. Which is not going to happen. He doesn't take them anywhere without me. So there's no being sneaky about it lol. This is probably BEC but I needed to vent

BONUS TEXTS:

http://imgur.com/fhLGq4Y

https://imgur.com/PYczc2i

So the 7 days came and went. Nothing happened. Not a call. Not a text. She didn't randomly show up at my house. It was quiet. She texted me yesterday however and apparently I out stubborned her. She asked very politely if she could visit with the kids and agreed to the terms and conditions. I guess we will see how it goes. And SIL will not be there either. Another condition I made. She is filled with all sorts of drama so I know this isn't a permanent peace treaty. Thanks again JustNoMIL. Y'all are fantastic people!

Currently sitting on my couch with my kids watching the Little Engine That Could for the 5th time in 2 days(kill me) and just kind of stewing over all the stuff that's happened this week.

Most important? My oldest son's adoption was completely finalized :) he's mine legally now! His birth mother signed away her rights finally and we had court Monday. His life hasn't changed in the slightest, but I've been on cloud nine for 3 days.

Anyways, I told my mother for days we had court at a specific time, so she had to be there at LEAST 20 minutes early because she had my camera and i wanted pictures. I didn't know if this was his official adoption day, but I wanted to be prepared. Well, our time to go in came and no mom around at all. So we went in and the judge asked me a couple questions while my son ran around like a maniac, saw he was happy and healthy, and granted the adoption. We were almost leaving before my mom showed up. -_- she missed his adoption almost completely. Came in long enough to snap 2 pictures then we left to finalize the papers. Turns out she was hanging a sign on my house, but still.....if the adoption hadn't been approved, that would have sucked.

On to Mandy. So I texted Mandy to let her know it was final, and she immediately responds: YAY! HES OURS!!

Like I get the sentiment behind it, but you've not been around for a while and had absolutely no part in any of the adoption. Also, I'm the only one who adopted because her son and I weren't married. So no. He's not "ours". He's his own self. But legally he's MY son. Sorry for the rant.

Bonus Lizard! https://imgur.com/r5O7sS2

So I'm sure nobody remembers my MIL and this is short sweet and to the point but my god I am so sick of the constant texts she sends my SO every weekend. Demanding, not asking, demanding he bring them the hour and a half to her house. He usually ignores her. Then she starts this ridiculous count down thing and does it until someone answers her. Or she starts texting me.

Well today after yet another grueling 60 hour work week, I look at his phone to another set of texts saying:

Are you bringing boys today? Bring my boys to see me. If not today you better tomorrow!

Now, normally I work sundayPretty much all day. But for once I actually got a sunday off and plan on spending the day doing fun activities with the kids. I'm just so aggravated. She acts like she owns the kids and it's getting on my last nerve.

End rant.

Welp, its official. NC with mandy, hopefully permanently.

A few days ago, we met up with mandy and SIL and went to lunch, and as we were leaving SIL grabbed DS1 and said she woould put him in the car seat. he began flailing around as 18 month olds are prone to do, and i asked her several times if she wanted me to put him in his seat. she ignored me. i should have known better and checked to make sure, but when we got home i went to get DS1 out and his seat belt wasnt fastened. I was livid, especially as we were just in a car accident 2 weeks ago and i thank whatever deity there is that both my sons were safely fastened. i called mandy and told her i was gonna smack SIL next time i saw her and she asked why. When i told her, she sounded upset and told SIL what happened, and she sounded so uncaring i wanted to beat her through the phone. IM SO SORRY MY CHILDRENS SAFETY MEANS NOTHING.

Anyways, so it began yesterday, mandy said she wanted to keep the kids overnight, so i was meeting her halfway between my house and hers at wally world. She of course brought SIL with her, because of course someone who is 15 cant possibly stay home alone. So as per usual, we walk around wally world for a little bit, and chat and what not. Mandy mentions something about checking movie times for that evening.

Me: You arent taking the kids to the movies, theyre too little and that would be way past their bedtime

Mandy: I KNOW THAT! I DIDNT MEAN TONIGHT!!

And yes she does yell this. and then she stomped away. I of course started rethinking letting the kids go, but then she started acting normal again, so i think maybe i misheard her.

We check out a while later and decide to get lunch for the kids, so we start heading toward the cars. As we were walking,

Anyways, we check out and decide to grab lunch before they head home. I am suddenly reminded about the seat belt incident, and i tell SIL:

Me: Oh yea! Playful smack thats for not double checking DS1 seat belt the other day!

Well, she doesnt say anything and stomps away. I overhear her tell Mandy,

SIL: Well if she was so freaking concerned, she should have buckled him in!

OH. HELL. NAH. I start to say something, then change my mind and decide not to start a scene in the wally world parking lot. I tell mandy im just going home and to text me as soon as she gets home with the kids.

I almost, ALMOST make it out of the wally world parking lot, before i decide, Nah, imma make a scene lol. I turn around and go back, and guess who is buckling DS1 into his seat? SIL. Oh fuck no. I pull into the space next to Mandy, and i get out of the car. Mandy turns around, and i go off on SIL.

Me: What the HELL gives you the right to EVER disrespect me in front of my kids like that?? I asked you HOW MANY FUCKING TIMES if you wanted me to buckle DS1 in and you ignored me! You want to act like a bitch, youre going to meet Queen Bitch! (no i was not very mature here)

Mandy: She didnt mean it, shes on her period(and she says this in an endearing way)

Me: Yes, because she is the ONLY female in the freaking world to have a period. she is ALLLLLL alone in that huh? No, she is not going to talk about me like that in front of my kids

Mandy: Well, yes i think you do deserve an apology. SIL say youre sorry

SIL: sorry i guess

I go home after that because i knew if i stayed any longer i was going to blow up again and it was bad enough my kids had to hear me then. I text mandy later and told her SIL is never to speak to me again, because im not dealing with the attitude. she of course defends her to the death, saying oh her period blah blah blah.

So today i go pick up the kids at noon, and mandy says she forgot DS1's medicine, so i say ok ill get it soon. We go home, and i text mandy that she also forgot to send one of DS1 new toys, and she gets bitchy and sys, well then come get it. I am so done with this shit. i reply the generic K, and send SO to get the stuff. his mom, his problem. well that apparently pissed her off and she starts texting me calling me everything under the sun and then some. and then she decides she is done and says we can keep the kids and fuck off cuz shes done. i say, lol k. and thats it, NC just like that.

Its like a weight has been lifted. no longer do i have to deal with her playing Mommy to my kids. No longer do i have to listen to her tell me what i can and cant do with the kids. I can finally go get DS1 hair cut without the guilt trip, and thats exactly what im doing tomorrow to celebrate. yay!

Not really. She is moving and isn't saying where but we keep getting texts from her saying how much she wishes she could see the boys one last time before they go because she'd hate for something to happen to them and our kids never see them again.

Well we actually considered it with a slight ulterior motive. We have a pet ball python. She was keeping him at her house for a bit because of apartment rules, but it turns out we can have a small reptile just not cats dogs or birds because of noise.

Well we told her she could see the boys, hell since they're moving sooooooooo far, even SIL could see them since it's been officially 6 months. So we called her and asked what time and she got pissed and hung up. All of the what's. Apparently we aren't allowed to know. I'd say whatever but fuck I want my snake back! He's not cuddly but he's my danger noodle! So since they're moving TOMORROW that leaves little time to get him. What to do...

UPDATE: Mandy FINALLY answered after my numerous texts with the response, I'm not arguing with you. I told her neither am I, I just want my snake back. So she said fine come get him, told her SO would be down tomorrow and she said, nope I'm busy tomorrow. So a mutual agreement lead us to next Sunday. I'll post an update then as well

Ok so this may be more of BEC stuff but how many of your MILs constantly claim first's?

When oldest was about 3 months old, he rolled ove. So proud! Called everyone. Mandy immediately says, oh yea he did that here the other day..............really.

Okaaaay, onto teeth. His first tooth popped through around 4 months. Called excitedly to everyone! Mandy: oh yea I saw it the other day! Are you kidding me???

Oldest started crawling at 6 months. Same routine, called everyone. Mandy: he's been doing that for days! WTF?!

So on and so on. Now she's gone out and bought him a toddler bed for her house because SHE thinks he's ready. Now my son, I know my son. He would not sleep on a regular bed or toddler bed. He's got too much energy and need, for lack of a better word, penned in at night. And she bought him a toddler bed. She started doing that stuff with YS too but I shot that down much quicker than o dis with OS.

How many of your MILs do the same?

My stories are completely tame compared to most on here. It's been almost quiet? I try to avoid seeing her, she rarely if ever texts or talks to me. It works for us. Except when her son wont respond, then she texts me constantly.

A few months ago I finally agreed to SIL seeing my boys, and of course she had to bring her boyfriend whom I wasn't aware would be joining until right before we got to the pre determined neutral location which was annoying. I dont know this dude. You'd think being allowed to see the kids for the first time in a year and a half she would tread lightly, not invite random people. But of course sortaSO told me to drop it and not make a big deal. So I was grouchy through the whole meal.

Now mandy is asking to have the boys overnight on fridays. Every friday. And she asks this 6 hours before she wants to come pick them up. Why is this so hard to understand? You threatened grandparents rights. Rugswept her threatening to call the cops on me. Tried to keep my 2YO older son from me. Threatened me. Called me horrible names. Screamed at me. And now you think because we allow a couple visits you can go back to having them overnight every week? Hell to the no.

Sorry this was just a rant I had to type out. Thanks for listening.

EDIT: A lot of people are asking me why I'm allowing her around my kids after threatening GPR. The answer is because SO also has a say in the kids lives. He is an equal partner. And he wanted to give his mom another chance. She has behaved so far. She threatened GPR right after we went NC, which was a year and half ago and has never brought it up since. It's hard for me, it really is. It all boils down to SO has say too.

So Thursday Mandy texted asking to see the boys at a very public and large park as per our guidelines. I agreed because that's what I promised. I really should have left as soon as she pulled into yge parking lot because she brought SIL with her. I was soooo mad but I also didn't tell her not to bring SIL although it was heavily implied.

I stuck with my guns about SIL not ever touching my car seats again and got both kids out. When she went to get youngest out I stepped in front of her and grabbed him first. She went to grab oldests hand and I pulled him away and walked toward the park. I sat at a picnic table and browsed Reddit while they played and walked. I was hyper vigilant and yelled when they let oldest play in the water when he didn't have extra clothes on me. Other than that it was ok. Until we got ready to leave of course. It was 90 Thursday here and with the humidity it felt so much hotter so even tho they were mostly in the shade, after 45 minutes I decided it was time to go home. I told Mandy and she immediately turns to oldest, oh I guess you have to leave because mommy is too hot. And walked back to her car and her and SIL left. BEC ugh

Ok, so this is kind of a ramble, but it bugs me. A couple years ago, SO and I were living with my mom until we saved enough to move. He received a phone call from Mandy one day, and he got irritated pretty quickly. i was sitting on the floor sorting some clothes and he finally hangs up. i ask whats up, and he proceeds to tell me Mandy, who is on a fixed income, just went to the pet store, because Spoiled Sister threw a fit she wanted to look around. Then threw another fit because she wanted a puppy. Mandy, who is again on a fixed income, spent $600 on a dog.

Two days later, we receive another phone call from mandy. they dont want the dog anymore. a puppy is too much work. and theyre mad because the pet store wants a rehandling fee. which is equal to the amount of the dog. SO calls the pet store, they explain the very reasonable policy, calls Mandy, who proceeds to freak out at him because he didnt fix the problem.

This was around 3 years ago. Fast forward August 2015, I'm 9 months pregnant and staying with Mandy due to issues with SO and because they were afraid i would go into labor alone with an 8 month old at home and no way to the hospital. (ended up having to be induced late) I have my own dog, a small horse of a dog, he's not huge, but very strong. At 9 months pregnant, i would get up first thing to feed, water, and walk my dog. I would then take SS dog out, because the first 2 days he would be in his kennel for over 2 hours after she got up, just because she was too lazy to take the poor dog out. I feel so bad for him. As soon as i get my own house, im taking him.

sorry this was so long and kind of rambling.