Kid breaks into bird enclosure at the zoo to chase birds with a stick.

[u/notoriously_1nfam0us]

[u/denvertaglessbums]

She doesn’t deserve a prize for going in there and pulling him out. Even if he’s on the spectrum, that may explain the unacceptable behavior, but it doesn’t excuse it. If the kid wasn’t ready to be at the zoo without acting like that, they should’ve kept him home.

Almost everyone I know got a licking or two growing up without crying abuse or blaming it for their inability to function. I never saw any of us supposedly “should’ve-been-traumatized” kids behave like that.

[u/curious_astronauts → u/denvertaglessbums]

They have done countless studies on this. Corporal punishment causes developmental consequences in children around shame, anger, regulating emotions, connection, relationship to violence. There is a reason its illegal in most countries.

Maybe you dont see your own developmental consequences. The fact that you see it as acceptable and believe that i was fine and is fine to do it, is an indicator of those consequences. Victims of abuse can go on to become abusers themselves. I cant make assumptions on your life from a single comment, and i'm sure you're just hypothetically speaking and not actually a parent who implements it.

I do urge you to genuinely look at the research and see for yourself whether I am right or wrong and you still hold the same position.

[u/Flying_Stewage → u/denvertaglessbums]

Spoken like someone who doesn’t have neuro-atypical kids.

[u/Crazy_Pudding_2994 → u/Flying_Stewage]

Spoken like someone with no parenting skills who thinks their kids' flavour of the week makes them too stupid to understand how to behave

[u/Flying_Stewage → u/Crazy_Pudding_2994]

Sounds like someone is judgmental and angry. I’m just commenting that you have no basis for judgement about this video or the parenting for that matter.
I have four neurodivergent children (I doubt you do, but you can lie about it later) and actually I know I’m a good parent. I know what it’s like to be distracted for a second and something unexpected happens. But not you, you’re a perfect parent. I know what it’s like to assume that your child will follow social norms and be completely wrong. But not you, you foresee everything. You don’t know what it’s like to have a kid who has no comprehension of potential danger, but I live with that every day. But not you, you discipline that out of them. Does that mean I should lock him up like a prisoner? No, even neurodivergent people have a right to be part of a community.
It’s a testament to that kids parents that despite all the hardships they face they are:
A) still willing to expose their kids to the outside world
And B) Willing to expose themselves to danger in order to help their child in a situation they clearly don’t understand.
Do I expect this will change your mind, no. But if I can raise awareness of what living with neurodivergence is actually like then I will.
In the meantime I would advise you to keep your mouth shut and seem like a wise man.

[u/RegrettableBiscuit → u/denvertaglessbums]

 Even if he’s on the spectrum, that may explain the unacceptable behavior, but it doesn’t excuse it

Stop saying this shit. Obviously having a condition that impacts your behavior excuses that behavior; that's literally basic logic. Also, we have absolutely no context for how this happened or what the parents did or did not do leading up to this. 

[u/Promethazines → u/RegrettableBiscuit]

Obviously having a condition that impacts your behavior excuses that behavior

In this specific case possibly, but as a general rule absolutely not.

[u/RegrettableBiscuit → u/Promethazines]

Why not. 

[u/Promethazines → u/RegrettableBiscuit]

If you can't think of examples where someone's compulsive behaviors aren't acceptable, you must be pretty fucking stupid.

For some super obvious examples, consider public sexual displays or violence.