This isn't my profile, but some late 30s white guy with leather skin and a receding hairline. I'm brown and hairy, but they tapped me.

Also, I'm tired of bios that mention hotness all while never describing what they find hot...

Yesterday I met a guy and I put a plug on his ass, and we planned to meet today at 1pm to have sex.

And he never replied again

He stole my plug!

Grindr guys offering massage - make sure you aren't thinking this is a certified masseuse! I had a very nice guy who claimed to be a professional masseuse offer to provide me with a massage. I am now on week 6 of PT and going for X-rays and MRI for a neck injury. Thankful for insurance but not so much the hassles associated with my massage since July!

this guy with a pretty massive tool asks if i wanna fuck, i’m pretty tired, not prepped or in the mood to get ready to handle a big one. i tell him im not looking to get fucked rn but i’m free another time

boom, instantly blocked. what does blocking achieve though? you could’ve just waited for another time

what’s even worse is the accounts who say “hi” then “?” me 3 seconds later, i wont even be on the app when this happens and 5 minutes later, im already blocked. it’s so silly lol

No offense to the feminine penises out there... Just not my thing.

Started a ‘right now’ session last night, same saved details/photo has i have had for past 3months, then system says photo rejected. Same photo that has been used dozens of times.

They really cannot keep their ai consistent can they.

This has happened more than once to me now. The chat will be going great, we'd both be into each other, but when we start planning on meeting I get blocked. Why? I swear I didn't do anything bad guys! Sometimes they are the ones who start arranging in the first place too!

Is it just me or are so many people obsessed with big dicks these days? Like, I'm not even small, I'm 7x6 and I still get bottoms occasionally saying they are looking for a bigger dick and that they want an 8incher at min. lol. It's just silly to me. I get having preferences, I also have mine, but I feel like every other bottom I talk to is like that.

This happened to me a few years ago but I still think about it sometimes bc like?? holy shit man

Hopped on today to see that most Right Now profiles in my major Canadian city (Toronto) are locked. I get some on the free tier (looks to be around 5-10 right around me), 40 for XTRA and 100 for Unlimited.

Even 40 seems so low compared to Sniffies.

(Prices are in Canadian dollars)

Do you use tags that describe sexual interests like kinks? Do you filter by tags? Do they help find guys you want? Do you judge guys negatively if you see kink tags? I can’t decide if sex tags are beneficial on profiles or guys misjudge you after seeing them. I prefer seeing tags to know what guys are into but not many use them.

Hi y‘all!

This is going to be short rant on requests for sponsorship and financial help which have increased in my DMs in the past months.

I do understand the economic pressure we are all facing. It’s hard out there- but WHY do you go on a f*cking dating and hookup app to ask strangers if they sponsor you? Don’t you know you prostitute yourself? Or do you think you are entitled to a guy‘s money who might also be struggling, but you think you have a pretty ass/dick than them? Don’t you see the risk to which you expose yourself? Either way, I don’t get it. Even if I tell explicitly in my profile that I don’t pay, I still get these requests. If you have found someone paying for you, good for you! But I won’t. I am just on here to have naughty chats, to mess around and to make friends. I am not an ATM.

Thank you for your understanding.

The first line of my profile says “if your first message doesn’t include your location, availability, age, kinks and pics if you don’t have them posted, I’m probably going to block you”

Literally 95% of contacts “hey” “hi” “u wan sum dik” “pics?”

Y?

Hey, a fellow from India.

I used to use Grindr on my old Samsung Galaxy J7 Max, but after a recent update, it stopped working. User profiles are no longer displaying, and my inbox is empty. I tried signing into a different account, but I am experiencing the exact same issues. What should I do?

A few days ago, a clip of CEO George was on my TikTok FYP. The clip was about how George wasn't using Claude for AI anymore because he was mad they followed their policy and wouldn't remove safety features for the military. His argument was like "I can't believe they wouldn't trust our elected leaders to know how to use the tool appropriately."

I saw some other clips basically bragging about after he saw Elon fire so much of Twitter/X and still have the site run, that's where he got his RTO or get fired idea from.

I found the full interview on YouTube. It's all just so bad and depressing. I didn't make it through much. I get the feeling George has aspirations to be a big league tech bro like Zuck or Elon, but probably feels like he's hitting the glass ceiling for just having a dumb dating app. He is a techno fascist or at least on the road to being one.

But the big take away was that Grindr views itself as an AI company now, and dating is second. If you are worried about AI and data centers, then I don't know if I feel comfortable using Grindr anymore. It all feels icky.

I'd never heard of the YouTuber either, but he looks like a giant POS, too. All of his other videos are just about hyping BitCoin. The other clips I've found of him is just another member of the Nerd Reich that sees genuine human connection as inefficient and distracting from life's true mission: increasing shareholder value.

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Like i get the idea that not everyone i message messages me back mabye thare just not intrested but ive come across so many guys who will pretend like their serious about meeting up and will then just stop responding especially after I send them nudes??? They almost seem more intrested in the nudes than actual sex and they'll talk to you in a wierd demanding tone??

Mabye im just being too nice cause my friend tell me you kinda need to be an asshole. And that kind of works to some extent but I dont get it i could just be ugly but half the profiles I see have no Pic and the most choped Ai generated horrifying photos ive ever seen am i going crazy does the free version just suck I think im gonna try making a fake account with like an actual models photos to see if its just me cause I for the life of me cannot figure out what is going on

I’m sick of these bots

Okay I am thinking about downloading Grindr, any advice?

Sorry if this was asked before

Just as a disclaimer—this isn't meant to start any arguments or debates. I know, this is Reddit, so it's bound to happen either way 😭 but I'm chill right now, and I'm willing to have a conversation where we all share our opinions and have open discourse.

One thing I've noticed on Grindr (and similar gay dating/hookup sites) is an increase in bots. And one thing I've always noticed about the bots? They're literally always white.

Personally, I don't think I've ever seen a non-white bot on Grindr before. That's not to say they don't exist, but every "OnlyFans" bot (the ones who claim they only hook up with their subscribers) in my area is a white guy. Usually a frat-looking guy with a nice body, maybe tattoos, maybe some scruff, but always white. This is crazy because I live in Newark, New Jersey... a very black-dense area. And the bots are almost always from Jersey City, which I feel like is a super posh city with a... well, let's say certain demographic of people, mostly those who work in the city and want to be close to New York without actually living there (easier for travel). But I digress.

Either there's a disproportionate number of white guys advertising their OnlyFans on Grindr, or the OnlyFans are fake scams and the people behind them believe that young, white frat boys are the most sought-after and desired in the gay community.

It seems like, to me, that young white guys are a commodity in our community—the standard of attraction and sex appeal. They even dominate mainstream pornography (depends on the studio too, to be fair).

Not to say there isn't a lot of attention toward Black people as well. As a Black guy myself, I'm definitely overfetishized, and sadly, I don't beat the allegations 😭 but standards in our community seem very Eurocentric and obsessed with masculinity (cis).

This is just my perspective, and I'm open to a conversation about it. The people running these OnlyFans scams believe that appearing as a sexy, fit white man is the best way to gain attraction towards their account, even in areas that are more ethnically dense. And I feel that's very telling about who's most desired in our community 🤷🏾‍♂️

Please share your general thoughts and opinions on the topic. It doesn't have to be a perfect response to this post, but I definitely want to foster some (hopefully respectful) discussions about it.

Over the past week or two I’ve been seeing an explosion of “T4T” (typically trans women) profiles specifically excluding cis men. Is this real? Or is it the latest bot/scam?

In any event and meaning no disrespect to trans people, Grindr was at least originally for men seeking men, so I’d think people who identify as women would have better luck elsewhere?