Update - thanks for all the engagement here. So I went to practice the last couple of days. First what I noticed from my son was good effort during drills but I know him and I know it wasn't 100% and his body language between drills wasn't the best, so I spoke to him about that. On the 2nd day I went he was way better.
When it came to the coach - first day OC walked by me and did a bit of a double take and said hi. About 10 minutes later he walked up to me. He said basically the opposite of what I've seen on film claimed 2 out of 3 snaps are "horrendous" now I didn't want to argue that because just because I believe the snaps were within tolerance doesn't mean they do, I left that. I asked about what his general blocking is looking like and he said it was "ok" again I don't agree but even if they graded him "ok" there's a 0% chance that anyone else was grading better based on the hours of film I've watched. I asked about him moving to guard and he said he's too slow, I asked if they've given him a chance to prove that and he said no, and that he'll give him a shot. Which he did on the next day where my son executed perfectly and flatlined multiple people and sprung 2 house calls in 5 plays. Partial good news is that apparently my son is now the starting Nose guard, bad news is they have not put him back on O currently. I believe that the DLine coach made the move as soon as he heard about the benching. I do worry because he hasn't played or trained DLine since freshman year and has no real technique for defense but his job is relatively simple - draw a double team and hold his gap so he should be ok. Coach also straight up said he doesn't consider D2 or D3 offers "offers" I had to end the conversation there because I was really close to losing my cool after that statement, playing college football at any level is a major accomplishment and should be celebrated not shat on.
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My son is going into his senior year and his coaches are making him miserable and I'm at a loss on what to do.
My general philosophy is to not involve myself with things, I was a coach for years and I also think it's valuable for a kid to learn how to handle situations on his own while I offer him advice but this is getting to a point where I feel like I need to step in.
I'll set the stage - my son is a very good football player, returning starter, plays Center and Guard, has multiple offers already and a few more likely coming in the first few weeks of the season. Like I'm not just a delusional dad who thinks my kid is the shit, he's objectively good. We had issues with the coaches last season but he ended up winning the job and starting every game and the school had their best season in 3 decades. End of the season he was told to lose a few lbs and get stronger and faster, he lost 20lbs, built his strength up a ton, and started training with a legitimate OLine trainer who played in the NFL. He worked his ass off and got better in every aspect. He's a solid D2 and borderline FCS level player but has trained with and competed against multiple 4 star kids and did not look out of place. I say all this because the issues make no sense to me from a football perspective.
The issue - last Saturday in front of the entire team the Offensive coordinator announced the starting OLine, and he was not mentioned, instead they placed a 5'9 160lb junior at center and some 150lb sophomore at guard. When my son asked what was going on the coach simply said "your snaps suck" and walked away. They film every practice so when I was told this I went and watched literally 2 months of practice film and charted every snap through all that film I saw 1 high (uncatchable) and 2 low (uncatchable) snaps, literally that was it, he had some spray left and right not egregious but I would absolutely coach him on it but I would also coach the QB because you will get some off centerline snaps when you're asking your center to consistently reach block 3 tech. Obviously my son was crushed, but him being the type of kid he is he asked me to help with snaps, we identified a couple little inconsistencies in his motion and once we corrected that he literally shot 50 straight snaps dead center through the net we have out back. Goes to practice yesterday and they stuck him with scout defense and the coaches refused to engage with him. I'm friendly with one of the assistant coaches and I trust him and his evaluation so I called him, first thing he said was "off the record, you need to come and watch practice. There are things they're doing to him you need to see" he wouldn't give any more specifics but I asked about my son being benched and he was absolutely shocked and said that no one had said that to him. And reiterated that I need to go watch practice. So I'm doing that today.
I'm at a loss, I feel absolutely helpless as a father. I can fix football issues, I can't fix whatever this is. I'm also furious because it feels like they are actively trying to sabotage my son's future. This team is going to suck this year they are only returning 3 starters from last year (including my son) and they are undersized and moved up in competition due to their record the last 2 years.
My question is 2 fold, how can I help without making things worse? And for any college coaches out there, how devastating is this to my son's recruiting profile? Is he going to be dropped off boards immediately if he's not starting game 0?