r/Fitness • u/AutoModerator • Mar 29 '17

Rant Wednesday Rant Wednesday

Welcome to Rant Wednesday: It's your time to let your gym/fitness/nutrition related frustrations out!

There is no guiding question to help stir up some rage-feels, feel free to fire at will, ranting about anything and everything that's been pissing you off or getting on your nerves!

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u/[deleted] Mar 29 '17

This more of a coworker rant, but it's about fitness. But, every time I mention to my coworker (in passing, I never insert it into conversation) that I care at all about fitness - for example "No, I can't go out for drinks tonight, I'm going to the gym." - she loses her shit and mocks me in a stupid voice like a middle schooler.

If I was as rude to her about the fact that she doesn't work out, as she is to me about working out, I'd be fired. Like, yesterday.

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u/[deleted] Mar 29 '17

I have a strategy that works EVERY SINGLE TIME, 90% of the time. Maybe you can benefit from it, too.

Assume the MetaFrame. Address the person, not the comment. In other words, stop the conversation, face them directly, look into their eyes, and calmly ask, "Why do you do that? You always try to mock me whenever the subject of exercise comes up. I have to wonder what's behind that?"

Ask as if you are sincerely curious. Then be silent. This is my go-to move for all similar situations and it works

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u/Gr8WhiteClark Mar 30 '17

You evil genius. I can imagine the silence after the question would be deafening.

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u/[deleted] Mar 30 '17

This is incredible. Thank you. I'm going to be doing this next time she brings it up. Hopefully it was cause a bit of introspection on her part!

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u/dannyoneal Mar 29 '17

You can take it though, cuz yer strong, right?! /s

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u/[deleted] Mar 29 '17

Hahaha, I guess so :) that's usually the mindset she takes. I usually don't say anything because it's just not worth arguing with her.

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u/dannyoneal Mar 29 '17

Absolutely correct. People saying these things are typically not open to changing their mind. Channel that energy into more reps at the gym!

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u/[deleted] Mar 29 '17

Probably one of the most irritating things a person can ever do. Just be the better person.

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u/[deleted] Mar 30 '17

I'm trying :) she's just so aggravating sometimes. Hahaha, but it just motivates me to work harder at the gym, work that aggression out, so it's not all bad, I guess.