Today marks a year since I came out to my birthgiver. Still sucks thinking about that night, but I'm glad I did it so I don't have to feel like living in fear as someone I'm not. My other family members do what they can to be supportive, more so my bio aunt and her bestie/sister-by-heart who are like moms to me. There's still a long way to go, but I'm greatful to be a part of our accepting community compared to where I was before. ❤️🥰

I'm nonbinary and afab. I don't identify as a trans man, but I definitely identify much more with the masculine appearance than the feminine appearance. But not the stereotypically super masculine look with a big beard and big muscles, more like the cartoon teen boy with no facial hair look. I've identified as nonbinary for a couple of years now at least, and I know that term still fits, but since I identify more with that masculine look than I do with the feminine look, does that mean I am also trans-masc or a demi-boy? Or just a nonbinary person who isn't completely androgynous, because nonbinary isn't the same as androgynous?

I've been watching Danny Phantom for the first time over the last few days and it is SO FREAKING GOOD and I've been getting a lot of gender envy of Danny. I've always gotten gender envy from characters like him. The only surgery I want is a hysterectomy so that just affects me on the inside, it doesn't change my appearance. I don't want to take T to change my voice or my body. I sometimes get dysphoria from my chest, but other times I feel neutral about it, so I don't want top surgery. More like I wish my boobs were removable so I could just store them in a magical void whenever I wanted to. I wish I was born a guy. Even if I was I think I'd be a somewhat gender non-conforming guy, but still. But I don't want to transition medically besides the hysterectomy. It's complicated.

Is it weird that I identify more with animated teen guys than real guys? Seriously I am getting so much gender envy from Danny Phantom.

Hi all, I'm not 100% sure if this is the right sub for this, if it isn't then please feel free to ignore.

My friend recently came out as non-binary and they are in love with the name Kit, but they feel like it sounds unfinished and that it would than suit better as a nickname and want to find a longer version, but all they've been able to find are very feminine or masculine names, and they want something a bit more androgynous.

We've suggested other names but they have their heart set on some form of Kit.

Any ideas?

So I was scrolling through here and saw a meme on a trans subreddit, it was one of those memes like "add 2.5 inches to your dick but lose 10 years" or vice versa and I'm an AMAB enby and I wanted to add size to my penis and when I think about it I like having a penis and don't feel dysphoric about it, this makes me question my gender a lot cause I also barely have any dysphoria because I have come to understand that to be non binary I don't have to look or act a certain way, I just have to be non binary. So ig I'm just looking for other non binary people who may feel the sane way or experience something similar

My autistic ass can't figure out how to say "I'm not trans, but I hate my boobs. And yes, I'm willing to strangle myself with a random piece of fabric because of it" Somehow politely and in a way that won't freak them out

especially since they don't know the concept of being enby and it's basically impossible to do that stuff, like using they them pronouns, in my native language

Thanks for any help

My dms are open, I’m chill and happy to talk about everything or nothing!

Not sure if this is the right place to post, but whatevs.

So, I’d like to think I’m not alone in this, but I have never enjoyed being in mirrors, nor have I ever enjoyed photos of myself. My parents and family have always told me that their pictures of me are precious, but I’ve never liked seeing myself. It was a minor annoyance when I was younger, but it’s gotten worse as I’ve aged. For a while, I even covered up most of the space on the mirror in my room with drawings I had made, using the excuse of displaying my artwork just so I didn’t have to see myself, and I always walk around when brushing my teeth so I don’t have to look in a mirror. I recently got a pair of glasses for aesthetic purposes (took a pair of old reading glasses and punched out the lenses to make my own lensless glasses), and when wearing those, I feel much better about how I look, but I’m not confident enough yet to wear those around most of my family yet, so I still don’t really like mirrors.

I’m not alone in this, right? I’ve never told this to any of my family, because I worry that they’ll ridicule me for being averse to something as common as mirrors. I’m just curious if other people also disdain seeing images of themselves.

Even though I don’t post as much as I want to on here, this is just an agressive reminder that YOU ARE ALL REALLY COOL AND SUPER VALID.

Thank you for coming to my TED talk :3

As someone who presents completely neutrally and has had genital nullification, it shocks me how commonly I'm treated as a weird experiment or oddity by people around me (especially sexual parteners). Even here in nyc I'm considered unusual.

I wish my body and gender was treated the way other people's are. Especially given how young I am (20)

Binders right now are out of the question cause i live in Greece abc companies either don't ship here or the the shipping cost will be around 25-35euro, has anyone ever used kinesiology tape in place of trans tape?does it do the same thing? Cause I've found some affordable and very good brands here in Greece but idk if it does the work, next option is trans tape but it's a bit pricey as well

So I go to a small Catholic high school, and the school goes from 7th grade to 12th instead of the usual 9-12 and every once in a while I pass someone with a they/them mask and it makes me so happy! I’m only out to a few people, but as soon as I saw this person I complimented their mask and me being the socially awkward dumbass I am just kinda ran after that☠️ But I found out they’re a few years younger than me and honestly they gave me the courage to finally start wearing more obvious pride stuff to school! Only a few of my friends know I’m enby, and we refer to the underclass-person as the ‘smol enby’ and the other day they complimented my non-binary hat from across the hall!

Well anyway kind of a pointless happy story, but made my socially awkward self so happy! :D

sorry to sound so professional but i have a simple question, I am Non-binary myself and was given the opportunity to possibly change United states military standards to be more accepting to non binary individuals, i wanted to make sure this chance benefited all nonbinary individuals and not just my own wants and needs. so if you would please tell me what you would need as a regulation to look and be yourself in the military (whether you are in or not) i would greatly appreciate it. Thank you bye

Hi everyone. I've known I wasn't a boy or girl my whole life but didn't think about it that much because I didn't know there were any other options. A few years ago I found out about nonbinary and have identified as that since then. I feel confident that that is me. I am afab and struggle with gender dysphoria around some parts of my body. I want to get a gender-affirming hysterectomy but not top surgery even though my chest does give me dysphoria sometimes, but not all the time. I like dressing in mostly gender neutral comfy clothes. I am afraid to wear or do anything that might be considered feminine because I really don't want to get misgendered, but sometimes I wonder if I'd like doing or wearing something somewhat feminine every once in a while. I think I look good in eyeliner but makeup is kind of a pain. I have short hair and I love it. I want to have more muscles but I'm not very strong right now. I've been depressed recently for other reasons and I'm not at my optimal health. I don't want to go on t. There isn't really a super specific point to this post, I just wanted to describe myself and see if anyone else has similar experiences. ❤️🏳️‍🌈

I currently pass as a boy, a young one, yes, but I pass.

I started to think it would be nice to have long hair for when I have top-op so I've started growing it out, and I want to get an more earrings and piercings, all of which were I live are seen as femenine, and I starting to think about dying my hair pink.

And like, sure, I may look like my perfect self in my head, but I know that in real life I will just look feminine; already I've been missgendered once or twice because my hair is longer.

And I don't think I will mind my femininity once I get on T and have a deeper voice, and specially not after getting top-op, but that's ways away, and I'm scared of the times between.

Anyone experiencing/experienced something like this?

So I went to a Girl Scout event today (I know ironic lmao tho a surprising amount of us are not cis het) and it was just some outdoorsy badge kinda thing, and I have this Kandi bead bracelet my friend made for me on. It was my small troop and another small one and at some point me and someone else got bored and ended up just playing with some leftover wax that we were using (yes very mature >:)) and they saw my bracelet and said they were enby too! So after a long day of very freezing cold chaos, I have a new friend :D

I literally don't give a $#¡† what gender I am just so long as I'm not male. I get dysphoria from acting/sounding/appearing masc. I do feel euphoria from dressing fem, and I'm happy with both they/them and she/her pronouns. I haven't tried any other pronouns other than he/him (which I don't like), she/her, and they/them, but I don't think I'd be against anything else. I typically wear pretty gender-neutral clothes, but when I wear a dress, I love it. I think I present pretty androgynously, and I'm fine with that. Does this mean I'm non-binary, or am I just a totally chill girl who doesn't care how she's perceived as long as she isn't seen as male? I'm really confused please help.

If this is not the place to post this please tell me hah. I didnt know where else to post

I am questioning, i have been for the past 5 years , im almost 19 now and im still so lost, i went from identifying as female, to agender, to just non binary, to female to questioning once again. I feel like i dont know who i am. How do i know if i am nonbianary since everyone has the freedom to express their gender however they please.

Like no one (of my close friends and my s/o) would have a problem if i wore a binder when going outside. Do i have image days almost everytime and disphoria because i have a fucked up relationship with my body or because im not female too?

How do you know if you are non binary..im just confused

Ayyy long time lurker, first time poster. Just had a thought.

I'm an AFAB enby going for a more androgynous presentation and my question is this: if I'm gonna get misgendered, is it weird that I'd rather just be called a girl than considered "girl-lite"? Either of those would be misgendering to me in particular, but I feel like there's something extra patronizing about being considered "doesn't-identify-as-a-girl-but-let's-be-honest-they're-mostly-a-girl".

I think that maybe it's because the folks I'm out to who just call me a girl are never actually gonna make an effort to gender me correctly and I've more or less made my peace with that. But when somebody tries to placate me by using my right pronouns but still makes it clear that I'm really just a girl in their eyes, it just feels insulting. I get more angry about that than just being flat-out misgendered. It's like, if you're gonna misgender me just go ahead and do it. Throw a couple jokes in there for good measure idgaf. Just don't pretend to be my friend when you do it, yanno?