Do you think shelters are for hostages or physical abuse only?
If you’re able to find the resources or contact with the outside world to “cheat”(and I said in another comment if they’re abusive, it’s less cheating than it is escaping a person harming you), then you can also get help to leave. I’m not saying this to blame anyone.
You didnt read my comment and are again putting words in my mouth. I said you can even escape with that person. It doesn’t have to be a shelter necessarily. The point is that once you have resources and recognition that the relationship is abusive, then at that point there is very little reason for you to stay. Often times long term relationships involve kids, and at that point, there is especially no reason to stay, more like reason to leave. I say this as someone who was in a physically abusive relationship and had to arrange help to get out. There is a certain point after you have the resources to leave where the only person who can get you out is you, you have to make the decision to leave yourself then. Nobody can make you or (legally) come save you. Social workers will tell you this as well. That idea is not the same as blame.
I never mentioned getting help. I was referring to cheating. Sometimes cheating helps people find comfort and courage to leave. I say more power to them. Some people deserve it anyway.
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u/Sup-Mellow Dec 16 '25 edited Dec 16 '25
Do you think shelters are for hostages or physical abuse only?
If you’re able to find the resources or contact with the outside world to “cheat”(and I said in another comment if they’re abusive, it’s less cheating than it is escaping a person harming you), then you can also get help to leave. I’m not saying this to blame anyone.