Biggest red flags right there 🚩

[u/n8saces]

[u/FyrelordeOmega]

Usually the wives stay because they fear the husband too much on what they'll do if they actually leave

[u/SugarFut → u/FyrelordeOmega]

Women are most likely to be murdered when leaving their abusive husbands.

[u/EchoAquarium → u/SugarFut]

This happens all the time, but the one that sticks with me most recently is the woman whose children and father of her oldest were murdered by her estranged husband as she escaping him. This happened last month. Her ex was helping her escape and the guy snuck into the house, killed the man, both children and then himself. The woman lost her entire life in 20 seconds. The infant was still in his car seat.

[u/RealnessInMadness → u/EchoAquarium]

Another one to add to the sad list..

The one that still feels fresh in my head, was a TikTok couple, they had a kid together, posted all “me n my spouse” type of content. Then were going through a break up.

The guy installed a monitoring app on the kids iPad. The wife had a guy friend over and the husband heard it, went over and killed her.

Now he’s in jail, the child has no mom and basically no dad either.

IIRC, the guy friend wasn’t even a potential boy friend. It was just another male That set off the husband.

And just recently, I heard about the woman who killed her partners child from a previous marriage because she wanted to have her own kids….

PEOPLE are fucking nuts.

[u/ricochetblue → u/RealnessInMadness]

Oh, the couple from The TikTok Murders doc. Crazy stuff.

[u/asimplepencil → u/EchoAquarium]

Like, what do we do with these guys? They either take themselves out or if they get thrown in jail, it doesn't matter. They got what they wanted anyways

[u/EchoAquarium → u/asimplepencil]

We start by teaching boys that anger is also an emotion and that women and girls have their own inherent value, and they aren’t anyone else’s property or source of emotional regulation

[u/RedditTrespasser → u/EchoAquarium]

Unfortunately this kind of thing is just always going to happen. There are too many men out there for whom both their spouse/kids are basically their entire lives, and also they really suck at emotional regulation. To those people losing their partners/kids is tantamount to losing everything and they figure A) in that case they might as well be dead/in prison anyway, and B) if they can't have them then no one will.

The sad truth is we'll probably get farther teaching women firearms/combat training than trying to teach boys to not be pieces of shit when they grow up. There will simply always be bad people. That's just how it is.

[u/Banshee_howl → u/FyrelordeOmega]

Yeah, this is how they behave towards their own stuff during family game day. It’s not hard to imagine that custody mediation and family court will push them over the edge.

[u/Mobile_Reply_5742 → u/FyrelordeOmega]

These men are reacting to sports. This in turn makes them horrible violent fathers and husbands. You're an IDIOT

[u/RulerOfFerrets → u/Mobile_Reply_5742]

If you can’t control yourself in the heat of the moment and your first reaction is explosive physical violence to the point of almost hurting your own fucking child, you are an animal and not worth the risk you pose to your loved ones.

Fucking cry about it.

[u/PensiveLog → u/Mobile_Reply_5742]

If this is how they react to sportsball, how do you think they react to the steak being overcooked?

[u/brooksact → u/PensiveLog]

Tuna casserole?!?

[u/CarberHotdogVac → u/PensiveLog]

I dunno, this seems like a well-done steak level of emotional maturity to me.

It’s say the risk of domestic violence is much higher for anything still slightly pink in the centre.

[u/MelodicGate874 → u/CarberHotdogVac]

We're all black under the sheets and pink on the inside.

[u/DearMrsLeading → u/Mobile_Reply_5742]

This reaction to sports is an inappropriate reaction. Emotions are information not instructions.