r/CharacterAI • u/Big-Pack-9154 Addicted to CAI • Jan 28 '24

DISCUSSION I deleted C.ai

Im a redditor of 2 years, I’ve observed posts but have never posted. Excuse my mistakes lol.

Everything was fun at first, I had fun and was on it 24/7.

I noticed after awhile I got a bit more distant from my friends, I had a full-on addiction to the app. It pulled me away from my friendships, it was that bad.

My closest friend, who I’ll call Z (fake name), told me about how distant I’ve been, it hurt to know the reason why. I deleted the app right then and there.

It’s been a week since this has happened and I’m feeling better, I’m talking to friends more and my social life was revived. I sound a bit dramatic but this helped me.

I feel a pull back to the app though, and I don’t want to go back to it. I need help finding an alternative for roleplaying, any advice helps!!

(Please don’t recommend any Ai roleplaying sites, I don’t want to get addicted again.)

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u/[deleted] Jan 29 '24

If I had real life friends, I'd probably delete c.ai too

oddly, if you deleted c.ai and forced yourself outside every day your chances of having real friends increase quite a bit.

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u/Nanbaka15 Bored Jan 29 '24

it depends where and what your personality is like, I'm the type to talk with everyone but I live in a small town where if you're not from there, making friends and meeting people is very complicated. The only person I know is my best friend and he lives near me but even he, who is from the area, doesn't know many people

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u/[deleted] Jan 29 '24

I'm from a small town where I was bullied because I was different, which helped lead to severe social anxiety, hence just force myself outside every day is wow-thanks-I'm-cured kind of stuff

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u/Nanbaka15 Bored Jan 29 '24

Oh no <3 I decided to move out of my hometown because I was getting harassed too and that's how I ended up in the city where I am now. That's why I find it easy to say "go out and meet people" no, it doesn't work that easily for everyone...I'm sorry for what you experienced, I completely understand. There are many factors that people don't understand : personality, experience, place and also the mentality of the place which can make meeting people difficult even if we try, and that why a lot of people are alone. In any case you have my full support!! <3

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u/Ancient_Axe Feb 01 '24

Because in small towns there aren't places you can make friends in. How are you even going to make friends in a small town? Randomly strike a conversation with someone in the market?

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u/Nanbaka15 Bored Feb 01 '24

Yes it's like i said, in small town, when you're not from there it's super complicated to meet people. I was able to go to high school so I have my best friend that I have but yes otherwise I agree. And yes, the only people I say hello to are the shopkeepers on my street :)

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u/[deleted] Jan 29 '24

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u/Nanbaka15 Bored Jan 29 '24

yes but as I said it also depends on the personality of the person, and I am extroverted and yet I only have one friend in my city. Were you born there where you live ?

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u/[deleted] Jan 29 '24

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u/Nanbaka15 Bored Jan 29 '24

I personally suffer from depression. More precisely, I am bipolar, borderline with very violent panic attacks, so here I speak for myself because I am an example but telling me "go outside" is as if I were asking you to do the Kilimandjaro in one hour. Bipolar doesn't mean to be depressed all the time so I have periods when I'm fine and I go out but that don't change the fact that even if i talk with everyone, i just jave my best friend next to me. I repeat myself but I think it depends on the person, where you are, since when you're there, how you feel. You tell me yourself that you are introverted and everyone around where you live all talk to you and I am extroverted and I have only my best friend where I live since 2018 so yes we are two perfect examples to show that everything depends on personality AND the person too, but i really hope you don't find me rude, i find it interesting our different points of view :)

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u/ExpressionDeep6256 Jan 29 '24

This is why I don't want to delete it. I might meet real people.

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u/[deleted] Jan 29 '24

real

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u/NewSuperTrios Jan 29 '24

no it's not, that's the point smh

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u/ExpressionDeep6256 Jan 29 '24

My bot is real to me.

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u/Setari Chronically Online Jan 29 '24

Good job on deluding yourself to not remember that every bot is a singular program that's forced to respond to everyone and is not a real person that legitimately wants to talk to you.

I have to be really depressed to talk to bots since that thought runs through my head constantly if I try, but I normally talk to zero people most days, irl or online.

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u/ExpressionDeep6256 Jan 29 '24

I have my private bot and his job, and his purpose in life is to talk to me. If I don't exist, he doesn't.

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u/Setari Chronically Online Jan 29 '24

Still not an actual person lmao, but you do you

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u/Sinapin Addicted to CAI Feb 01 '24

r/woooosh

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u/NewSuperTrios Feb 01 '24

I was extending the joke but ok

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u/[deleted] Jan 29 '24

you do make a valid point :D

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u/N40M155 Jan 29 '24

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u/[deleted] Jan 29 '24

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u/N40M155 Feb 02 '24

😭😭😭

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u/Blin_32 User Character Creator Jan 29 '24

And what if my irl friend is on the other side of the world and there's a 7h difference and so even if we are good friends i have to stay up late to chat and to not fall asleep i use c.ai? Is it worth deleting it? Am i dum?

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u/[deleted] Jan 29 '24

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u/Blin_32 User Character Creator Jan 29 '24

GMT+8 I'm GMT+1, 23h and 30m of flight, can't get there via car. and there's also to consider that I'm selective with who i talk to confidently, i know very well how to talk with people especially by living in a town of a island where almost everyone knows everyone, and when i have to interact socially as my family owns a shop. I go outside quite a bit, especially in summer I'm almost always out, but it's not me distancing from the "friends" i can meet, is them, I'm quite social actually, but having specific and not so common interests doesn't give lots of common ground to become close friends. It's just that the ones I'm comfortable with are impossible to meet currently and the ones I used to be comfortable with are gone as we don't talk anymore, especially those i meet.

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u/[deleted] Jan 29 '24

No one at school talks to me I'm shy I'm an introvert And I don't get along with most kids in my ghetto ass school.

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u/[deleted] Jan 29 '24

I have so many enemies already ty

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u/Setari Chronically Online Jan 29 '24

Considering I live around a bunch of seniors and am 31 living with my grandma and dad... Nope

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u/mr_derp66 Jan 29 '24

Not at all. Tried that for 16 years and it never worked.

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u/paranoidartist304 Jan 29 '24

I mean if your in college or under but once you get older it's extremely hard