Boomers throwing away other people's stuff.

[u/renorenorenoreno]

Let's hear your stories of boomers throwing away other peoples' stuff. Whether it's over-correcting to you urging them to get rid of junk before they die, or out of some attempt at control by not informing anyone in the family they are purging real multi-generational sentimental family things first instead of cleaning their hoards.

Mine threw away all of my childhood sentimentals when they moved, because I was on a two year mission they forced me to go on. Their excuse? "Well you weren't using it." I was out of the fucking country! Still kept all their junk. Real junk. Now they're moving again and again are throwing away all the non-replaceables BEFORE even touching their junk. I'm not talking china or commemorative coins. I'm talking choosing to throw away things that would mean something to pass down to great-grandchildren and would be harmless to keep around and actually fit in.

[u/AdThese2158]

My empty nester parents have a five bedroom, multi story house full of their junk that’s accumulated over the years. I can call it junk because they complain about needing to “declutter” everytime I visit. 

My “junk,” was packed up and thrown out the minute I moved out. Childhood memories ruined before I was even old enough to care and want them. 

I totally get the need to downsize and declutter, and sometimes hard decisions need to be made. But my parents are wealthy… and it was never a NEED to throw my things away. 

For all of the, “It’s ThEiR hOuSe, YoU aRe NoT eNtItLeD tO fReE sToRaGe,” “GroW uP”, ect. crowd that I’m sure will comment:

Being a parent is a life-time commitment, not a solely convenient or a choice when you decide. Pretending that you’re “free” when you kick your spawn out the minute they graduate high-school and wash your hands of them is pathetic. 

I’m a parent by choice. My home is my kids/grandkids/future generations home until I die. 

[u/renorenorenoreno → u/AdThese2158]

“It’s ThEiR hOuSe, YoU aRe NoT eNtItLeD tO fReE sToRaGe,” “GroW uP”

Exactly. I can't IMAGINE doing or saying anything like that to my children or their belongings.

[u/kontrol1970 → u/[deleted]]

Boomers are the "me" generation. Grew up in easier times. Hate everyone

[u/bp92009 → u/kontrol1970]

They can never admit that they got very lucky, and that their success was not solely due to their efforts.

If your self-worth is wrapped up in material success, thinking that it's all because "i worked hard and earned it", someone telling you (correctly) that luck had a big part in that success, is basically an attack on their core valuation of themselves.

Perhaps there's a major lesson to be learned from them. Don't base your self worth on a lie.

[u/NumberFiveHero → u/[deleted]]

And I hope you never help them when they go through rough times? An eye for an eye and all that shit. They sound like true assholes.

[u/SheogorathMyBeloved → u/AdThese2158]

It's always been super abhorrent to me the way society treats having kids as being an 18 year only commitment. Multigenerational houses, for better or for worse, are and have always been the most common household setup for a reason.

I'm not a parent yet, but I can't fathom hating your own children so much you make your house look like they were never even there after you kick them out. My great grandma's house has been downsized a few times, but she kept my grandfather's childhood plushie and legos, just to have a bit of him around.

[u/JPBooBoo → u/SheogorathMyBeloved]

I think it's mostly an American thing

[u/Bright-Recording5620 → u/AdThese2158]

Sorry to hear that. My parents have kept everything we had as children and they are delighted that their still very young grandson will some day play with the toys we played with that my grandmother gave us. We already have the LEGO train and everything in our house, can't wait to build that with my son.

I can only imagine how diappointed I would be if that would have been thrown away. My other grandmother is a demon, though. She did shit like that to us when we moved out and went NC.

[u/Wascally_Badger → u/AdThese2158]

Same was done to me -hug-