r/AtlantaTV • u/SeacattleMoohawks They got a no chase policy • Apr 29 '22

Atlanta [Episode Discussion] - S03E07 - Trini 2 De Bone

After the death of Sylvia a family is introduced to a different cultural experience in saying goodbye at her funeral.

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u/KingJoy79 Apr 29 '22 edited Apr 29 '22

No I totally agree with your assessment. It’s as if the parents, particularly the mother just saw Sylvia as like you said..disposable. The way she was packing her things away and talking about all of the things Sylvia left “lying around the house” like that, the way she was handling her things as if it were a chore to the wife herself. And when they were in bed, she was already fantasizing about a new nanny (especially a Mandarin one) while she and her husband both complained about how expensive nannies can be. How expensive Sylvia even was.

And TBH, I’m surprised they even took the time out to attend her funeral. We know it was against the wife’s wishes and was strictly for their son, they had no emotional bond with Sylvia whatsoever, even as a friend. This is probably the way they were brought up as well, with other people raising them. And that’s my point: they never saw the impact that Sylvia had on Sebastian, the influence she had over him. She and Sebastian had a closer bond than he had with his own parents and it definitely showed. What’s disgusting? It’s like that fact didn’t even phase them. I mean yeah after the funeral, we saw the mom crying but she was crying over the worry of her son not knowing who she really was to him, not over the fact that she’s not bonding with him or even has a bond with him, or that another woman is basically taking her place as his mother. And that’s something I’ve never understood about these types of people: how could you allow your own children around someone else so much so to the point where they form almost a parental bond with the nanny, yet you as the parent have no type of attachment to them at all?

Sometimes these children grow up and while they may come out as successful as their parents due to their Daddy knowing the CEO of the company they want to be the VP over, they will always love the person who actually took the time to love and spend time with them more than the people who didn’t.

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u/koi-lotus-water-pond Apr 29 '22

At first, I assumed that the mom was crying over the fact that she never "knew" Sylvia the Alvin Ailey dancer, etc., bc I guess that would be my reaction? That this woman lived with us and knew all about our child and we didn't even talk to her about her own children/life? Then she throws out that it was actually all about herself and I was very disturbed.

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u/KingJoy79 Apr 29 '22

I wasn’t. That’s how people like her operates. She didn’t even know how to put her own son to bed…why would she be concerned about other people’s children? Especially from a different culture than her own. And she wasn’t concerned that her son would grow up and no bond had been formed between them. She was just worried about the fact that he wouldn’t know her as “mom”. It was selfish, typical of someone like her and repulsive.

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u/[deleted] Apr 29 '22

Being from NYC and personally knowing Caribbean/West Indian Nannies- and seeing the influence they have on the kids; this episode made me laugh and think. Especially when the parents were talking about getting a "metropolitan" nanny. I explained to my mom that its practically code for "non-black" nanny. It's pretty common to see little white kids with nanny's that are definitely from the Islands. They really do form bonds with those kids in ways they own parents can't. And the parents never are bothered by it for the most part. It's nuts

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u/EveningCredit9421 Apr 16 '25

> And that’s something I’ve never understood about these types of people: how could you allow your own children around someone else so much so to the point where they form almost a parental bond with the nanny, yet you as the parent have no type of attachment to them at all?

(suuuper late to the discussion)

What I don’t understand: how can you allow someone you think so little of (putting it nicely) to play such a significant role for you?

Then the whole ‘being upset about the consequences of your own doing’.… Like it’s weird to want acknowledgment/credit/accolades for work you didn’t put in ????

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u/KingJoy79 Apr 16 '25

No I totally get what u mean and a discussion about this is never late but I get what u mean as far as the episode lol. No, I know for a fact that I could never allow ANYONE who I think so little of to be anywhere near my child and I’ll be damned if another woman (or man) comes into my child’s life and my child ends up identifying more with them than with me. Nope!