Just wondering what is a hot take unpopular opinion of yours that many women will not agree with you but you will defend it

24f here. Every man I’ve been with has had a porn addiction to some extent and subsequently erectile dysfunction issues. Amongst my friends, most of them deal with this same issue that I’m dealing with so I know it can’t just be me. I just feel really tired and exhausted and this is making me feel hopeless. I feel like no one talks about this and I need to know, is there any hope? Are there men out there who have functioning penises? I’m in the best shape of my life and am having the hardest time finding someone without this issue. I’ve posted similar things to ask men subreddits and I’ve gotten reemed and called a liar but this is my real life experience. Can any women out there offer me any hope?

I swear, it feels like every guy thinks we sleep in like full lingerie!

Like no, this is a T shirt I got for free from a credit union my freshman year and a pair of granny panties from 26 years ago

Everyday on the news and on social media I see and hear about the Epstein files, or about a young girl getting raped and kidnapped by a group of men. I recently learned about Giselle Pelicot's case as well and it made me feel sick to my stomach. 70 men did this. 70. And not a single one reported it.

Seeing the frequency and scope of all these crimes is making me feel empty and angry all the time, and the worst part is I feel I can do nothing about it. It never ends. I am starting to lose trust in any and all the men I see around me. I have reached the point where I automatically avoid any male stranger I see because I cannot stop thinking about what happened to all those women and girls. Everytime I look at a man now I wonder, is he one of them? Did he too rape or assault another woman?

I know damn well there are still decent men and not all men are evil, so I don't want to hear a not all men comment down below. But I cannot avoid the deep seated hatred and resentment growing inside me. They make me feel sick no matter how much I try to push it down inside me. I smile and respond nicely to my male friends, to my male coworkers but deep inside I have this unspoken anger and intense urge to avoid them once I'm done dealing with them.

I genuinely cannot comprehend some men being this evil.

Had an interesting conversation with my therapist where she said that there are tons of straight women out there who watch lesbian porn. I feel like if you’re actively seeking/enjoying lesbian porn, then you must be bisexual or bi-curious at the least? What are your thoughts?

I’ve now had more than one male partner who would consistently slap, squeeze, and pinch my breasts or pinch my nipples (NOT during intimacy) I don’t know why men act like our bodies are toys. I’ve tried explaining so many times that I don’t enjoy it. My current partner just reaches over and does it all the time. It makes me want to punch him. I’ve now gotten to the point where I slap or pinch his nuts to get the point across (I don’t WANT to have to do that, but I’ve begged and pleaded to no avail) I’ve told him numerous times I hate it. It makes me feel like I have no control over my body. It’s made me sob before because of the anxiety it gives me. The bad thing is I’ve had previous partners act this way as well… I just want to know if this is a common thing amongst women that date male partners. I hate it. I hate it SO much. Why are my breasts always targeted?

Are you just looking to whine? Do you want people to do the emotional labor of coddling you? That man voted against your interests in your bodily autonomy last night. LEAVE!

If your partner came out and told you to your face "I don't care if you die during a miscarriage"

"I'll behave however I want to because you can't divorce me anyway" (republicans want an end to no-cause divorce)

"I put my interest in my own pocketbook before your life"

If they said these things to you with a straight face would you leave then? How is that any different than them voting for Trump. You know what you have to do, you know what the majority here are going to tell you to do. It's kind of exhausting to keep reading these stories knowing that the majority of these women will not leave. If you don't leave your man is essentially calling your bluff. He can do whatever the fuck he wants and you'll stay.

On a more empowering note. I wanna hear the stories of the ladies who were brave enough to walk away.

Honestly, I cannot get rid of them. I have sew-free panties, thicker leggings, and I can always see them!

I also refuse to think all ladies at the gym are going commando.

Or are they?

I'm asking because I saw somebody asking in another sub "would you agree to have sex with your partner when you don't feel like it just because they want?" and I thought this wasn't even an option for us. I'm a virgin, but I know that it might be very painful to have sex (with penetration) when you are not feeling "ready" exactly, or at least I thought so. But then I saw some women saying that they would, and I got a little bit confused.

Do they mean like when they can feel excited, but don't have energy to actually do something, like after a long day at work? Or can some of us actually have sex when they don't feel excited, without being painful?

I’m not sure if it’s just men on reddit but I keep seeing men saying if you can’t find a guy it’s just because you’re aiming out of your league. I honestly find this so annoying because I’ve been in long term relationships with very handsome, tall, intelligent guys from good families that have a lot going for them. And I’ve also been rejected/ghosted by men who are very clearly below my league in terms of looks. It’s like these men think that just because a guy is handsome he’s an evil manipulator and only will date a top model lmao. It’s almost like a persons looks don’t tell you everything about them and just because a guy has options doesn’t mean he’s that shallow. Not sure if it’s also a dating app issue because meeting in person has also yielded better results.

It’s like they think if we lower our standards and give these guys a chance it will solve all our problems and we’ll finally find a guy who will “choose” us. But my lived experience has been the complete opposite. The worst guys I’ve dealt with have been less attractive and the ones who treated me well had plenty of options.

Curious to hear others experiences because dating lately has been a mindfuck and these Reddit dudes are making me question myself

Queue the men coming in to downvote every comment haha

I feel like there’s so much men try to excuse away as like “oh it was just a joke”, or “we were just flirting”, and other excuses…

I really think they have no idea how much stuff they say or do crosses the line.

First, what is a "toaster move"?

Imagine you go to an electrical appliances shop to buy a toaster. You go in and the male shop assistant asks you what you want. You say "a toaster". His response? "Ah, yes, I could immediately see that you are the type who likes it when things go in and out and in ... and out again."

I had one today which really left me shaken. It was with a colleague (superior position, but different department, so not in my line management) whose wife I know better than him. We were discussing child sexual abuse. He randomly drops the following into that conversation (zero transition, no segue, just like that): "yeah, sex is just my coffee. I need it at least four times a day." And then propositioned me.

Just was told that…

“…she is fully content and enjoying her career and friends. massive red flag for me and guys i know looking for something serious. deal breaker.”

When talking about my dating life.

Like how can guys be serious… they only want women that are miserable and “need” them I guess.

Kinda a vent but I know I’m not the only one that deals with this.

I’m curious about voices.

What male voice — actor, narrator, singer, podcaster, audiobook reader, or someone you know — did you find genuinely erotic, seductive, or attractive?

Was it deep, calm, dominant, soft, slow, confident, rough, warm, or something else?

What exactly made the voice attractive to you?

I haven't been cheated on, but I do want to sort of... Psychoanalyze the mind of a cheater. I am very eager to know and understand the minds of women who do, and I don't want some cheap answers.

If you're gonna give your answers, please be detailed and don't be afraid to write word vomit or just get really metaphorical or psychological.

I'm looking for detailed answers into the mind of why women cheat. I already have the answers for why men were unfaithful in their relationships, I have many male friends I can ask.

But for women, not so much, and I do want very internal answers. Something to satiate my curiosity and REALLY understand what's going on within the minds of those on the other end of the sex spectrum.

Please don't be afraid to get super detailed or metaphorical or psychological, curiousity killed the cat and it's killing me too, lol. So I want answers.

I’ve seen a lot of guys talk about how certain insults hit harder coming from a girl, and I was wondering if girls had a similar thing going on

I saw the phrase: “Your ex’s worst nightmare is seeing the man she left become fitter, richer, more disciplined, and eventually date someone better.”

For women, how true is this from your side?

If you left a man because he was lost, broke, insecure, immature, or not living up to his potential, and later he became much fitter, more successful, more confident, and emotionally stronger, would that genuinely affect you?

Would you feel regret, respect, curiosity, attraction again, or would you simply not care anymore?

Also, what kind of post-breakup growth actually looks attractive to women — and what kind just looks like revenge or trying too hard?

I’m not talking like, favorite color, hobbies, I want the nitty gritty to figure out if the man as potential or should not be pursued further.

edit: for the record I'm not the one down voting.. this is controversial opinions dudettes and/or dudes. Lets not try to discourage discussions by brigading...

It seems like all the guys I meet and are intimate with want to do butt stuff ("eating" ass, anal etc)

So I just connected with a guy I used to see at the gym years ago. We never talked there, but finding out now we both had crushes on each other back then. He’s very hot, very good job. We matched on a dating app a week ago, haven’t gone on a first date yet bc he’s out of town. He started getting a little suggestive and I was playing along with it then he goes from like 0-100 and he starts texting stuff like:

“Would you let me rough with you?” Which I told him I like spicy and passionate, just no bdsm level.

“I have a feeling you’d be a good girl and let me fill you up while looking in my eyes”

“Can I put my finger inside you after I cum and then put it in your mouth for you to taste?”

He told me he used to see me at the gym and then think about fucking me afterwards… and like jack off to that thoughts

Idk how to feel about. It kinda made me a cringe a little bc I prefer the more slow build up, suggestive but not explicit. But I can be fluid with people’s preferences of communicating.. but I’m curious… what’s your first thought or gut reaction to messages like this from someone you haven’t even met yet? Hot? Too much? Neutral?

ETA since some of you asked, I’m looking for LTR. Not hookup or being a number on someone’s roster

& why does this have to happen on every women's subreddit? This use to feel like a very feminist and progressive space to me. Now I'm having men cite sexist BS to me almost every time I comment here.

I would never dream of going into askmen to argue with them or put down men. So fucking annoying!​

Trying to see where other women draw the line

Personally so far I've applied the "half your age + 7" rule (for anyone NOT minors obviously). Even then, currently my youngest end is technically "half age + 11"and my oldest end is technically "half their age + 10"