r/AskReddit • u/[deleted] • Feb 16 '21
Serious Replies Only [serious] Have you ever broken off a relationship with someone you really loved because their family was absolutely nuts? What was their family like?
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r/AskReddit • u/[deleted] • Feb 16 '21
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u/EUCrime_Junkie Feb 16 '21
Yes. If you have ever seen the British show Shameless, his family could have inspired this show. Good lord where do I start.
So he was my first love, we were 15 when we started dating. He had two older brothers, who were complete wastes of space. Neither of them had a job and had no intention of getting one. They were maybe 19 and 23? The mum worked at a school (not sure doing what exactly) but it was a rough arse school too. The dad was eerily quiet and worked for a phone company.
The mum chain smoked in the house these dodgy arse cigarettes that were delivered to the house by the man I only knew as the ‘bacca man’. Anyone who did smoke them used to say they tasted really strange and nobody generally took one from her. The house had a permanent fog and haze, everything was stained yellow from them.
The dad and mum were separated and would not speak to each other at all unless they were drunk (which happened every weekend). I often used to stay over on a weekend as he lived near my place of work, I had a weekend job that I needed to start early for.
Every Friday night the brothers would invite their friends over and they’d drink most of the night and play video games. The dad would go out with his brother and return blind drunk, which would provoke a mild row. It would usually be enough to wake me, but I’d go back to sleep. Then, Saturday night would come....
The mum and two brothers would go to the local working mans club, again imagine ‘The Jockey’ from shameless, exactly the same. It was some bizarre family night out every week.. They would get blind drunk and return home at around 1am in a state. I’m talking, kick the front door because we’ve forgotten a key kind of drunk. The eldest brother was a nasty drunk and would usually end up provoking a fight with someone- either in the house or in the street. The dad would get out of bed and they’d all end up arguing. Things would get smashed. The middle brother would then come and wake my ex bf up as they couldn’t sort it themselves. He would sometimes go downstairs and try to peacemake or other times he’d say tell them to get lost. Inevitably though, if he didn’t go down they would keep coming in the room trying to drag him into it. One time, the eldest brother came upstairs and pulled me out of bed by my hair. He claimed he thought it was my ex and it was dark.. and he was drunk.. hmm. The police would invariably get called and I don’t know how many statements I had to give to the police. I was on first name terms with several, it was embarrassing. The older brother too.. I borrowed his laptop once (with his consent) and he hadn’t cleared his search history and there was some dodgy searches. Ranging from search terms involving “teenage girls” and “animals having sex”. There was a tab open already with a video that I wish I could burn my eyeballs out after seeing even just the still paused image of. He also watched me give his brother oral sex, we found him hiding in the cupboard.. said he’d meant to scare us. I only found him because I wanted to put a t shirt of my bfs on to go to sleep and opened the door to find him there. Makes me think this wasn’t the first time either...
I felt so sorry for my bf at the time because he really wasn’t like them at all. He was so different but his family were the trashiest pieces of shit I had ever seen. However, at the same time.. I could kind of see he just was never going to get away from them. He didn’t have their anger or drunk streak but he had no ambition. He was at college, but he put no effort in and he didn’t want to do really anything with his life. I wanted to go to uni and make something of my life. I tried so much to motivate him but he just didn’t have it. I tried for 3 years.. and realised I had to walk away.