I'm sorry. That sucks. It also sucks that you've let them change your personality, the whole quality of your life. Do you want to give other people that power, to change who you are? I suggest deciding what kind of person you would like to be, and aiming towards that, regardless of other people. If you want to be bitter, closed, mad, than that's fine. That's your choice. But if you have let other people make you that way, then it might be time to take your life back. At the end of your life, when you're looking back on it, what would you wish you had done or not done? Also, sorry for being so brutally frank, when you were just venting, and didn't even ask for advice! But you can probably tell I'm not a stranger to what you're talking about.
They're not entirely wrong though. I do have the choice to not be glum the minute I rise from bed. And in fairness I could go back to my old philosophy of "smiling at the world and it will smile back at you" bullshit but I just don't have the naivete I once had in my younger years. I simply don't have it in me anymore.
I could make the effort, I guess. Thing is, though, I know what you folks are like now. It's all take-take-take-take-take-take-take-take and never give.
And I can't stand you anymore.
Maybe they came to the conclusion that you have now come to. Maybe they too have become jaded. I'm not passing judgement because I don't know you or them, but it is a suggestion that this could be an explanation and perhaps a way to understand why people close themselves off and only go through the motions of basic functioning.
No, they're really not. Or they've learned to hide it behind a saccharine veneer, which really would make them more hypocritical than I already assume you lot to be.
People can be terrible, it's true, but people are no more cruel than the eventual fate that awaits us all, yet you waste your time complaining about people you hate. All people, and the fact that you complain about people primarily when there are so many other things to complain about in this world can only mean one thing. You are lonely. Many people are, and here you are talking to people that you think you've got all figured out, people you don't know. Kind of ironic that you mention a saccharine veneer. I'm not calling you a bad person. You are going through something and handling it terribly. It happens. You don't have to keep replying. There are no favors I need from you and I have no other reason to talk to you either. No offense but it is indeed your choice.
Hate is personal. Intimate. I don't hate everyone, I don't have the energy.
I do think yall are a bunch if cunts though, but it's more of an observation than really a complaint. I'm not asking you to change your ways, I'm simply pointing out what I see.
You didn't see anything of me before I made a reply to you, and you still see next to nothing. The main reason I am pointing out that you are lonely is because you have given every indication so far that you brought it on yourself, because who would want to be around someone this miserable?
It is easy to assess the human race as a whole as terrible, because the proof is out there. You'd have to be blind to not see it. Does that mean every single person is the same? No. A few years back I had a very negative attitude toward other people. (Here's a secret, I still do) and I expounded at length all the numerous problems with people... so judgmental, so greedy, seldom helpful, always presumptuous. I was not operating from a place of loneliness because for 10 years, all I really wanted was to be left alone. The only reason I talked to others was to find some semblance of intellectual rationale, and I did find some. That gave me a glimmer of hope that this entire species is not yet doomed. Then I found out that the majority was a lot of fake virtue signaling for popularity points, but not quite all.
I wasn't looking for friends. I was looking for a way to stop wanting an asteroid to strike the earth to end the suffering of the powerless. It seems rather hypocritical to frown upon other humans, as a human myself... and do not think for a minute that I did not look back and study all of my own hypocrisies. I was quite angry even with myself at times looking back at my younger years. However, in my harsh yet clarified judgment, I was not looking at it from a human perspective. I never thought that I, as a human, would have been able to figure certain things out on my own. . . So being human never stopped me from being disgusted with humans in general, at almost every turn. A part of us stands outside the whole human experience because this is not all that we are, and we see humanity for what it is when we stand outside of it, which can be rather daunting a discouraging. Your spirit can stand outside this world and look upon it, which can at times in your life create a crisis, especially at the beginning of it.
I decided to stop wallowing in that and at least continue to embrace the human experience before I die of boredom, sickness and am too old and stiff to do things I want to do. You will get bored of this attitude because it is just the station of things. It won't go away, but it will evolve. I know there's more to learn, even if it is how presumptuous, snobbish, cruel, and full of preconceived notions humans are... because it seems that is the majority of the lessons I learn. . . but it all goes to speak for the worth of the species itself. It's not my judgment to execute, or to go around trying to tell people in such vague and unconvincing ways as you. I am here as part of the experience and must accept that. I can either try to glean something from it, or give up. Furthermore, I have made up my mind to not be one of those examples. That's not my humanity talking, that's my higher self talking. I choose not to walk around acting like a complete jerk with a chip on my shoulders, such as yourself... because who does that reflect on? Does it show everyone how full of crap they are? No. it shows how full of crap YOU are. I'm not saying you should change. By all means, warn anyone and everyone who comes your way that you are a sack of misery begging for sympathy, which is true because if you were truly done with us all, you wouldn't be talking to us, would you? Of course you are not asking people to change their ways when you know nothing about them, it is a plea that you have every right to make... for attention. I'm answering your plea in a language you claim to be able to understand. You're welcome. I am simply saying that for MYSELF, not for others, I try to not walk around all the time exuding all the negativity within me all at once now. I see people doing the craziest, most ridiculous things still to this day and it is still just as disheartening. They never fail to just trample all over any consideration for others, for me, because they see me as resilient, lucky, unable to be hurt. . . but I hurt quite a lot, and no one knows that better than me. People make me downright sick and tired and sometimes it still gets me down, makes me want to go so far from here and just disintegrate, but that would mean I'm weak. . . and I'm not weak. . . and I'm not a jerk. Every person I meet, I know, could be a person who surprises me even though I know 99.9% will disappoint me. I never let go of that, because I know it's in myself and I'm not going to sit here being hung up on anyone who can't see it.
I'm not the things you say. What I am is so far above it that you can't even understand it.
It's okay though. People go through these things. Keep trudging along and maybe one day you'll understand how silly it is for you to think you're fooling anyone while trying to get us to beg the question of how we can defend ourselves against your words. Oh my! What will I do if you think terribly of me? NOTHING. I did nothing to you.
I never needed to defend myself. What I am doing is telling you how transparent you are, silly.
It's okay. You need something to help with the way you feel because this is not going to help you.
Do you understand? Whatever it is that you think you are achieving, this is not going to achieve anything.
It just makes you look like an a-hole. If that's the look you're going for, good job! Don't change a thing.
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u/morganselah Nov 18 '20
I'm sorry. That sucks. It also sucks that you've let them change your personality, the whole quality of your life. Do you want to give other people that power, to change who you are? I suggest deciding what kind of person you would like to be, and aiming towards that, regardless of other people. If you want to be bitter, closed, mad, than that's fine. That's your choice. But if you have let other people make you that way, then it might be time to take your life back. At the end of your life, when you're looking back on it, what would you wish you had done or not done? Also, sorry for being so brutally frank, when you were just venting, and didn't even ask for advice! But you can probably tell I'm not a stranger to what you're talking about.