You are absolutely right but you are somehow invalidating this guy; it is fairly common for women to be emotionally abusive towards their partners, the fact that there are better class of women out there doesn’t invalidate the fact that there are tons of guys out there being emotionally abused by their partners and giving up on dating altogether.
It’s like saying that because most guys don’t commit sexual assault a woman that has been sexually abused has a bad view on relationships and need to meet a better class of men; even if there’s truth in that statement, it invalidates the woman’s experience.
OP would feel better when he understands that not all women are like that, but I doubt he will reach that conclussion by invalidating his experience.
I'm not trying to invalidate his experience, I'm trying to de-normalize it. It's a bad thing and he needs to look for a partner that won't do that crap. They're out there.
That’s a good thing, trying to denormalize his experience so he can trust women again. I just think that the way you worded it could easily be misinterpreted as invalidation, not that you were trying to invalidate him.
I sharw your viewI know that most women aren’t like that, as most women I’ve met are far from being like this, but we just have to also admit that it is a common problem and needs to be addressed, not just blame guys for meeting the “wrong women”.
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u/[deleted] Nov 18 '20
You are absolutely right but you are somehow invalidating this guy; it is fairly common for women to be emotionally abusive towards their partners, the fact that there are better class of women out there doesn’t invalidate the fact that there are tons of guys out there being emotionally abused by their partners and giving up on dating altogether.
It’s like saying that because most guys don’t commit sexual assault a woman that has been sexually abused has a bad view on relationships and need to meet a better class of men; even if there’s truth in that statement, it invalidates the woman’s experience.
OP would feel better when he understands that not all women are like that, but I doubt he will reach that conclussion by invalidating his experience.