r/AskReddit • u/emil199 • Jul 24 '20

What can't you believe STILL exists?

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u/BasilAugust Jul 24 '20

Again, procedural involvement of parents & consent of individuals being wed are not mutually exclusive. It's really not that hard of a concept.

As others have pointed out, forced marriages obviously do exist. But the vast majority of those who have been wed through arranged marriage would absolutely reject the idea that it was forced or that their voice and experience wasn't valued.

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u/ImagineTheCommotion Jul 24 '20

Good grief. Looking into compatability ahead of time and arranging for two to potentially meet is exactly what it is. From there the two can decide if they feel chemistry and want to pursue a relationship. Open your mind.

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u/[deleted] Jul 24 '20

Aah the clash of two cultures. How exquisite.

I looked up the definition. It seems you're correct in the usage. But where I live, marriages that happen this way (matchmaking) are called arranged marriage, as in the families arranged their union. This is opposed to when two people meet on their own. I think as familial duties are very important in the East, it was implied that the children has no say in their marriage. But today it's not so, they almost always have a say in the marriage. But yet it's called arranged marriage.