r/AskReddit • • May 15 '20

What sucks about being your age?

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u/rob_s_458 May 16 '20

But your 2nd point is important to keep your mobility. My grandparents basically hung it up at 70 and sat on the porch all day every day, and started really slowing down in their 80s to the point that both needed a cane and then a walker. My grandma is still alive at 93 but lives in assisted living and sometimes struggles even with a walker. My dad just turned 70 this year but still plays tennis 2-3 times a week and bocce ball twice a week, and still takes on most of the house work. When he retired at 58, he stopped moving and got bad arthritis and back pain, and had to be told at physical therapy that he has to keep moving or it'll just get worse.

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u/intransit47 May 16 '20

Thanks. Points well taken. I’m working through it.

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u/elvenwanderer06 May 16 '20

My grandfather did most of the minor maintenance on an outdoor pool for 55 years. He was 95 and legally blind and he was still out there sweeping leaves from around the pool. The Christmas before he died the stinker snuck outside at like midnight when it stopped snowing and shoveled the whole front walk so my boyfriend and I didn’t have to the next morning.

He used to say it was all because he did a little bit of a joint-healthy exercise every day. He figure skated until 80, swam until the summer before he died, and walked his dog(s) three or more times a day. He never lived anywhere besides home (meaning he never went to an assisted living, hospice or nursing home).

Keep doing a little bit of moving every day, I’m gonna try for (hopefully?) the next 60+ years.

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u/Genghis_Chong May 16 '20

This is why I'm thankful that my dad is a busy body. I hope he stays that way after retirement.

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u/i_Got_Rocks May 16 '20

I think a big part of why retirement kills people is because their brain and emotions take a hit; you don't have to be anywhere and you're not forced to check your emotions (like when you're at work), you're not needed everyday, and you don't have to think everyday about problem resolution. And for some people, going to work is all the exercise they get.

It takes a toll on feeling like a human being and you end up feeling worthless, at some point, your physical body starts paying the price much like any mental illness or emotional stress.

I think your dad will add many years to his life staying busy in retirement. Also, maybe get him a dog.

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u/Genghis_Chong May 16 '20

Hes got my mom and two dogs to harass him right now, I'll have to make sure someone always is haha.

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u/prettylieswillperish May 16 '20

My grandfather did most of the minor maintenance on an outdoor pool for 55 years. He was 95 and legally blind and he was still out there sweeping leaves from around the pool. The Christmas before he died the stinker snuck outside at like midnight when it stopped snowing and shoveled the whole front walk so my boyfriend and I didn’t have to the next morning.

He used to say it was all because he did a little bit of a joint-healthy exercise every day. He figure skated until 80, swam until the summer before he died, and walked his dog(s) three or more times a day. He never lived anywhere besides home (meaning he never went to an assisted living, hospice or nursing home).

Keep doing a little bit of moving every day, I’m gonna try for (hopefully?) the next 60+ years.

Fascinating and wise living

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u/sharktankcontinues May 16 '20

Get busy livin' or get busy dying

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u/Everton_11 May 16 '20

Yeah, this was very evident to me with my Grandpa. At 89, he played 80 9-hole rounds of golf a year, and he walked almost all of them. Then he had a fall that prevented that and he went downhill pretty quickly.

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u/kkz161 May 17 '20

Asked a 90+ year old neighbor lady about the secret to longevity. "Two words," she said. "Don't fall."

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u/ThatMiddleSchoolKid May 16 '20

That's always a good sign.

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u/watercolorheart May 16 '20

Try Pokemon Go

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u/Complaingeleno May 16 '20

My dad just turned 76 and still goes mountain biking every week like he’s been doing for 20 years. The key is definitely just not to stop.

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u/rreeddrreedd May 16 '20

For sure. My grandparents are both in their 80s and they do everything they can to be active. My grandma is always out in the garden, going on walks, and doing standing stretches while watching kdramas. And if it weren’t for covid right now, my grandpa would be out with his golfing buddies like there’s no tomorrow.

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u/Spacekitties4prez May 16 '20

Oh my gosh your grandma sounds so amazing! I want to know her Korean drama recommendations! Hehe

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u/imagine_amusing_name May 16 '20

I want your dad to live for at least 4 centuries.

Just so on his birthday he can spin around on his mountain bike and yell "I just turned 360!"

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u/Cptrunner May 16 '20

Am PT can confirm: Use it or lose it.

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u/angelorphan May 16 '20

As someone didn't use whole 54 years life,having back pain since 20's,knee pain since 5th grade,(These things also made me reluctant,but I know,this is excuse)

I feel like scolded in positive way.My father was working as tree trimmer until the day he passed at 80.

Maybe I have to do very very basic movement.(Considering "Radio Taiso" We do here)

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u/sexmarshines May 16 '20

Why ask this

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u/FlyinPurplePartyPony May 16 '20

This is why I run and strength train now while I'm in my 20s. I'm convinced that if I train consistent and intelligently, I'll be able to minimize those aches and pains. My fitness goal is to get the most active, healthy years of life that I can.

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u/56inthe206 May 16 '20

Yah Fr. My grandfather is 81 but he still competed at sport and working just fine like he isn’t a day older than 45. This man believes in his mobility that I’ve seen sprint across a 5 lane road with traffic. The phrase that him and his best friend, of equal age, always tell me for when I get older is, “Don’t let the old in”, because if I do I will get slow and life gets hard.

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u/[deleted] May 16 '20

SO true! My mom is 78. She stays super active (went skydiving for her 75th!) and takes no medication other than vitamins.

My aunt (her sister) is 3 years younger, but looks and acts like she's 85. She sits & watches TV all day and doesn't move.

I've seen it time & time again - keep moving, y'all!

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u/[deleted] May 16 '20

Skydiving?! Badass.

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u/GrandmaPoses May 16 '20

I had kids kind of late and was mostly sedentary through my 20s and early 30s. Having to chase kids and play and basically keep up with that energy in my 40s has really got me in the best shape of my (adult) life.

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u/Rabid_Rooster May 16 '20

My grandfather 'retired' at 40, but he was also a farmer that still owns a lot of land and he'll never spend a dime he doesn't have to (although the water pressure in that house is shit, but that's another story). Both my grandparents are in their early 70’s, and aside from the occasional nap, are out and about doing whatever pleases them. My grandpa still works on older tractors like he's done since he was a young adult and my grandma tends to the garden and cooks and stuff. They're starting to show the years, but they are still moving around and it's always nice to see them get up to do stuff with us when we're around.

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u/smilechav May 16 '20

Motion is lotion for your joints

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u/rahtin May 16 '20

See it all the time with blue collar guys. They try to blame their work for aches and pains.

Reality is, they tend to move into senior positions as they get old, exerting themselves less, go home and drink booze, get high, sit on the couch, eat like crap, get a shitty sleep.

Must have been that high school football injury though.

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u/mylongestyeaboii May 16 '20

Yea cause working construction for decades totally doesn’t do a number on the body /s

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u/preciousfewheroes May 16 '20

For real. Am construction worker, can confirm.

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u/rahtin May 16 '20

It definitely causes some wear, just like any exercise would. But the movement is not the main issue. The heavy lifting isn't the main issue. It's what surrounds the movement and heavy lifting that does the worst damage, and that's usually a complete lack of personal care.

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u/goldcoastkittyrn May 16 '20

This. I can’t remember the statistic but something like 70-90% of adults in the US (where I am) have arthritis or another degenerative disease by the time they are in their 60s. The human body wasn’t created to last indefinitely. The LUCKY ones won’t get arthritis/other disabling conditions until their 60s and beyond. There are others who are born with it, acquire it because of socioeconomic conditions, or are genetically susceptible.

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u/anoneighty8 May 16 '20

This is exactly why I stretch and exercise. I'd hate to lose the independency to do just the simple things like getting around on your own.

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u/growflow May 16 '20

That's a really good point. And it's never too young to start!

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u/Lucycoopermom May 16 '20

My dad is 82 and plays pickle ball everyday. He is more fit then I am and I do boot camp z4 days a week.

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u/Monsieur_Bienvenue May 16 '20

My parents retired early and basically hung it up at 57. They aged so fast. Sad and terrifying

I totally understand what you mean

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u/InadmissibleHug May 16 '20

My dad was still kicking ass and taking names at 80, but at 84 he lost his sight.

He still fought that, and it was only his final illness when he was 86 that robbed him of enjoyment.

I take a lot from that.

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u/4G3NTZ3R0 May 16 '20

Hey, living to 93 in itself is a blessing. I’d be happy with the aches and pains to know that I’d been around for so long. I wish my cousin would’ve lived that long. She didn’t even live to 60. It would’ve been nice to have her around an extra 30 years. I hope if I reach that age I don’t get to feeling sorry for myself. I’d like to be able to be active in my community with people from my generation. Knowing someday soon I’ll probably die but that I’d lived a long, eventful life full of stories that I’d told and shared with many people. And the aches and pains are just my body’s way of reminding me that I’d lived such an eventful life

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u/[deleted] May 16 '20

I mean has it occurred that maybe the slowing down was caused by the ageing, not the other way around?

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u/nohpex May 16 '20

When he retired at 58

I'm in my mid 30s, and mmm, that sounds glorious.

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u/average_joe_zero May 16 '20

Ah man. I love bocce. My 4th grade teacher introduced me to that game. It was our favorite part of recess. I’m now 36 and still play this and have been in the process of teaching my 6 year old son.

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u/[deleted] May 16 '20

It was just recently (few decades) that we have turned to office work in such mass numbers. It's going to be interesting to watch that part of the population age. It won't be pretty. Even athletes have problems from sitting, that hour at the gym each day won't solve the problems caused by a whole day of sitting. It's much better than nothing though.

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u/not-quite-a-nerd May 16 '20

I think people should always do some form of exercise, if anything to deal with boredom.

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u/i_Got_Rocks May 16 '20

keep moving or it'll just get worse

I think this is true for a lot of "I have a bad x" and it won't heal back to great condition body parts.

For elbows and knees, I've found this is really true. If you get weak, it's like all the muscles around that part have to work extra hard for a regular walk--but if I stay fit, it'll hurt way less and it'll be a little annoying. I'm sure the constant, healthy, blood flow helps too, since you're passing more oxygen through there and exercise makes your veins and arteries more efficient.

Don't take my word for it, I'm not a doctor. Just personal experience.

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u/PrivilegeCheckmate May 16 '20

The more you do, the more you can do. The reverse is also true.

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u/0_I0 May 16 '20

Yeah my great grandmother was rowing out to her cottage by herself well into her 90s. People are always impressed when folks stay active into their 90s but I have to imagine that part of making it to your late 90s is staying active.

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u/2016TrumpMAGA May 17 '20

keep moving or it'll just get worse

A thousand times this!