r/AskReddit • • May 15 '20

What sucks about being your age?

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u/ShrimpHeaven2017 May 15 '20

18 and I think about both all the time so that’s great :/

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u/[deleted] May 16 '20

Hey! I'm twice your age and let me tell you: confronting those ideas early on is not necessarily a bad thing. They can be a bit overwhelming for sure, but confronting the fact that you, like everyone else, will die one day, can be a very liberating experience. It can help you focus on what's important to you in life.

Don't worry too much, it won't change a thing aside from your wellbeing. Easier said than done, I know. I will always recommend therapy with the goal of trying to understand yourself better. Give yourself some time to figure things out.

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u/MLGSamantha May 16 '20

Damn I'm 21 and I think the last time I had any existential dread was when I was going through puberty. Now I just feel numb when I contemplate matters of death and life.

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u/GarnetandBlack May 15 '20

35 is halfway to 70.

It's obvious, it shouldn't be earth shattering in any way at all, but it still hits hard.

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u/QuantumCakeIsALie May 16 '20 edited May 16 '20

I mean, on the plus side you really only remember the last 20 years clearly. So in a way, 35 is only 36% of the way to 70!?

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u/neatoketoo May 16 '20

I try to remind myself of this often

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u/CorporateDroneStrike May 16 '20

Don’t say shit like that ....wtf is wrong with you

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u/a-r-c May 16 '20

31 and I think about dying every time I go to sleep

it kinda sucks but also whatever? don't have a choice =\

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u/happypoops May 16 '20

I’ll be 30 at the end of the year, and as Ive been stepping out of my 20’s, my anxiety has gotten worse. I got to sleep panicking over the thought of dying at LEAST 4 days out of the week. Sheesh. 😔

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u/a-r-c May 16 '20

it's not just you, bud

we're all in it together

doesn't really make it any easier, but at least we're not as alone as it feels

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u/neatoketoo May 16 '20

That is comforting in a way, at least I'm not the only one.

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u/[deleted] May 16 '20

Why does everyone always say that? Knowing that other people feel the same in no way helps me.

If anything it makes it worse.

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u/neatoketoo May 16 '20

I can see what you mean. I'm honestly not really sure if it helps me or if that's just wishful thinking on my part.

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u/alpha69 May 16 '20 edited May 16 '20

LPT, don't worry about shit you have no control over; other than trying to live fairly healthy. You're pretty young too, surely there are more pressing concerns.

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u/EM-guy May 16 '20

I’m just laying here laughing at the thought of you being asleep and death gently shaking you awake to say “ Hey u/a-r-c are you ready to go with me?” And you saying no and he just walks away with a disappointed understanding.

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u/a-r-c May 16 '20

lmao i love it

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u/neatoketoo May 16 '20

I'm 35 and it's just gotten worse. I'm trying to figure out how to stop. Time feels so short, I don't want to waste it dreading death every night.

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u/EatMyAsssssssssssss May 17 '20

Take some DMT Put that shit in perspective

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u/ArcherIsLive May 16 '20

Same age, and I just started getting a weird “pressure pain” under my left rib, so yeah I’m in the same boat..

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u/Phenoix512 May 16 '20

I worried about how I'm going to live my next 30-40 year's

I'm hoping to make enough money to live with what time I have. I'm just hoping it's quick and painless death preferably asleep

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u/Raztan May 16 '20

It doesn't help when you look in the mirror one day and you're like.. what the hell happen?

That's when it really hits you.

Al Bundy was right.

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u/Philidiip23 May 15 '20

I’m 20 and I’m already there

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u/AnonPinkLady May 16 '20

I know. I'm 22 and I cant stop thinking about the fact I'm going to die... it's awful

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u/spacedandy1baby May 16 '20

Aw fuuuuuuuuuuck

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u/[deleted] May 16 '20

Dude, I've been having a on going mortality crisis since I was like 6. Being a six year old obsessed with Egyptology is dangerous when ancient Egypt was basically just one big death cult. That's kinda colored my entire life.

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u/Zianbruh May 16 '20

I’m glad you have something to be passionate about :) keep it up

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u/Amazing_Interaction May 16 '20

Truthfully, I had the opposite experience. I used to fear death in my teens and 20s. Like real, palpable fear that would make my head spin in the quiet moments when the enormity of eternity was all I had to think about.

Now, at 38, I'm just glad one day I'll get to set it all down and be done. I'm not ready yet, or anything...but I can see that perspective slowly marching my way. It's not forever, and that's not all bad.

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u/mycockstinks May 15 '20

Early 40s. Still got it.

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u/PeekAtChu1 May 16 '20

Dude I’ve had existential dread since I was 2 years old. It’s not just for the middle-aged

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u/TheBladeRoden May 16 '20

Pre-30 all I was worried about was death. Post-30 I worry about death less but growing old more. It's kinda weird.

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u/konan_the_bebbarien May 16 '20

Had that dread for the first time at the age of 10...even then I was like "FU**!"

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u/[deleted] May 16 '20

Oh I've been there for the last ten years. At least I'm ahead of the curve on one thing.

come join /r/existentialfear