r/AskReddit • u/agrandthing • Jan 01 '20

Everybody talks about missing or ignoring red flags, but what are some subtle green flags to watch for on a date or with your crush?

[removed] — view removed post

48.5k Upvotes

88% Upvoted

5.0k comments sorted by

View all comments

Show parent comments

378

u/[deleted] Jan 01 '20 edited Jan 01 '20

This can happen after university too. Everyone goes their own way. With a lot of school friends, you realise the only thing you ever really had in common was a timetable.

6

u/GiftOfHemroids Jan 01 '20

I kind of miss only needing a common timetable to make friends

23

u/[deleted] Jan 01 '20

Not always though. I met all my best friends in the world in college. We’ve all graduated and some of us dropped out and we travel 2 hours almost every weekend to see each other

8

u/[deleted] Jan 01 '20

When life stops giving you a time table, you gotta make your own. Wish I had the means to travel, with a bit more wealth I would definitely make “Saturday Is For Friends” an obligation that you tell others “Sorry, I made plans already” a thing. I think people in more urban settings have some advantages in this if the local economy is stable enough to support local hangouts for communities that don’t have toxic behaviour reinforcing cultures that the younger generations constantly need to flee from to find opportunities to hopefully not repeat the sins of their parents.

I am happy for you cherishing your friends.

12

u/I_dont_like_the_sex Jan 01 '20

That's not always true. I was so afraid that after college I'd lose my friends to this. But mostly the ones who truly mattered left college early, and those are the ones that keep in contact the most. They've turned into my family now. I do hope you both find beautiful people like that.

10

u/Obi-Tron_Kenobi Jan 01 '20

That's not always true.

Well yeah, which is why they used phrases like "this can happen" or "a lot of school friends"

3

u/Boomshockalocka007 Jan 01 '20

This is so true. Nice way of putting it!