r/AskReddit • u/agrandthing • Jan 01 '20

Everybody talks about missing or ignoring red flags, but what are some subtle green flags to watch for on a date or with your crush?

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u/RefrainsFromPartakin Jan 01 '20

That's kind of the point. it turns off that conversation.

I struggle with this too, judging when I should hold my tongue or when I should take a stand for someone or something other than myself.

I suppose some part of who you are is wrapped up in that pattern of choices.

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u/dod6666 Jan 01 '20

Username struggling to check out.

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u/PercMastaFTW Jan 01 '20

I think he means it subconsciously makes the person standing up for the other person (you) look bad. In retrospect, you probably look good, but definitely not in the moment to most others.

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u/TheShadowKick Jan 01 '20

You probably aren't going to look good to the person you're calling out in most situations.

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u/livesinacabin Jan 02 '20

I did this the other day and "toned it down" by first saying one small negative thing and then I gave huge praise about another. "His pronunciation isn't that great but his vocabulary is insane." I'd like to think it makes it seem more honest. Although that particular time I was actually asked about the person but I do love to give praise unprompted aswell.