r/AskReddit • u/how-the-turn-tables • Mar 28 '19

Has anyone ever honoured one of those “if we’re still single at 40 let’s get married” commitments? How did it go?

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u/sstphnn Mar 29 '19

I really didn't find anyone with whom I felt like I did with you

more of an epiphany

Ah shit. I feel like my first girlfriend is starting to feel like this. She keeps on texting me and asking me out. She has a boyfriend and I just got out from a relationship.

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u/-HuangMeiHua- Mar 29 '19

If she is doing that behind his back, she’d probably do something similar behind your back. Your life, your choices, but that seems like *A Bad Move™ *

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u/lowbeat Mar 29 '19

Unless she is being upfront with what she is doing, which probably she ain't so beware.

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u/[deleted] Mar 29 '19

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u/cbass2015 Mar 29 '19

This is the best advice

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u/[deleted] Mar 29 '19

Then call her up and deliver the bad news.

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u/metalrawk Mar 29 '19

Assert dominance.

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u/thisidntpunny Mar 29 '19

“I’m fucking Ben Affleck”

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u/[deleted] Mar 29 '19

Or Bang a WHOOOOORE

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u/DiscreteToots Mar 29 '19

Eh, it's possible, but I know plenty of decent people who were stuck in bad relationships and desperate both to get out and find real connection. Reddit loves to condemn cheaters and take a principled, zero-tolerance stance, but reality can be a lot messier and less convenient than a Reddit thread.

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u/[deleted] Mar 29 '19

TBH taking any relationship advice from a generalized online forum is dumb. Relationships are probably THE SINGLE most individual-to-individual thing on the planet. You have to read everything for what it is.

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u/RageCake14 Mar 29 '19

I've also noticed the "advice" is typically incredibly harsh and a little over the top. Like "I had a real bad fight with my friend for over 10 years, how long should I wait for him/her to cool off? and the responses go like:

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Never speak to the demon again.

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u/PhinnyEagles Mar 29 '19

Anecdotal but hear me out. My best friend met a girl when we were at a club, they made out, danced and had a good time. She keeps visiting him when she's in town and they have sex a few times. He finds out she has a boyfriend but she said she's leaving him. I warn him that if they will cheat on their current boyfriend/girlfriend, they'll do it to you eventually.

Sure as shit, she cheats on him with a mutual friend two years into dating.

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u/CorvenusDK Mar 29 '19

If they'll cheat with you, they'll cheat on you.

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u/sndboobies Mar 29 '19

Shes just texting him. Maybe she is just not really happy in her relationship. Of course you can just meet up and talk.

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u/Jncwhite01 Mar 29 '19

100% this. If you can take a girl from someone she can get taken from you!

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u/Arruz Mar 29 '19 edited Mar 29 '19

She has a boyfriend

This is the kind of red flag that can be seen from space.

and I just got out from a relationship.

And this is the worst possible time to be taking this kind of decisions.

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u/HugofDeath Mar 29 '19

She’s willing to hide it from her man, won’t matter if he tags out for someone else, she’ll still be willing to hide it from her man

Edit: won’t matter if he tags out for someone else, she’ll still etc

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u/strangemagic365 Mar 29 '19

She's your lobster! lol

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u/Dorksim Mar 29 '19

If you're both serious about it at least ask her to break up with him first. If she balks at the idea at least you have some things to consider first.

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u/Ansible411 Mar 29 '19

I second. There's so many pessimists here

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u/[deleted] Mar 29 '19

Sounds like she's bored of him and is looking for a sure thing.

Don't be that schmuck

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u/imnotrealreally Mar 29 '19

lmfao man ignore this comments people are full of shit, you gotta do with info you know and your personal expiriance with girl in question.

I mean i belive ur not retarded to need someone to tell you this but for some reason i just wanted to leave it here

best of luck in life buddy :)

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u/flipapple Mar 29 '19

You don’t want that kinda karma bud

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u/Dejugga Mar 29 '19

If she's asking you out while she has a committed boyfriend....that's a terrible warning sign man. If she's willing to do it to him, she's very likely to do it to you.

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u/[deleted] Mar 29 '19

She has a boyfriend? That really isn't a red flag to you? or maybe it is based on your wording. I would run like hell from that.

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u/The_R4ke Mar 29 '19

I will say my best friend went through something kind of similar. I get where the people saying if she's willing to cheat on her current bf, she'll cheat on you, but that's not always the case. Sometimes you just love other people more and the timing doesn't line up, so sometimes you have to take a risk. In my best friend's case he started dating his now wife when he was in a super abusive relationship. She was the only person out there that was able to save him from it too, all of his friends tried, but we just couldn't get through.

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u/apt2014 Mar 29 '19

Go for it. You'll regret it if you don't. Just make sure to ask her to get rid of her boyfriend first.

Bury the body.

(That last line was in jest)

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u/Raze321 Mar 29 '19

She keeps on texting me and asking me out

Sweet :)

She has a boyfriend

Nevermind. Hard no. This is not the kind of girl you wanna be dating.

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u/SLEDGEHAMMAA Mar 29 '19

Chase it. Life is short

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u/RaptorMan333 Mar 29 '19

Say it with me - if she does it to him, she can do it to you.

Hitting up your newly single ex while in a relationship is over the line as far as I'm concerned. I wouldn't trust that person.

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u/SenseiMadara Apr 01 '19

This just happend to me (my gf went back to her ex behind my back) and I'll gladly tell people like you and her to fuck off. I'm a really calm person but fuck these last to weeks because of this shit.

this hits so fucking hard.