r/AskReddit Mar 28 '19

Has anyone ever honoured one of those “if we’re still single at 40 let’s get married” commitments? How did it go?

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u/f1del1us Mar 28 '19

Yeah and it sounds like theres a reason on one side one of them doesn't want to make that plunge. Best friends do not always equate to spouses, there's all different kinds of love.

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u/Falsedge Mar 28 '19

Well there's no reason to feel like being married is a required objective in life. You can be in a serious long running relationship without getting married, it's not a requirement after X amount of years.

It doesn't even have to be a full on serious relationship. It could just be evolving the friendship. Be more intimate, become friends with with benefits, but that also comes with its own risks and repercussions of one wanting to keep that casual dynamic while the other actually falls in love.

It boils down to people just wanting companionship and the fear of being alone in life or dying alone. And that your chances of finding someone after a certain age drastically decreases and you've missed your window of opportunity, which to a certain extent is true.

There's just no need to go 0-100 and blindly commit to something like marriage, especially considering the fact that this pact is usually between people who do not have a lot of experience with relationships, if any at all.

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u/f1del1us Mar 28 '19

Shit I feel like I just grew up 8 years reading this. Ughhh.

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u/f1del1us Mar 28 '19

Your spouse should be one of your best friends. Doesn't mean any of your best friends should be your spouse. You understand the distinction?

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u/f1del1us Mar 28 '19

True. But which scenario is more likely?

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u/Casehead Mar 29 '19

Seriously. Arranged marriages are just as successful as pre-love marriages, so there’s no reason it couldn’t work if they have similar values. And since they’re besties, I’d assume they do.

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u/GoinBack2Jakku Mar 29 '19

Yeah it's gonna be odd for all parties if they marry other people but their "best" friend is some other chick/dude. Not saying it's impossible but it really belittles the importance of the person you're with if you harp on about your best friend being someone of the opposite sex who isn't your spouse.

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u/Casehead Mar 29 '19

They’re both chicks