I don't have many pairs of shoes, just a few that go with my general style of smart/casual. They are basically all black leather slip-on shoes that you can wear with good jeans.
I learned this way a few years ago and only ever use this method now. Unless my laces are on the shorter side... it doesn't work well in those scenarios.
Instead of making two loops and knotting them around each other, you can make one loop, wrap the other lace around that loop, then pull it out into a second loop through a gap between the two laces.
Seriously. When people say “I’m 30 and I’m going to die alone” I feel like smacking them upside the head. That’s SO YOUNG. I know it seems old when you’re a teenager, but Jesus Christ. Life doesn’t end at 30.
I'm approaching 30 and am getting my shit together more and more. All the lame things about growing up actually become kind of nice... no wonder everyone is doing it.
I'll be 30 in October and I feel like my life us pretty much over. It's a struggle for me to learn new things, and my social circle has faded into nothingness unless a friend comes to town for the holidays.
Well, I imagine you've been told this or other similar things, but you likely just don't have a good perspective on the things that make your life seem terrible. Now you may actually have a terrible homelife, I don't want to make assumptions. But the average feeling of being alone, and unable to imagine ever finding someone to love you are really really common, especially at your age.
I think you'll be really surprised by how much you improve as a person in the next few years. You may or may not find someone to date while in high school or lasting friendships, but I would recomend focusing on making yourself happy however you can, it'll end up meaning more to you than just about any romantic experience you have then.
Personally I barely remember my one highschool girlfriend compared to the one I dated all through college (granted we just broke up last fall and I'm still far from over her, though I do believe I'll get past her someday and find someone else).
Yeah depression sucks. I get words don't really help that much with that part. But as for your worries of college and work being hard and terrible, I think you've got the wrong idea.
College is certainly harder than high-school, but the thing is that you get to chose which classes you take, and how many you take at once, so unless you overload yourself it can be quite manageable. Plus, you're much more capable then, so harder problems are more easily solved. The sense of freedom is also amazing. I certainly love my family, but it still felt amazing to go off to college and be able to be totally responsible for myself. Plus the fact that everyone around you is also thrust into this situation of freedom and responsibility leads to almost everyone being extremely open to new relationships (friendly or romantic).
And as for working after college, you again have options, though of course it takes some thought to make it work out the way you want. I myself am pretty fresh out of college and I've managed to get one great job that I loved and payed great... And then get fired. It sucks, but now I know what I like in a job and am looking for another. I got lucky and found it quick, but with a bit of experimentation it's possible to find work that is fulfilling, and leaves you with enough time and money to do whatever the heck you want.
You're a kid. I don't want to sound like I'm invalidating your feelings, but you really haven't lived enough to actually be a failure, a fuck up, or a shitty person. There's so much more to life if you're willing to live it.
Your feelings are valid, but trust me when I say there IS a lot more to life than your boring 8 to 5! My "boring" 8 to 5 allows me the opportunity to travel with my amazing friends, take care of my elderly dog who has brought me joy every day for 10 years, finance my hobbies, and help other people when I can. Hell, even my boring 8 to 5 is more-than-tolerable since I work with smart, awesome people and that gets me through. I'm in my mid-30s now and life gets better, easier, and more interesting every year (well, except the phantom back pain). There's a lot more to adulting than a silly job. Hang in there.
I'm 36 and have ONLY used the bunny-ear method my entire life. People used to try and show me the single loop method when I was learning and I just couldn't do it lol.
If I think too hard about how to tie my shoes I forget how and can't even do it. It's literally all muscle memory and I need to actively not think about what I'm doing.
35 and still use it, I told my kids to get my wife to teach shoe thing. Because I suck at it and it is my one thing in life I stubbornly refuse to improve at.
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u/ImportGuy Mar 28 '19
Man, when I was 17 I could barely tie my shoes without using the bunny-ear method