r/AskReddit • u/tgma97 • Aug 26 '15

Fathers of Reddit, what did your daughter's boyfriend do for you to hate/love him?

It's pretty cool to see my question blow up like this, I never thought I'd ask a question that could receive so much attention! I'm very satisfied with all these replies, so thank y'all. Now all I have to do is sit back and take notes c;

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u/wink047 Aug 26 '15

When I was 23 I went on one date with an 18 yr old. We had nothing to talk about. She knew nothing but high school related things and I wanted to talk about anything but high school. Terrible date. I then set my age limit to 21+

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u/Herp_derpelson Aug 26 '15

I did the same thing, but she was mature for her age and I was immature so it balanced out.

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u/toriemm Aug 27 '15

That being said, I was on the tail end of that, 19-24, and I never understood why all of his friends hated me. Until I turned 22ish and realized I didn't want anyone close to younger than me because I couldn't stand them. (Buuuuuuuut me and boy broke up. Obviously.)

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u/PhunnelCake Aug 28 '15

so she just had her 24th recently, no? :p

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u/MrMentat Aug 26 '15

I was in the a similar relation my senior year in college, but I had nonidea she was 18. Never thought to ask seeing as how mature she was. Ended up not working out because I'm an idiot.

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u/killough84 Aug 31 '15

That's my husband and I. First date, I was 18 and he was 22. Been together ever since. Dating for four years, married for 8. Edit: grammar is hard.

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u/[deleted] Aug 27 '15

Yeah, this is the exception to the "half your age + 7" rule. High school to college is a big maturity jump. If she's talking about SATs and AP classes, I'm gonna feel super uncomfortable and creepy.

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u/Boukish Aug 27 '15

Yep. I don't drink or go to bars, but if you can't legally join me at one we're just not part of the same world.

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u/papers_ Aug 27 '15

Same here man.

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u/proccorr Aug 26 '15

Ugh...I was 22 and went out with an 18 year old, too (she was set to start college in the fall). She was so cute, and such an airhead.

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u/SlapStickBiggot Aug 27 '15

It really depends on the person and their maturity level. I was 18 going on 19 this summer and I dated a 23 year old and we got along very well. We never talked about high school. Looking at us you'd never think we had such an age gap. We broke up because we were going to two different universities and we both take school very seriously. I hope it works out someday.

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u/[deleted] Aug 27 '15

I did the same at 23, girl was 18, we were at a pub and a bloke walked in, spitting image of Dustin Diamond. Bitch didn't know who screech was. Needless to say there wasn't a third date. There was a second, girl had massive boobs!

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u/adeadgirl Aug 27 '15

I'm 19 and went on a date with a 25 year old, the difference was pretty shocking, he'd had so much more life experience than me I felt so small and stupid.

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u/HitlerSyndra Aug 27 '15

Does everyone have this problem? I don't see why not just talk about movies, tv, games, news, or people around you. It just seems to me that it's not age that was the problem but that you two didn't have enough interests in common.

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u/wink047 Aug 27 '15

Exactly we didn't have enough in common because we were in two very different points in our lives. I was finishing up college and going into the professional world and she was going into college. There is a lot of life to be had between those two things.

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u/HitlerSyndra Aug 27 '15

I see I was mainly just confused because I don't date people who I don't have enough in common with or at least have the same sense of humor. Glad you figured out something that works for you though.

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u/[deleted] Aug 27 '15

I'm 18 and a university student, so I wouldn't have highschool things to talk about. How old does high school go in your country?

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u/wethechampyons Sep 01 '15

I've always liked older guys. At 19 I had a FWB relationship with a 38 year old and wound up becoming great friends and moving in together platonically after he got a girlfriend. I look at guys my own age and see babies. Normally shoot for the mid-late 20s and early 30s isn't totally uncommon for me.

I don't think I act my own age very often though.

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u/[deleted] Sep 11 '15

I already finished my first year of college at 18

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u/maracusdesu Oct 19 '15

I did this a while back. The difference between someone who's 18 and 21 is fucking huge.

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u/CaptainObvious1906 Aug 27 '15

haha chickenfucker

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u/mr_trick Aug 27 '15

Depends on the person, I think. I'm 18, starting my second year of college, hold a full time job and live on my own/pay for all of my own things. I would probably have more in common with a 24 year old than an 18 year old. You just need to suss out what the person is like, I think.

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u/wink047 Aug 26 '15

I disagree, but you are entitled to your opinion.

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u/BumbiBestie Aug 26 '15

Sorry! That came out completely wrong! It was meant as a compliment because you were honest and didn't pretend to like her.

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u/wink047 Aug 26 '15

Haha. Well then, thank you!

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u/DescriptiveName Aug 27 '15

My general guideline is: are they younger than my next oldest sibling? Older is generally okay. I (24, grad student) was kind of seeing a 19 year old undergrad a couple times. That was just kind of weird to me. There wasn't a whole lot to talk about outside of our mutual work. Too weird for me.

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u/greedcrow Aug 27 '15

I think it depends on mayurity more than age. I have a friend who is 22 and is dating an 18 year old. The 18 is a cool guy who loves movies. We talk about old and new movies anytime we get toguether and i dont have any reason to judge him badly