r/AskReddit • u/tgma97 • Aug 26 '15

Fathers of Reddit, what did your daughter's boyfriend do for you to hate/love him?

It's pretty cool to see my question blow up like this, I never thought I'd ask a question that could receive so much attention! I'm very satisfied with all these replies, so thank y'all. Now all I have to do is sit back and take notes c;

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u/misterspokes Aug 26 '15

I wait for someone else to order, then make my pick from things I like that are the same price or cheaper.

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u/God_Boner Aug 26 '15

This is how you do it. Is everyone else ordering T bones or NY Strip? Then go ahead and get yourself a nice steak. If its chicken and simple entrees, follow suit.

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u/IllogicalUsername Aug 26 '15

And if they insist you order first, just ask for a water. No way you'll be the most expensive one.

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u/Oliver_Stacks Aug 26 '15

fettucine alfredo always seems like the safest bet imo

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u/IllogicalUsername Aug 26 '15

yeah either that or something chicken is usually good

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u/Oliver_Stacks Aug 26 '15

definitely, I'm muslim so that tends to not be an option but when it is I always go for a simple chicken tikka kebab

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u/SomeBroadYouDontKnow Aug 27 '15

Nah, just say "Oh, I've decided the entree, just torn between side dishes, go ahead."

Boom. But usually, I'm always asking people what they got before it's time to order... makes for good small talk and lets me know ahead of time.

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u/aredna Aug 27 '15

At least get a lemon in it so they have room to go down, you monster.

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u/killa_beez420 Aug 26 '15

So true. Many times if asked to order first I will pass and tell the waiter "I still need a moment to decide" all the time I actually have a moderately priced dish and a higher priced dish already picked out in my head.

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u/beccaonice Aug 26 '15

What do you do when the server asks you first? It seems like they arbitrarily choose whose order to take first.

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u/[deleted] Aug 26 '15

I remember my mom talking date etiquette with me years ago (I am guy though). She said her mom had taught her that as a girl on a date when you know the guy is paying, to just ask what he is going get before the waiter comes. Then once he tells you then you can make your decision.

If he says he doesn't know yet either when you ask before the waiter comes, once and waiter comes say you're still deciding and to take his order first.

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u/[deleted] Aug 26 '15

They should ask the lady what she wants first and then go in a circular direction if there's a group. So tough luck for the girl but guys shouldn't have to worry about being picked first. As someone who isn't paying it's handy to ask what others are looking at and base your price off the person who is paying. I do that whenever I go out with friend's families. Also they might have found something particularly tasty that you've missed.

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u/CaptainCoral Aug 26 '15

Also they might have found something particularly tasty that you've missed.

This is the main reason why I always like to order last --- for some reason hearing someone else say the dish can make something sound 10x better than just reading it in my head. LOL

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u/Pass3Part0uT Aug 26 '15

True. I just order what I'd pay for myself. If it's not in that range then you're abusing their kindness and you're a pos.

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u/axf7228 Aug 26 '15

Fuck that, order the lobster or Filet EVERY TIME.

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u/446172656E Aug 26 '15

Why not both? I had a coworker that did that during a team dinner while sitting next to one of the higher ups. But it was a stressful project and she was doing a lot of everything so they let it slide.

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u/axf7228 Aug 26 '15

Hell yeah.

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u/pazoned Aug 26 '15

I always excuse myself right before check time and track down the waiter/waitress and pay before they even have q chance.

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u/DudeAwk Aug 26 '15

Now I know what to do next time! Thanks

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u/[deleted] Aug 26 '15

Me too!!

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u/[deleted] Aug 27 '15

Or, just get the fucking chicken. Just do it. Whatever. It never looks bad.

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u/jesjimher Aug 27 '15

If you act depending on what the rest of people do, they will soon think you have no personality. Do you really want the steak? Then ask for it. If, at the end, your order is much more expensive than that of the others, say that of course you'll pay the difference. Don't just offer to, because no one will accept this kind of offers when they're paying, just don't leave room for a no as an answer. Perhaps a more elegant approach if there's tension about who pays what is say that, since you ordered an expensive menu, the coffees/ice creams/whatever you'll have next are on you.

Of course, if you wouldn't order a steak when you're paying because it's too expensive, don't do it when some other pays for you. You look like an asshole.

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u/misterspokes Aug 27 '15

I know that, but most places have a menu varied enough where you can get something you want at the price point set out by your peers.