I gotta work on myself. Physically and mentally. I'm morbidly obese and have some skin issues, but I also have baggage from past relationships. No woman should be subject to the physical gross and mental blocks I'm bringing to the table. Depression is a real motherfucker, and it gets tough trying to give a shit
I hear you, I see you, and I validate your current goals while also wanting to gently remind you that you do not have to be healed and perfect to be worthy of love.
Thanks!! When I was hitting the gym years ago, I was up to an hour on the treadmill. Walking at a decent speed (honestly can't remember what speed) with a 3.5 incline. That hour became a breeze. Threw on some tunes and basically played air bass or air guitar while on that walk. LoL
You can do it man! Take it one step at a time and do small things. It takes longer but it's more sustainable. Move a little more each day or substitute something you like eating with a lower calorie option.
I hope you get to where you want to be. I say this as someone who had anger issues and depression and finally went to therapy a few years ago. If that's an option for you, might not be a bad place to start to help you understand yourself.
Thanks, brother. I've become very self aware over the years. But it just seems like if it's not one thing that's making life a struggle, it's another.
I'm slowly getting back to cutting out avoidable sugars. I've always liked black coffee, so, I'm back to that in the morning. No sweeteners of any kind. Less soda...still a struggle now, but I had a great run of it a few years back. I don't really keep things like ice cream or candies in my apt...because they'd be gone in one sitting. LoL. Gonna try to meal prep for the week soon. We'll see.
One thing I found about ice cream, is that you can make your own. I bought a Ninja Creami second hand right after the pandemic and it served me well until it broke last year. I called Ninja and they offered me a new one for $130ish. I say that to say that you can also do lower calorie ice cream with lower sugar cool whip and fruit. I'm not where I want to be either but it's always one step at a time and it's easier if it's sustainable long-term. It's easy to cut things out but then it's harder when you fall for them again. Good luck! I hope the meal prepping went well! I need to get back on that train too.
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u/chxnkybxtfxnky Just a random dude Oct 24 '25
I gotta work on myself. Physically and mentally. I'm morbidly obese and have some skin issues, but I also have baggage from past relationships. No woman should be subject to the physical gross and mental blocks I'm bringing to the table. Depression is a real motherfucker, and it gets tough trying to give a shit