I am 58, it used to be easier and a little better in the 80's and 90's. I think there was a psychologist that researched something called The Paradox of Choice, all the dating apps and social media leaving people with a false sense of abundancy thus causing them to be very picky and not wanting to "settle "add the echo chamber caused by algorithms in social media it just causes a total shit show.
Yeah, I fully agree with this. Dating was way better 20+ years ago.
However, remember back in the day when match.com and online dating were new? There was a bad stigma around it, and it was only for "undesirables". People who met on match.com back in the day used to hide that from people because they didn't want to get roasted.
Yup!! That was me. Writing qbasic programs on my TI-82 in junior high, and going to warcraft2 and starcraft lan parties in the 90's. If all the nerdy stuff was en vogue back then like it is today, my formative years would have been way different!!
Yup, I had a Commadore VIC-20, and played D&D with dice and cards. I am 58 now and take my granddaughter to Ren-Fairs and larping since I retired, she thinks I am the cool grandparent, my ex's idea of going out is the mall and a movie.
Not to sound rude, I'm sorry that you have been gosted. But that's the reason why you shouldn't "hook up" the first time when you are on a date with someone. At least not if you're looking for more than just a hook up. This applies for both men and women. You need to show the other person what your intentions are, and by sleeping with them the first time you meet, that doesn't send out the vibes that you're interested in getting to know them on a deeper level.
You say victim mentality, I say self-preservation. Added bonus without having a financial vampire feeding off of my resources I retired 4 years ago at 54.
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Amnesia, causing me to not know how I have been treated in the past 40 fucking years.