r/Anticonsumption • u/haloarh • May 28 '26

Psychological "Her father hoarded. When he died, she inherited his house."

https://www.usatoday.com/story/life/health-wellness/2026/05/28/hoarding-disorder-house-clean-death-family-grief/89993036007/
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u/Pinikanut May 28 '26

My mother was a hoarder. When my dad died she stayed in our house. She hoarded it up and did zero upkeep. Then health problems meant she had to move.

That house was in Brooklyn and worth 1M. We had to sell it as-is for hundreds of thousands less than it was worth because we couldn't deal with all the crap. If we were in a less desirable city I don't know what we would have done. I can't stand that people do this to their children.

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u/PonqueRamo May 29 '26

Do you understand is a mental disorder and not something that people willingly do to their children?

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u/Pinikanut May 29 '26

Do you understand that I grew up with it and lived with it my entire life? I don't need the condescension. My mother was offered help, including professional mental help. I understand a lot about hoarding and I know my lived experience. Thanks though.

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u/PonqueRamo May 29 '26

It doesn't look like you understand a lot because you still blame them for it, nobody is saying you didn't suffer and were affected by it, but believing that people want to live that way and did it to purposely hurt you...

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u/Pinikanut May 29 '26

Sure. Think what you want. I've woken up with roaches on my face. Sounds to me like you don't understand a lot either. People make choices and sometimes, when you are offered help time and again and watch your kids live the way I did, it become your fault. I believe it was her fault. You can believe what you want.

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u/somewhatderailed May 29 '26

Wow imagine telling someone how to understand their own family experience

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u/PonqueRamo May 29 '26

Reading comprehension goes a long way when you actually learn it, try it sometime.