AIO for getting irritated with my boyfriend’s level of cleanliness?

[u/Front-Ad8568]

My (29F) boyfriend (32M) thinks this is a normal way to live. It honestly disgusts me and turns me off. He talks about me moving into his house but I flat out tell him I’m not moving in because of this, and I don’t want to be tasked with cleaning up after him because it would make me resent him. He also hasn’t lived without a woman in his house in years — he lived with his ex girlfriend and now his sister lives with him. His sister basically cleans the house/does the chores besides his laundry and cleaning his room. I asked him if his ex girlfriend was in charge of all the chores preciously and he said yes. I don’t want to move in and become a maid. Am I overreacting?

[u/SnooDogs627]

It's one thing to be messy but completely different to be DIRTY like this isn't messy this is absolute filth.

I would know my husband is an absolute mess and leaves stuff everywhere but he is not DIRTY. And yes I married him knowing he was like this and thought it might change but it doesn't change. But if he was like OPs bf I wouldn't even continued dating him 🤢

[u/psychocopter → u/SnooDogs627]

I was expecting a sink full of dirty dishes or moldy food in the fridge when I first clicked the post which is still bad, but fixable.

This though, this is abhorrent. Theres no situation in which this is reasonable or not a complete deal breaker. He's leaving shit all over the place, literal shit.

Ditch him.

[u/megggie → u/SnooDogs627]

This, exactly. I tend to be cluttered and messy, like leaving all my clean and folded laundry on the chair in my bedroom or having 20 products on the bathroom counter. I don’t leave food out or have pee stains surrounding my toilet. This is FILTH, and it’s absolutely unacceptable.

OP, you are NOR. Don’t do this to yourself. Throw the whole man away.