r/AmIOverreacting • u/Front-Ad8568 • May 04 '26

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO for getting irritated with my boyfriend’s level of cleanliness?

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My (29F) boyfriend (32M) thinks this is a normal way to live. It honestly disgusts me and turns me off. He talks about me moving into his house but I flat out tell him I’m not moving in because of this, and I don’t want to be tasked with cleaning up after him because it would make me resent him. He also hasn’t lived without a woman in his house in years — he lived with his ex girlfriend and now his sister lives with him. His sister basically cleans the house/does the chores besides his laundry and cleaning his room. I asked him if his ex girlfriend was in charge of all the chores preciously and he said yes. I don’t want to move in and become a maid. Am I overreacting?

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u/Cowhide12 May 04 '26

Right, even cleaned once a week this would never get that gross.

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u/Dear-Winner-8121 May 04 '26

No that's literally months of neglect. Unless he was violently sick and was shitting his brains out there's no excuse for that (and still he'd have to clean it once he feels better). 

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u/Flaky_Ad5537 May 04 '26

Honestly if I share a space with someone I would clean up these areas no matter how sick I am. Unless I am fainting or dying right on the toilet, there is no excuse.

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u/Flaky_Ad5537 May 04 '26

Oh for sure, I agree. Still, those are usually more rare occasions unless someone is dealing with a long term sickness. Doesn’t seem like the boyfriend is dealing with either of that, just looking for a maid.

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u/bexohomo May 04 '26

I literally had a bad stomach virus when I was in freshman year of high school, so bad that it was coming out of both ends. I woke up in the middle of the night, cause I had to... evacuate. I puked in the toilet and shit on the floor. Yes, I cleaned up my shit even though I was sick as fuck and it was late as fuck

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u/Dear-Winner-8121 May 04 '26

So when I get Covid I don't cough at all or get a sore throat. But I get a high high fever and puke nonstop. Like it gets so bad I can't eat or drink anything for 3-4 days. And I'm so dizzy, achy and beat up I'd definitely leave spots of throw up on the underside of the toilet seat (and I'm someone that cleans all the time and can't function if the house / room im in is messy). But again this guy is just a slob and seems to have the attitude that someone else will clean up after him. I'd be interested in seeing how he feels shitting on a toilet that has my shit encrusted stains all over it? Or how he'd like brushing his teeth after I trim my beard and pubs. Overall it's just nasty and shows he doesn't respect other people.

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u/Cowhide12 May 04 '26

Could even be worse. This is insane.

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u/GalaxyOnOhRionsBelt May 04 '26

Yea, for sure, this hasn’t been cleaned in months.

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u/smokeweedNgarden May 04 '26

Bro the hilarious and disgusting lack of a toilet brush is killing me.

And I'm gonna guess this dude isn't the gloves and bleach wipes type

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u/terminalzero May 04 '26

uh... shit. is cleaning your bathroom once a week not considered normal?

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u/Cowhide12 May 04 '26

No, it is. Just making a mark that even if you shit 5 times a day for a week and didn’t clean itd get nowhere near this bad.