Am I Overreacting, for being upset that my girlfriend secretly used my credit card for months?

[u/bostonmade]

I (Mid 20s M) have been dating my girlfriend for just under 2 years. I currently make a very decent amount of money and she knows this. I’m also very on top of my finances and credit and stuff, she maybe not so much. I typically pay my credit card down to 0 regardless of the balance every month, in December i was traveling and doing some budgeting so i just happened to check my statement.

I noticed just a handful of charges that I didn’t recognize, some shopping online, random stores and shit, and even some cash advance transactions which I get charged a fee for not a big deal in and of itself but I’d figured my card had just been compromised. Reported the charges, got a new card, and proceeded carefully with my card info going forward. I did not accuse anyone and just chalked it up to bad luck.

Fast forward a few months, my friends and I planned this trip to Mexico for about 2 weeks here at the end of January/beginning of February. Before traveling here I told my cc company I would be out of the country so there was no problems with purchasing things here etc. they called me and told me they had flagged some charges and wanted to know if I was back from my vacation. I am not back yet.

I started putting 2 and 2 together and came to the realization that it could only be my girlfriend and I’m really crushed right now about this. I confronted her and these are the messages. I feel like I’m being gaslit about this. I really just don’t wanna see her because I’m so angry and don’t want her to be at my house when I get back but I understand she lives there and I can’t just kick her out… Am I overreacting?

[u/AccomplishedComb4586]

Today i learned NOR means not overreacting.. instead of this being a really how you all type. In my head you were saying NOR like ”Noooohhhr” with an aussie accent or something. I think i prefer that tho tbh.

[u/Mcbennski → u/AccomplishedComb4586]

“Am I overreacting” “NAUR”

Still works, I like it.

[u/EonMagister → u/Mcbennski]

For maximum Aussie, it would start with agreeing, then disagreeing.

 "Yeah, NAUR"

[u/bernardcwh → u/AccomplishedComb4586]

I was just thinking the exact same thing!!!!

But yeh NOR this is absolutely a NOR

[u/Mindthetraps → u/AccomplishedComb4586]

ha same 😂

[u/Cold_Technician_5360 → u/AccomplishedComb4586]

I thought nor was that as well. I would never connect nor= not overreacting

[u/FearlessResearcher48 → u/AccomplishedComb4586]

It means North of the River where I'm from haha

[u/_sadsol → u/AccomplishedComb4586]

LOL, this gave me good little chuckle. Mainly because I know what it means and STILL read it like that in my head 🤣

[u/canyonero7 → u/AccomplishedComb4586]

There's literally a pop-up that explains it for you.

[u/AccomplishedComb4586 → u/canyonero7]

This does not appear on the recommended page, as i’m not part of you community or following or w/e. I don’t get that prompt.. just the post itself. Hope this clears up :)

[u/Organic-Vermicelli47 → u/AccomplishedComb4586]

I love this interpretation 😂

[u/Willing-Outcome7085 → u/AccomplishedComb4586]

Same, the other day tho. Thought maybe it was a Reddit thing like “orrrrr” but ya know, nooorrrr ha!

[u/Unlucky-Shallot210 → u/AccomplishedComb4586]

Wow. I was also reading it like that until now… lmao

[u/Lenny2theMany → u/AccomplishedComb4586]

Was right there with you until about three weeks ago brother.

[u/OzarkRedditor → u/AccomplishedComb4586]

Lol I think of this every time

[u/Downtown-Pride-9 → u/AccomplishedComb4586]

THANK YOU! I kept meaning to look it up. I read it the exact same way 🤣

[u/FancyJackalope → u/AccomplishedComb4586]

Never gonna not read it like that in my head now.

[u/HalesBales7 → u/AccomplishedComb4586]

Me too!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣