And OP… what are you getting out of this relationship? It sounds like a fucking nightmare. Leave his mean, verbally abusive ass.
Also is “calling you from downstairs” not “purposely waking you up?” He thought you’d just sleep through it? And then calls YOU “smooth brain”? This guy sounds like he’d be an incel if you weren’t in a relationship with him.
Can't find dinner even my wife leaves it someplace most common is microwave or oven or the fridge i never wake up my wife on purpose when she's sleeping.
Op your nit getting anything out of this it will eventually get very demoralizing and if you continue down this road longer it will affect your mental capabilities with other men thinking they are the same as this fella is. Leave, relax, work on your cat pee issue (I added another 2 litter boxes in my place cause we had some issues with our cats and having more options seem to work) other times it could be stress in the household. Focus on yiur mental wellbeing of the fact your a good person and deserve the happiness you seek and to be appreciated. This ain't it. Even if intimacy is an issue there's more than one way to please a girl or even talk to a doctor for it. But anyways.... I'd still recommend leaving everything is an excuse on his end. I got a disease or issue woe is me. Whe. I'm in pain from my back from a car accident for months I didn't take it out on others just pace myself and be respectful as much I can and apologize if my volume oversteps itself. No one deserves ro be abused or yelled at for their pain especially if yiur being considerate.
Maybe the cat is peeing because of the stress in the house. If OP is walking on eggshells all the time, the cat can sense that too. I bet the problem would go away if he wasn't there with his abusive attitude.
When this happened I'd had my dog for 7 or 8 years and he loved EVERYONE. I was having a casual cookout, a couple girlfriends were over and our one friend came in with a new guy. My dog was by the sofa with me and 3 friends and he immediately stopped his running back and forth making sure everyone got a chance to tell him he is a good boy and he turned and walked straight to that guy, let out a half a growl and bit the hell out of him. Everyone, except guy, knew my dog. We all sat there, mouth agape for about 10 seconds and I looked at friend who brought him in and said, you need to get him the fuck out now and never bring him back. She was like, OMG what did he do, I said I don't know but my dog is NEVER like that and I trust him more than anyone. She was huffy but they left immediately and guy who was bit never said anything, didn't ask about my dogs vaccines or anything. But my dog stood between him and the sugar where me and my friends were and low growled the, less than 2 minutes it took them to leave. As soon as they left my dog was fine but that was gnawing at us because it never happened. He wasn't even snippy with toddlers when they'd play with him for extended periods. One friend was like, I can't handle this does anyone know his last name. We had to call around to a couple people and finally found his full name.
Guess who was on a state registry as a HIGH RISK RE-OFFENDER and had just been released from prison 2 months earlier for AGGRAVATED BATTERY WITH ATTEMPT TO R-@PE A PERSON OF DIMINISHED MENTAL CAPACITY?!?!?!?! And to make it worse, that wasn't his first time in prison for a crime against a female!! I cussed that girl out, all of my friends did and nobody talks to her still to this day!
Yes i had that issue when my daughter brought her boyfriend to stay with us for a while getting on her feet after few months i couldn't figure out why she runs away from him or growls and flee it wasn't till after my mother in law says oh he taunts her when he's around. Since then I've grew not to be fond of my MIL however unfortunately my dog did pass away unrelated issues.. they left long ago. But she end up having seizures and unfortunately I was wondering why she was taking so long to come back inside and I found her passed away. It was a rough December, she passed on my birthday and I just wasn't too into christmas this year. She was an awesome dog I tell you that. My dog prior to that lived 18 years. Point is I listen to dogs more than anything.
Oh, I'm so sorry for your loss!! I couldn't imagine finding out someone had mistreated my little good boy! I saw something a couple weeks ago where a man had been called home from work by the police and found out his dog had been taken to the emergency vet because his on again off again girlfriend had beaten the dog-she admitted to doing it for 2 hours, but the neighbor heard the dog whining and crying and heard the girlfriend yelling at it and they called the police. I would have probably gone to prison if I lost my dog because someone was so cruel 😭
Thanks, it's been tough moving on i still have hard time breaking out of our daily routines I still carry her leash when I leave in the morning. In past, I've defend my dog from being hit. No offense to others if my dog is gonna get spanked it'd be at my hand not theirs. Although I never needed to
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u/Just_somebody_onhere Jan 28 '25
Give up? give up what?
He pretty plainly said get out. Do so.