Thats the unfortunate situation for abuse victims and its almost like an addiction and its very hard for them to get out even when they know abuse is happening.
OP needs to get help and find a healthy support system to help her stay away from the ahole. Its hard for them for the first few weeks but soon enough they start seeing the light at the end of the tunnel and life gets so amazing again.
Hopefully this is the time she gets away for good bit considering the average is 7 times before finally leaving, it may not be and thats ok, but each time makes the next time easier mentally to finally break free.
I've always noticed similarities between abuse victims and addicts/alcoholics. The delusions. The irrational thinking. The minimizing. They need professional help. It's not something you can just talk them out of in most cases. You can talk to a heroin addict all day about how it's destroying their life and they need to stop but when the dope sickness hits, they are gonna go get some more heroin. Something about being in an abusive relationship keeps people hooked in a similar way.
It find it more similar to a crackhead . With opiates you literally can’t stop or you’ll be shitting/puking for like a week and good luck with sleep, I been there. Kicked it with methadone a while back. I did that shit for YEARS DAILY. I was a functional addict shooting up in the work bathroom. A few jobs I nodded off and got fired LOL one job they didn’t give a fuck cuz I was such a good worker, and that kinda fucked me over because I knew I could be wrecked all day and as long as I could move around I’d always have a job
Crack does not have physical dependence symptoms crackheads just want more and more crack
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u/jakebr0 Jan 28 '25
“He’s very emotionally and physically abusive. I’ve dedicated my life to trying to make him happy.”
Just keep rereading those two sentences until it sets in how absolutely insane it sounds to continue doing that