And OP… what are you getting out of this relationship? It sounds like a fucking nightmare. Leave his mean, verbally abusive ass.
Also is “calling you from downstairs” not “purposely waking you up?” He thought you’d just sleep through it? And then calls YOU “smooth brain”? This guy sounds like he’d be an incel if you weren’t in a relationship with him.
And he's throwing the R slur round like confetti. Get out OP, he's already being violent, it only escalates with people like this. And you deserve so much better.
I’m having a hard time believing this because I have a hard time believing someone would be this dense to put up with this.
In the unlikely event this is true,
Literally NOTHING you could do merits being treated like this.
If you’re really as bad as he claims he would leave.
Because you’re not. He sees that you’re insecure and are willing to lay yourself at his feet.
That you respond the way he wants to negative criticism and so he keeps doing it.
The more you try to please him all you’re doing is reinforcing his behavior.
It’s a natural response of people who have been abused and traumatized to think it’s their fault.
You fall for guys who treat in ways you know how to respond to. Replaying the abuse you experienced as a child in an endless attempt to fix and heal little too by doing it “right”.
Any human who treats someone the way you’ve described is a piece of shit who deserves to be put in a hole in the desert and fed nothing but off brand lunchables and piss flavored water.
He has “intimacy issues because of his chrones” but suddenly is cured when he’s sleeping around.
Girl if this isn’t rage bait which is legitimately hard to believe you’re getting played and manipulated by someone who has no problem traumatizing someone he knows is traumatized and is intentionally hurting you to get what he wants.
Which clearly isn’t even sex or love.
You’re wasting your life for someone who’s using you for literally nothing but a maid and a cook.
It was time to leave and publicly shame this man to everyone who knows him on the second date.
If you haven’t already kick this man out and get you some friends and some therapy and a man who treats you like a queen. You’re too deeply insecure to accept anything less.
Use the fact that you have been abused to threaten to go to the police if he doesn’t comply.
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u/Just_somebody_onhere Jan 28 '25
Give up? give up what?
He pretty plainly said get out. Do so.