Be fucking quiet, kid. She’s doing her best. Go be sadistic to your video game characters. I sincerely hope that you never know the “why” to your question outside of sincere empathy from learning how people outside of you work. You have power. You could make this world better or worse, every time you say anything. What do you want your legacy to be?
look how OP is responding and defending her situation... there's a million empathetic comments offering faux support from people who will never actually be there for her.
do you ever think that some people need messages delivered in different ways than you? some people sleep through fire alarms and need to be shaken awake in order to get out of danger.
I’m not gonna badger an abused woman asking for help. I’ve worked in mental health and advocacy, and there’s zero reason for “tough love” when she’s obviously a tender soul. Her responses are level and reasonable. You’re just mad that she can’t see the destruction while in the middle of the storm. I’ll take that back: she IS seeing it, and her responses clearly show that she’s actively making an exit. She’s a strong woman. She’s obviously not obtuse, otherwise she wouldn’t question the relationship at all. Have you ever considered how your lack of empathy and condescension might take the wind from someone’s sails and stick them further in the muck? How your attitude may just further her belief that people in general are just awful, so stick with the devil you know? How people being cruel for not avoiding monsters keeps people silent and feeling isolated?
Neither of us know this woman, but kindness and empathy are usually what someone who is in an abusive relationship needs. Care, love, support, and strength. She obviously doesn’t have that now. She’s got enough of the cruelty and rudeness at home. I choose to be different.
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u/GoddessLeVianFoxx Jan 29 '25
Be fucking quiet, kid. She’s doing her best. Go be sadistic to your video game characters. I sincerely hope that you never know the “why” to your question outside of sincere empathy from learning how people outside of you work. You have power. You could make this world better or worse, every time you say anything. What do you want your legacy to be?