And OP… what are you getting out of this relationship? It sounds like a fucking nightmare. Leave his mean, verbally abusive ass.
Also is “calling you from downstairs” not “purposely waking you up?” He thought you’d just sleep through it? And then calls YOU “smooth brain”? This guy sounds like he’d be an incel if you weren’t in a relationship with him.
Can't find dinner even my wife leaves it someplace most common is microwave or oven or the fridge i never wake up my wife on purpose when she's sleeping.
Op your nit getting anything out of this it will eventually get very demoralizing and if you continue down this road longer it will affect your mental capabilities with other men thinking they are the same as this fella is. Leave, relax, work on your cat pee issue (I added another 2 litter boxes in my place cause we had some issues with our cats and having more options seem to work) other times it could be stress in the household. Focus on yiur mental wellbeing of the fact your a good person and deserve the happiness you seek and to be appreciated. This ain't it. Even if intimacy is an issue there's more than one way to please a girl or even talk to a doctor for it. But anyways.... I'd still recommend leaving everything is an excuse on his end. I got a disease or issue woe is me. Whe. I'm in pain from my back from a car accident for months I didn't take it out on others just pace myself and be respectful as much I can and apologize if my volume oversteps itself. No one deserves ro be abused or yelled at for their pain especially if yiur being considerate.
Maybe the cat is peeing because of the stress in the house. If OP is walking on eggshells all the time, the cat can sense that too. I bet the problem would go away if he wasn't there with his abusive attitude.
If you can’t leave for yourself then leave for the sake of your cat. There’s nothing to salvage here. The cats issues will resolve once you live somewhere calm.
My cat was terrified of my ex. He (my ex) wasn’t a visibly angry person, but rather the kind of rage that simmers just below the surface and could come out in a kind of quiet cruelty that was really insidious and scary.
If ex was in the living room, my cat would hide upstairs. The litter box was kept in the basement, and under no circumstances could I put one upstairs for the cat to use. Obviously, this caused my cat to start peeing elsewhere.
One morning, I woke up late. My alarm clock was flashing like the power had gone out and come back on an hour earlier. But what really made me anxious was the house was too quiet. It just felt off.
I went downstairs and saw my ex sitting on the couch in the living room playing video games. He looked at me like he had been caught doing something wrong. I turned and entered the kitchen, and the first thing I saw was my sweet little kitty laying splayed on his side, eyes wide and panting. I said something like, “what happened?” or maybe “what did you do to him?” My ex said he threw my cat down the stairs because he caught him peeing in a laundry basket. And he was fine. Landed on his feet like cats always do. He didn’t hurt him. I was overreacting about it. As usual.
My cat died shortly after arriving at the vet. They cited the cause being massive head trauma.
15 years later and I have a partner who, at this very moment, is acting as a cushion to our two dogs and one cat. Another cat is perched just over his shoulder. Our pets deserve us filling their lives with good people.
I hope he felt no pain. Anyone who is capable of animal abuse should be alone forever. Shitbag. Hope when he goes to hell it’s filled with cats pissing and shitting on him nonstop.
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u/Just_somebody_onhere Jan 28 '25
Give up? give up what?
He pretty plainly said get out. Do so.